Her commenting on your physical appearance

[mendeleyev]

красивая, красивый, красивое.

Sometimes красивый can be understood as "nice" instead of beautiful/handsome.

[Aloe]

Post your picture, and i'll tell you what i think

[newjason]

Capricone : listen : you mustn't compliment women on her look, and especially if you haven't yet meet her. Only nice guys are doing this, they believed they are saying something special (on site or in the real life). As a result, a 9 girl, can hear more than 20 times (in real life) : "you are beautiful" in just one month. You start your first seconds of real or virtual meeting with a big tag "loser".
You are in the classical western loop where a lot of guys now are waiting to be validated by women. Am i attractive ? Tell me i am strong ? My d.... is big, isn't it ?
I would advice you, especially in FSU to clean  this type of mindset of your head.

 


But seriously Pat is right on with this.

[missAmeno]

Capricone : listen : you mustn't compliment women on her look, and especially if you haven't yet meet her. Only nice guys are doing this, they believed they are saying something special (on site or in the real life).

I disagree. Men should compliment women on the looks. Just dont over do it and you must really mean what you saying.

As a result, a 9 girl, can hear more than 20 times (in real life) : "you are beautiful" in just one month. You start your first seconds of real or virtual meeting with a big tag "loser".

In online dating, a 6 girl can hear more then 20 times "you are beautiful" in just one hour. If she is not delusional with reality, the guys who give too many compliments will undermine her trust to them. Compliments should be natural and original. Writing same compliments (aka "you are beautiful") as many other guys do is just the thing to sink your own boat. Not complimenting at all woman on her looks is mistake as well

You are in the classical western loop where a lot of guys now are waiting to be validated by women. Am i attractive ? Tell me i am strong ? My d.... is big, isn't it ?
I would advice you, especially in FSU to clean  this type of mindset of your head.

You hit the nail on the head here.

[missAmeno]

Now my curiosity is taking over 
Guys, what kind of compliments you like to receive from women and/or what kind of compliments could put you off? 

[mendeleyev]

My Dad taught his sons to compliment a gf/wife no less than 3x daily. He advised that only 1 of the 3 be based on appearance and the other 2 be based on what she means to your life, what she brings to family happiness and health, her talents and abilities etc.
 
It seems to work.
 
A genuine compliment can in some instances lessen the heat of an argument if she realizes that you are sincere.

[Muzh]

I have read the first page so far and it is giving me a good laugh; based on my experiences when I met my wife. Anyway, to answer the OP;

I should say lack of commenting. If a RW thought you looked cute or ugly in the photos you send them would they tell you? It's hard to get a vibe from this girl. This is just in the email stage and she is not an agency scammer. I comment on her looks but she doesn't reciprocate. Other than that she replies quickly and seems interested.
 

Her response to your physical appearance is directly proportional to the size of your wallet.

Now, to page two.

[Muzh]

Now my curiosity is taking over 
Guys, what kind of compliments you like to receive from women and/or what kind of compliments could put you off? 

I'll go with one of Pat's classical western loop. 

[newjason]

Now my curiosity is taking over 
Guys, what kind of compliments you like to receive from women and/or what kind of compliments could put you off? 

I respect compliments on or about my accomplishments, my attitude, morals, or on my talents, from men or women.

If you are a man and you are seeking compliments about your physical appearance, you best just ask only 1 woman about that. Your mother.

This brings to mind a friend of mine's mother, she is a very sweet woman and always has something nice to say to everyone.

On one occasion she was asked to comment on a woman's new born child, who might I add was less than attractive, and she said:    Oh, bless his little heart.

[Muzh]

If you are a man and you are seeking compliments about your physical appearance, you best just ask only 1 woman about that. Your mother.

Well in that case I'll ask mom to skip one of Pat's classic western loop. 

[newjason]

Well in that case I'll ask mom to skip one of Pat's classic western loop. 

LOL


To the OP:
You are expecting a compliment because you are giving one?
Does she give you any compliments at all, about anything?
Does she compliment about other people to you?

Just Curious.

[Shadow]

On one occasion she was asked to comment on a woman's new born child, who might I add was less than attractive, and she said:    Oh, bless his little heart.

That reminds me of a Dutch comedian who mentioned that if a baby looked ugly, you could always tell it seems to have a sweet character.

Five minutes later in a monologue of how his sister got married and had a child: This child had a sweet character, in fact the sweetest character I have ever seen....

[Kokopelli]

I should say lack of commenting. If a RW thought you looked cute or ugly in the photos you send them would they tell you? It's hard to get a vibe from this girl. This is just in the email stage and she is not an agency scammer. I comment on her looks but she doesn't reciprocate. Other than that she replies quickly and seems interested.
 

Good news or bads news, you decide.
Start at 1:50

[Gator]

My Dad taught his sons to compliment a gf/wife no less than 3x daily. He advised that only 1 of the 3 be based on appearance and the other 2 be based on what she means to your life, what she brings to family happiness and health, her talents and abilities etc.
 
It seems to work.

This reference suggests 5 compliments.  RW are easy.
 
 http://www.iamhusband.com/2008/04/compliment-to-criticism-ratio.html
 
 
In business climates I was taught that teams perform better if between peers there are three sincere compliments for every constructive criticism.  If a supervisor, the ratio is 10::1.
 
Of course this is for American society where we expect smiles and seek harmony.   Russians are strong.  They do not want sugar coating and they can deal with a shitstorm, as told to us by some RWD female members.   Also, IMO Russians stress perfection more than Americans (in Olympic Games a Silver Medal is for a loser).

[Gator]

Now my curiosity is taking over 
Guys, what kind of compliments you like to receive from women and/or what kind of compliments could put you off? 

Good question!   No one else tried, so I will.

TURN ON
 
A confident man needs no compliments, but if you can not restrain yourself, try these:
 
"What would I do without you!" goes a long way.   
 
"You make me laugh" is good, especially in the beginning.   
 
Good in bars at first meeting, "You are standing in a space reserved for good looking men, and you deserve to be there."   That works well with women dependent upon timing and delivery.
 
And my favorite, "You are so big" but I grow weary of that one.   
 
Personally and seriously, I appreciate most a woman looking long into my eyes and slowly forming a tender smile, and closing her eyes while leaning forward.

TURN OFF
 
"Size does not matter."
 
"Your bald spot does not show."
 
And any comment that is obviously loaded: "Whatever" (from women means f..ck you), "Don't bother, I can handle it," "Fine," etc.
 
 

[Daveman]

Well in that case I'll ask mom to skip one of Pat's classic western loop. 

 


Good idea.. Mom probably has a that typical Mama long term memory AND the bath photos...

[Vasilisa]

As for the people I know I compliment on everything: personal traits, achievements, look, etc.
I am not very good at complimenting on the strangers' features though as I never start small talks.

[AmericanBoy]

Man that reporter is smoking!!!!  Thats the exact type of girl I would want to marry if I was going for a russian girl....

Can a native or someone who knows russian well tell me what lapochka means? I tried to translate it and it didnt come up correctly.

[Doll]

 "lapochka"  could be "sweetie", "cuitie", etc. Very affectionate.

[Daveman]

Can a native or someone who knows russian well tell me what lapochka means?

It means you have something "little" in your "lap"...  try the sock trick!

[Doll]

It means you have something "little" in your "lap"...  try the sock trick!

In this word "lap" means "paw"

[CDW]

There is nothing wrong with giving compliments whether there are from men to women or women to men, regardless on looks, hair, what they are wearing, new clothes.  It is very healthy!

What I do not like is that women keep asking me something like "Do you find me attractive?"  when they did not mention nothing about me.  These women only love herself.   

These sort of women - I will eliminate

I also eliminate these women who keep on saying something like  "I am fat"  "I am ugly" etc

[Kokopelli]

"lapochka"  could be "sweetie", "cuitie", etc. Very affectionate.

Used mostly for a daughter? 
Differs from Девочка моя?

[Kokopelli]

Strangely, the comment I got quite a bit before during the first initial pic exchange was if I was an actor.

"You are actor?"

I didn't realized that cowboys and *indian* movies were popular in Russia...

My friend in Rostov likes cowboy movies.
So, I suggested "Blazing Saddles", he loved it. 
On the English Language learning site I posted a few topics about "Indians", I'm part Cherokee and Seminole. Of those interested, about 95% were Russian or Ukrainian.

[missAmeno]

There is nothing wrong with giving compliments whether there are from men to women or women to men, regardless on looks, hair, what they are wearing, new clothes.  It is very healthy!

What I do not like is that women keep asking me something like "Do you find me attractive?"  when they did not mention nothing about me.  These women only love herself.   

These sort of women - I will eliminate

I also eliminate these women who keep on saying something like  "I am fat"  "I am ugly" etc

Woman is a woman, man is a man. If you expect women to say "You are so cute" and "You are so attractive" then perhaps FSUW isnt for you. Nothing to do with selfishness. When we want something cute we get kitty (or лапочка  ) but when we look for man we want him to be strong, reliable and confident.