USA not a popular destination among RW, why?

[alex330]

Such a decision should be determined early in the dating process.  I liked one UW, yet she expressed concern about sun and heat.  My suggestion of wearing a hat and using sunscreen did not ease her anxiety.    

If either of our wives had an issue with the sun or heat we would be in trouble 


Yes, these are early discovery questions you would ask each other that are very telling. Certain answers would be an easy decision to move on to someone else who was more compatible.

[Trenchcoat]

I would personally be very leery of a partner that was more interested in a specific location versus the person. I would take a walk if I heard that. But everyone is different.

Depends how it is meant I think, if it was a pre-made decision like I say about visiting the major airport cities of the FSU nearest to me then it is not so bad. So if I go to SPB and meet a girl where there is chemistry for example then the location was already chosen before knowing her, but if I met a girl in some outlying area of FSU where there was chemistry then turning to her and bringing up the location as an issue would be wrong I think.

Same for if a girl just messaged online with UK guys as they were nearer or had in her profile she just wanted to meet UK guys, fair enough as she hasn't been in communication with guys from other areas then decided she just wants to continue communication with the guys from the UK.

Same could go for LA for warm weather, etc. so long as the person is genuinely looking for love and not just entry into the country.

My thinking is that theoretically there are going to be quite a number of girls in any area where there is chemistry to a certain guy. Maybe small in comparison the the overall number of girls in the area/city but theoretically you could have a number of matches in a lot of places in the FSU is my thought, not just trying to find 'the one' through a search of a large expanse of the FSU. 

[Trenchcoat]

Such a decision should be determined early in the dating process.  I liked one UW, yet she expressed concern about sun and heat.  My suggestion of wearing a hat and using sunscreen did not ease her anxiety.

OTOH, my wife was reluctant to leave Russia for a man she did not feel true love.  "Much like" was not enough.     She now kicks herself in the popka for not coming sooner.  I remind her that her adjustment as well as our adjustment to each other was difficult, and without love we may not have had the commitment to make it work.   

I think this is very right. A definite chemistry between two people will pave the way itself despite other issues. One where there is a 'like/much like' like the girl I met earlier in the year then it all becomes like you're doing work to move the relationship on. Magnetic chemistry will pull every time I think so as long as a connection is made in the first instance. That is what I am aiming for in my next outing. I'm not interested in being tied to anyone for a length of time where there is no chemistry now, its just too frustrating and irritating for me. If I'm with anyone I want it to be someone there is chemistry with so I'm not feeling like I'm having to convince her to join me in my endeavours but have her willingly pushing for it in a genuine way.

[2tallbill]

I think this is very right. A definite chemistry between two people will pave the way itself despite other issues. One where there is a 'like/much like' like the girl I met earlier in the year then it all becomes like you're doing work to move the relationship on. Magnetic chemistry will pull every time I think so as long as a connection is made in the first instance. That is what I am aiming for in my next outing. I'm not interested in being tied to anyone for a length of time where there is no chemistry now, its just too frustrating and irritating for me. If I'm with anyone I want it to be someone there is chemistry with so I'm not feeling like I'm having to convince her to join me in my endeavours but have her willingly pushing for it in a genuine way.

You want a girl who loves you at least as much as you love her.
Most of all you don't want an unequal relationship, that's a recipe for disaster. 

I am crazy in love with my wife, but she loves me even more.

[ML]

Most of all you don't want an unequal relationship, that's a recipe for disaster. 

I am crazy in love with my wife, but she loves me even more.

But Big Bill, you just described an unequal relationship.

[2tallbill]

But Big Bill, you just described an unequal relationship.

Yes, I did.   

How many of these Western Men/FSUW relationships ended because the Western
man decided to he wanted to get rid of his FSU girl and trade up?

How many of these WM/FSUW relationships fell apart because the guy was or became 
high maintenance?

How many men got married to a girl who had red or yellow flags simply because
he had so much time, effort, money and emotions invested?

There are plenty of men who came into this with serious character faults, control issues,
OCD, Mommy issues, trust issues, etc. You and I can't fix or help with advice. They need
extensive professional help and they are totally unsuited to pursue FSUW.

The guys we can help are those who get off on the wrong foot, or want to get off
on the right foot. Many of those guys haven't dated women as hot as they will find
in the FSU. How many guys who have been out of the dating market for years get
led around by the nose by a hottie?

In my opinion:
You don't want to be upside down with a car loan, a house loan or in a relationship.
If the woman is less excited about you than you are of about her, then you are
upside down and that's where you run into high maintenance, trade up types, etc.


Udachi!   

Bill