How "private" should private messages be?

[KenC]

[user=130]Son of Clyde[/user] wrote:

Yes, some are vulgar and insulting and it is why they should remain private.

Real life is not always a pretty place.

So it OK to say it, as long as others don't know?  I wouldn't turn my back on you in public.  Pretty gutless, if you ask me.  If I am going to insult someone, I would rather do it to their face. 

KenC

[Michelangelo]

Yes, some are vulgar and insulting and it is why they should remain private.

Real life is not always a pretty place.

So it OK to say it, as long as others don't know?

KenC
[/quote]Hmmm....Ken-I have the total opposite take on this....interesting.  To me, it is better to speak in private with a person rather than to post it in public.  Better for everyone else, too...I get tired of reading insults that people post in public.  Much better to talk directly with the person and keep it all private.  That is what a PM is for...

[Rvrwind]

Rvrwind wrote:

Thats a tough call Ken. I can see where your going with it though. In my opinion if someone has to attack me in a PM & hasn't the guts to do it on the board it merely shows his/her lack of character. It reminds me of a guy who wants to fight you but waits till you turn your back before he throws the punch, typical coward.

I live by the golden rule that states never say anything about anyone behind their back that you would be afraid to say to their face or in public.

For you Micheal I revive my past post;)

RVR

Canadian Cowboy

[Michelangelo]

Thats a tough call Ken. I can see where your going with it though. In my opinion if someone has to attack me in a PM & hasn't the guts to do it on the board it merely shows his/her lack of character. It reminds me of a guy who wants to fight you but waits till you turn your back before he throws the punch, typical coward.

I live by the golden rule that states never say anythingabout anyone behind their back that you would be afraid to say to their face or in public.

For you Micheal I revive my past post;)
[/quote]AH, I see.  But I am talking a bigger view of what a PM is.  It is not an attack, but it could be.  It might be a question you ask someone or confidential information you share.

[Rvrwind]

AH, I see. But I am talking a bigger view of what a PM is. It is not an attack, but it could be. It might be a question you ask someone or confidential information you share.

There's the rub, Micheal.

I agree with you but if you read from the biging of the thread it was specifically pointed at attacks in PMs not personal info.

Well Iagree that any personal info in a PM should remain personal I am undecided as to whether or not I should share with everybody if I am attacked in a pm. Its a tough call & I would have to give it much thought & consider the circumstances in each individual case before making a decision to share it with the board or not.

RVR

Canadian Cowboy

[Photo Guy]

Ok, I am on my way to Tver....I'll take the 5'2" blond with green eyes--English or no English

I wrote to a very hot babe (21) in Tver for a couple of months. Many of our emails were about the huge age difference. She saw that I wasn't taking her very seriously. After awhile I asked her if she spoke of me to her parents, who were younger than me. Her reaction was embarrassment, and 'No'.  I never heard from her again. She quit the agency. She was a very perky Aries with long blond hair. She was obsessed with me or the fantasy or whatever.

On topic: PM's should be confidential and not quoted and probably not referenced.

[jb]

I guess I shouldn't mention that we old married guys use the PM feature to make side bets on how long it will take the nwebies to crash and burn.  Or which ones are being scammed. :cool:

[Michelangelo]

I guess I shouldn't mention that we old married guys use the PM feature to make side bets on how long it will take the nwebies to crash and burn.  Or which ones are being scammed. :cool:

Please, please, please keep those comments private ))

[ConnerVT]

I guess I shouldn't mention that we old married guys use the PM feature to make side bets on how long it will take the nwebies to crash and burn. Or which ones are being scammed. :cool:

Aw, c'mon jb.  That was top secret information.  Now we'll have to kill you...

[BC]

damm.. do I have to declare this as income now?

[Shadow]

now that it is in the open....how are my odds ? I might know some guys who want to place a bet

[Rvrwind]

I guess I shouldn't mention that we old married guys use the PM feature to make side bets on how long it will take the nwebies to crash and burn. Or which ones are being scammed. :cool:

Aw, c'mon jb.  That was top secret information.  Now we'll have to kill you...

Jb you keep spillin' the beans & I am going to have to find a new hobby:D

RVR

Canadian Cowboy

[Son of Clyde]

I guess I shouldn't mention that we old married guys use the PM feature to make side bets on how long it will take the nwebies to crash and burn. Or which ones are being scammed. :cool:

That is, the old married guys who don't have a life.

[Rvrwind]

I guess I shouldn't mention that we old married guys use the PM feature to make side bets on how long it will take the nwebies to crash and burn. Or which ones are being scammed. :cool:

That is, the old married guys who don't have a life.

Makin' friends isn't your strong suit, is it Clyde?

RVR

Canadian Cowboy

[KenC]

Makin' friends isn't your strong suit, is it Clyde?

RVR

Canadian Cowboy
Oh, oh, you're gonna get one of Clyde's PM's now!:shock:

:D:D:D

KenC

[BC]

RVR,

If you do get one, PM it to me.. that's still private ain't it?.. Heck even on topic

LOL

[jb]

OMG~!  I never should have let that cat out of the bag.

[Rvrwind]

Oh, oh, you're gonna get one of Clyde's PM's now!

I was thinkin' that very thing as I posted it!;)

RVR,

If you do get one, PM it to me.. that's still private ain't it?.. Heck even on topic

 

LMAO, I just may do that.:shock:or post it to the board;)

OMG~! I never should have let that cat out of the bag.

 

Too late to stuff it back in now jb, all teeth, claws & attitude!!!:P

RVR

Canadian Cowboy

[Michelangelo]

LMAO, I just may do that.:shock:or post it to the board;)

I guess in Canada the English word PRIVATE means something different than it does in England or America...

To me, private means personal and not meant to be shared...

We have the board to post things for everyone to see.  PM means that the message is specific and JUST for the person you want to talk to... PRIVATE

[jb]

RVR had enough smiley icons sprinkled in there to let me know he was just teasin' about reposting a PM on the public board. However, the fact reamins, most people will remember a betrayed confidence for a very long time and the betrayer will never be trusted again.  Just how much would anyone like to become a social outcast is up to the individual.  

[KenC]

I guess in Canada the English word PRIVATE means something different than it does in England or America...

To me, private means personal and not meant to be shared...

We have the board to post things for everyone to see. PM means that the message is specific and JUST for the person you want to talk to... PRIVATE

And if the message is unwanted?  And the message is just a way to keep the sender's nasty image hidden?

KenC[/size][/font]

[KenC]

jb,

I will "honor" the privacy of the honorable men that send me PM's.  The snakes that use PM's for hidden agendas that are different from their "public" posts, will not be afforded such "honor".

KenC

[BC]

Ken,

IMHO Obnoxious PM's should probably be sent to Dan.. unless they are better off being forwarded around for laughs.

[jb]

I suspect Dan has already identified those who are the whiners and cry babies.  Forwarding to him those nasty PMs would probably not do much to improve his day.

I vote for circulating them among your friends for laughs.:cool:

[BC]

Yeah jb, got some good laughs here.. made my day