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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #75 on: January 24, 2019, 11:48:59 AM »
Just touching on the few that mention the obsessive compulsiveness for cleanliness. OH YES! In fact, that is one of the things I miss. All my clothes were perfectly ironed, house was always spotless, garden was perfect, dinner table was a 5 star restaurant. Whenever we sold a house, the RE Agents would ask what service staged and cleaned the home. They couldn't believe it was one person

Like Krimster said, they get it from their mothers. In fact my wife would call twice a week with her report card on all that was done

Sure. Living in a typical 500 SF apartments resided by at least 2 generations with of 4-5 persons, and FWIW, in a country with not much to do. But that's true anywhere. The barometer of this oxymoronic view is, all one have to do is take stroll on an average neighborhood and look around you and tell me how 'clean' they really are - collectively as a society.

I remember looking over the river in St Petersburg by Hermitage and embedded along the mud-covered banks are strewn with litter, bottles and garbage. No different than Pasig river in Manila and in many places in 3rd world countries. In the US, such sights can be found in places like the ghettos.
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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #76 on: January 24, 2019, 12:00:56 PM »
Boethius  interestingly the 3 Ukrainians I met had their own apartments.  The 5 Belarusians were back at their mothers apartments in minsk. 

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #77 on: January 24, 2019, 12:09:00 PM »
But that doesn't mean all women move back to their mothers.  It could be that the apartment belonged to the husband, or that it's bigger, and the women don't have access to their own apartments.

My SIL moved back in with my in laws when she left her alcoholic husband.  It wasn't out of choice.

This post was composed without the aid of google.
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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #78 on: January 24, 2019, 01:05:32 PM »
One of the problems is funding of medical conferences in the Ukraine as doctors can no longer fly in from russia

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #79 on: January 24, 2019, 01:25:03 PM »
dewd,

don’t fall for her demure demeanor
the modest, shy girl routine

she went to Ukraine to score just like WE DID, horrosho, ponelle?

jeez, clever girl, I imagine that her only other potential partners were goofy Canadian farm boys, eh?  and we all know there a buncha beer swillin hosers!!!




oh NO BO!!!  you said her name a second time!!!!!

I beg you, please do not repeat it again, you know what will happen if you say HER name a THIRD time, it has been foretold by the prophets in all the old legends!!!!! 
crap! where's my talisman?


 

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #80 on: January 24, 2019, 01:42:00 PM »
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Now, the FSUW who posts here occasionally who is definitely a feminist is ******- she is a native of Minsk, and absolutely brilliant.  She built a career in the West, and has children.  She also has posted she has a cleaning lady, because she hates cleaning.

I will not speak of the canine monikered one who's name must not be uttered.

But this is further proof that all RW/UW are not the same.

My experience is that most of them are very interested in working and a well-paying career, if for no other reason that they value independence and helping their family both in the West and FSU.

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #81 on: January 24, 2019, 01:51:24 PM »
So...

Either FSUW are gorgeous pinups who are hard-working, maternal, traditional, cooks, cleans, wears skimpy lingerie at home, dress to the 10's when going out, and service their boyfriends/husbands 24/7.

Or...

They are actual women. 

RevenR,

It seems you have a strong desire to see if the grass is greener on the other side, no matter our opinions. So, as some have suggested, instead of looking for a wife or long term partner on-line make a plan to go over there long term.  Decide on a date one, two, or more years from now and work on saving as much as you can.  Minimize your expenses now. 

Pick a country and a homebase city and do some research on it.  Maybe meet people online as friends to have someone to visit.   Enroll in a university there to learn the language, teach english, or just travel.  Take cheap flights to other countries.  Arts festival in Avignon, the Fringe festival in Edinburgh, San Fermin and La Tomatina in Spain, go surfboarding in Baleal Portugal, beach party with college kids in Corfu or Ios Greece, skiing/paragliding/white water rafting/canyoneering in Interlaken Switzerland...

There are so many things to do and explore.

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #82 on: January 24, 2019, 02:04:55 PM »
Its the first of Steve's versions

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #83 on: January 24, 2019, 02:25:26 PM »
Don't know how my UW is classified.

She is willing to do virtually 100% of the work both inside and outside the house.
(She has virtually unlimited energy and good spirits.)
She even insists on trying to split firewood.

She is quite driven to succeed academically and professionally, and doesn't want to rely on anyone to take care of her.

She refuses to even consider just staying home as a housewife, even as she does everything that a 100% housewife would do.  She does allow me to put laundry in washer and dryer; but if she catches me trying to cook something (except for my special sexy meals which she thinks are super wonderful), do some ironing, make up the bed, etc., . . . she quickly intervenes.

She does not hate or envy men and does not feel that she has suffered personally or professionally  from men.

She has an excellent relationship with her own father and with men relatives and family friends, male faculty, etc.

She quite welcomes any compliment from men; yet does not dress or act in an extreme manner to try to elicit such.  Except she does dress to look quite stunning when she is with me for 'protection.'

Just recently while walking up the stairs (she never uses elevators) at University, an older professor noted that was probably how she kept her shape.  Many women would immediately file a complaint.

When she views feminist actions, statements, etc., on TV . . . she is astounded and thinks they are idiots.
A beautiful woman is pleasant to look at, but it is easier to live with a pleasant acting one.

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New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #84 on: January 25, 2019, 02:31:26 PM »
Don't know how my UW is classified.

Luckily for everyone, I am here to answer that.
What you have is: A Good Girl (see below for more)

You found an excellent woman who is a match for you and your personality
as did I. Eastern Europe has many excellent women, the question for the newbies
is how to find them, how to identify them and what to do when you do.

My answer for the first of my questions is that you have to kiss a lot of f#cking frogs to
find the princess.

Your UW is classified as: A Good Girl

Furthermore she is/has:
1. Mutual chemistry, you are hot for each others bones
2. A personality fit for you, she might drive someone else nuts
but she is a fit for you.


That's the gold standard, the dream, the quest, what drives us to get on a plane.
What you want newbies is a good girl. Reject 100% of all girls who are not good
girls. Then you look for mutual chemistry and a personality fit. OR if you meet
many you first find mutual chemistry while always making sure that she is a
good girl. Then you find out if you are a personality match.

That's my two kopecks,

Bill
« Last Edit: January 25, 2019, 02:44:17 PM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Just kiss the girl, don't ask her first. Tolerate NO excuses!

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #85 on: January 25, 2019, 02:55:42 PM »
"but you could ask pitbull,"

no, no, I beg you, don't mention her name or she'll.....

That made me laugh a bit.

Our Pitbull can occasionally react aggressively, but if asked an honest question,
she will generally give you her honest answer. If you ask disrespectfully or
demeaningly or it's a really stupid question, then you find out why her
nickname isn't Fluffy rainbow sunshine girl, which is probably too long
for a moniker anyway.

« Last Edit: January 25, 2019, 02:59:27 PM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Just kiss the girl, don't ask her first. Tolerate NO excuses!

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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #86 on: February 13, 2019, 09:25:46 PM »
Luckily for everyone, I am here to answer that.
What you have is: A Good Girl (see below for more)

You found an excellent woman who is a match for you and your personality
as did I. Eastern Europe has many excellent women, the question for the newbies
is how to find them, how to identify them and what to do when you do.

My answer for the first of my questions is that you have to kiss a lot of f#cking frogs to
find the princess.

Your UW is classified as: A Good Girl

Furthermore she is/has:
1. Mutual chemistry, you are hot for each others bones
2. A personality fit for you, she might drive someone else nuts
but she is a fit for you.


That's the gold standard, the dream, the quest, what drives us to get on a plane.
What you want newbies is a good girl. Reject 100% of all girls who are not good
girls. Then you look for mutual chemistry and a personality fit. OR if you meet
many you first find mutual chemistry while always making sure that she is a
good girl. Then you find out if you are a personality match.

That's my two kopecks,

Bill

Thanks Big Bill.
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Re: New guy here! Stumbled upon you all by accident
« Reply #87 on: February 13, 2019, 11:43:32 PM »

She quite welcomes any compliment from men; yet does not dress or act in an extreme manner to try to elicit such. 

SC says that prefers compliments from ladies and says she has always dressed to please herself....))

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« Reply #88 on: February 23, 2019, 02:37:59 PM »
She was neither fastidiously messy or tidy - her friend - from another city was v.tidy. 

I agree,

The cool thing about women from the FSU is that there is EVERYTHING.

There are girls who can play 7 different instruments and sing like a an Angel
and then there are girls who cause the neighbors dog to cry when they sing
along to a song on MTV and couldn't play the tambourine. 

There are girls who are top flight mathematicians that do stochastic processes
in their heads and then there are girls who have to take off their shoes to count
to 20.

There are girls who can cook gourmet meals out of scraps found in your refrigerator
and their are girls who use the smoke alarm as a food timer. There are girls who would
never dream of taking something from others and there are girls who will happily harvest
your organs for a new pair of boots. 

Can you make some generalities? Probably, but you will find plenty of exceptions if you look. 

My advice for the guys who aren't married is to figure out what you want, then find a girl
like that and above all find a girl who is honest and sincere.

« Last Edit: February 23, 2019, 02:45:21 PM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Just kiss the girl, don't ask her first. Tolerate NO excuses!

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« Reply #89 on: August 09, 2024, 11:56:47 AM »
And all fairness, what is the success rate of this endeavor / the realistic idea of it? Is it a
dream for most that will never come true? Or am I just wasting my time.

Each person must decide what success means to them. A few guys from the olden days
married an FSUW then lived with her until they died. Others have had heartbreaking
experiences. Some are totally clueless. More than one guy went to the FSU for one
trip for one week to meet one woman, proposed at the end of that week and lived
happily ever after (that rarely happens).


Most of you are probably in Europe I'm assuming, so it seems much easier for you guys to travel there. Versus me being all the way here in the US.

We have a smattering of members here from around the world.
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Just kiss the girl, don't ask her first. Tolerate NO excuses!

 

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