Trench's Questions and Philosophies

[msmob]

Sorry, Krimster ... have to concur with JG and Boethius on this one ...

NOT my experience ...

[Trenchcoat]

I agree. I don’t think Krims description of Slavic women is accurate. My wife, too, never shouts and is no lover of conflict.

The women I have met/seen so far in the FSU I think most probably don't shout that much unless the situation is real extreme perhaps. I don't think FSW are generally shouted which is a good thing but I do think their personality tends to lead to conflicts. They tend to take up a position on something then don't budge an inch. Hence why I say they are Arbitrary, pig headed, etc.

Though yes I get ghe impression they don't want/like conflict even though their nature tends to provoke conflict they seem oblivious to this.

[msmob]

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Always amusing to read Trench's 'thoughts' about FSU W - when he has SO little experience

[Nightwish]

The women I have met/seen so far in the FSU I think most probably don't shout that much unless the situation is real extreme perhaps. I don't think FSW are generally shouted which is a good thing but I do think their personality tends to lead to conflicts. They tend to take up a position on something then don't budge an inch. Hence why I say they are Arbitrary, pig headed, etc.

Though yes I get ghe impression they don't want/like conflict even though their nature tends to provoke conflict they seem oblivious to this.

Can I ask you a serious question, are you really here to learn more, to get some real insight in to what - dating, relationships, life - with an FSUW is about?

If you are, how come you only adhere to advice given by potheads, sex tourists, child groomers and other questionable personalities. 
Those who acknowledge your already misogynist views, prejudices and preconceptions. Those are the ones you take advice from and salute, but when you get real valuable insight and real advice, you throw it out the window and think you already knows best.

I am really curious why this is, maybe the ones pointing out there is a underlying psychological element to this is right, I don't know, I have no experience with it, but it's becoming quite clear to me anyway, you are only here to validate what you already think.

[John Gaunt]

The women I have met/seen so far in the FSU I think most probably don't shout that much unless the situation is real extreme perhaps. I don't think FSW are generally shouted which is a good thing but I do think their personality tends to lead to conflicts. They tend to take up a position on something then don't budge an inch. Hence why I say they are Arbitrary, pig headed, etc.

Though yes I get ghe impression they don't want/like conflict even though their nature tends to provoke conflict they seem oblivious to this.

I’m not talking about having a humdinger of a slagging match. Conflict can happen in many ways. The key thing is how you reach a resolution. In the dynamics of a relationship with FSUW, that understanding is crucial.

You don’t seem to grasp this. When you describe them as arbitrary, pig headed, etc, you are describing yourself.

[BdHvA]

On a number of occasions I wondered, even writing/asking, about the childhood of Trenchcoat. I have never seen a reply.

While I do not wish to play amateur psychologist there seem to a number of posts of Trenchcoat that point back to a defective childrearing effort. I suspect this is in fact why he is doomed in his quest.

[John Gaunt]

On a number of occasions I wondered, even writing/asking, about the childhood of Trenchcoat. I have never seen a reply.

While I do not wish to play amateur psychologist there seem to a number of posts of Trenchcoat that point back to a defective childrearing effort. I suspect this is in fact why he is doomed in his quest.

Trench doesn’t answer any question that points to his inadequacies. He knows he doesn’t really have an answer so avoidance is his safest option.

[krimster2]

"Sorry, Krimster ... have to concur with JG and Boethius on this one ...

NOT my experience ..."



however, IT IS mine!
it's an extension of what BO has already acknowledged, the innate stubbornness, just add a loud voice on top of it, VERY loud!
i'm glad you all have attenuated Russians, mine's hyperbolic...

 

[krimster2]

"You don’t seem to grasp this. When you describe them as arbitrary, pig headed, etc, you are describing yourself. "

you are right, I DON'T grasp this, plenty of others have acknowledged this innate stubborness, including BO, so I guess they don't either

[John Gaunt]

"You don’t seem to grasp this. When you describe them as arbitrary, pig headed, etc, you are describing yourself. "

you are right, I DON'T grasp this, plenty of others have acknowledged this innate stubborness, including BO, so I guess they don't either

Are you Trench?

[krimster2]

"Are you Trench? "

NO, I AM SPARTACUS

[krimster2]

gawsh and gozpedy!

you folks haz painted me to be some kind of mad beast
don’t get TOO close, I might bite ya, grrrrrrowl, ruff, ruff!
wish I recorded my wife interacting with her family in Krim
then you WOULD see what I’m talking about
what’s normal and acceptable for them
that “screeching" voice
would not be acceptable in “my culture” and not just by me personally
over 19 yr my wife has become acclimated to western culture and social norms
and behaves appropriately within that framework, she’s really grown into it
it’s more our kids being at risk and not ME from my wife’s hyperbolic outbursts
with just one notable exception, I haven’t triggered a major outburst from my wife in YEARS
our kids usually do it at least once a month
when possible, my oldest daughter or myself will attempt to de-escalate these outbursts
but sometimes attempting a calm conversation with a Russian woman, when they go “full slav”, as my oldest daughter calls it,  has the opposite effect, and it feels like you just dumped a gallon of “petrol” on the flames. there are times that I felt it necessary to intervene in my wife’s outbursts, and a “short, sharp” response from me is usually all it takes
ok...

[BdHvA]

gawsh and gozpedy!

you folks haz painted me to be some kind of mad beast
don’t get TOO close, I might bite ya, grrrrrrowl, ruff, ruff!
wish I recorded my wife interacting with her family in Krim
then you WOULD see what I’m talking about
what’s normal and acceptable for them
that “screeching" voice
would not be acceptable in “my culture” and not just by me personally
over 19 yr my wife has become acclimated to western culture and social norms
and behaves appropriately within that framework, she’s really grown into it
it’s more our kids being at risk and not ME from my wife’s hyperbolic outbursts
with just one notable exception, I haven’t triggered a major outburst from my wife in YEARS
our kids usually do it at least once a month
when possible, my oldest daughter or myself will attempt to de-escalate these outbursts
but sometimes attempting a calm conversation with a Russian woman, when they go “full slav”, as my oldest daughter calls it,  has the opposite effect, and it feels like you just dumped a gallon of “petrol” on the flames. there are times that I felt it necessary to intervene in my wife’s outbursts, and a “short, sharp” response from me is usually all it takes
ok...

You are portraying an extremely ugly and toxic relationship.

While therapy might aid Trenchcoat you need even more fundamental assistance.

Please seek assistance - your children deserve better than this.

[krimster2]

"You are portraying an extremely ugly and toxic relationship."

so my wife shouting at our kids to go clean their rooms, in what we (meaning children and me) consider to be a loud noxious tone  is "an extremely ugly and toxic relationship"
and so if it goes on for too long, and I decide to intervene by shouting at them "to knock it off" I'm a "mad beast"
if this is your standard in Holland, then i'm totally moving to Holland next year, I didn't know it was THAT great there!!!!

[msmob]

if this is your standard in Holland, then i'm totally moving to Holland next year, I didn't know it was THAT great there!!!!

You are as bad as BdHvA... with his 'English' Visa...Where do you go to get a Visa for 'Holland' ? 

 I know where to get one for The Netherlands  - of which Holland is a constituent part ...

[krimster2]

oh c'mon now... don't be Jay

[pitbull]

Sorry, Krimster ... have to concur with JG and Boethius on this one ...

NOT my experience ...

Same. Neither myself nor any of my slavic girlfriends are violent or get emotional outbursts.


I guess those you can expect if you marry a gopnik from FSU

[John Gaunt]

You are as bad as BdHvA... with his 'English' Visa...Where do you go to get a Visa for 'Holland' ? 

 I know where to get one for The Netherlands  - of which Holland is a constituent part ...

Stop nitpicking Msmob......

[krimster2]

"Same. Neither myself nor any of my slavic girlfriends are violent or get emotional outbursts."

never said my wife gets violent, she doesn't
if you or your druzya don't have emotional outbursts, especially during your hormonal cycle, I would be stunned
color me skeptical


"I guess those you can expect if you marry a gopnik from FSU"

is this what you tell YOUR husband?
too bad I can't hear his description of your complete and utter lack of emotional outbursts


color me skeptical, like how you lied about how you came to the USA, ok tovarisch?

[GQBlues]

LMAO! Holy circular firing squad party, Batman!

How many pages and threads must it take for the vast majority members of this discussion board to drive their point that they just don't like trenchcoat?

Do you guys do this in your actual lives? Follow a person around you don't like every chance you get just for the sheer chance to let him know you don't like him/something's wrong with him? It's almost like one derogatory post after another trying to outdo the previous...

Pretty darn strange really. I'm no longer sure who is more *unbalance* between TC or his detractors? Take a step back and realize, with all your declaration of all things wrong with the dude, he has single-handedly got (almost) the entire membership wrapped around his fingers. A shock jock if there ever was one.

[BillyB]

The most amusing thing in this thread for me is reading posts from people who can't catch a woman giving advice to Trench on how to improve himself to catch a woman.

[krimster2]

"every cripple does his dance"

[msmob]

How many pages and threads must it take for the vast majority members of this discussion board to drive their point that they just don't like trenchcoat?

Do you guys do this in your actual lives? Follow a person around you don't like every chance you get just for the sheer chance to let him know you don't like him/something's wrong with him? It's almost like one derogatory post after another trying to outdo the previous...

Pretty darn strange really. I'm no longer sure who is more *unbalance* between TC or his detractors? Take a step back and realize, with all your declaration of all things wrong with the dude, he has single-handedly got (almost) the entire membership wrapped around his fingers. A shock jock if there ever was one.

..and yet ...

here you are... offering 'advice' on our collective feelings

Trench's posts NEED to be countered least a new member believes his thoughts are 'gold' ...

[pitbull]

"Same. Neither myself nor any of my slavic girlfriends are violent or get emotional outbursts."

never said my wife gets violent, she doesn't
if you or your druzya don't have emotional outbursts, especially during your hormonal cycle, I would be stunned
color me skeptical


"I guess those you can expect if you marry a gopnik from FSU"

is this what you tell YOUR husband?
too bad I can't hear his description of your complete and utter lack of emotional outbursts


color me skeptical, like how you lied about how you came to the USA, ok tovarisch?

Nope, your wife exhibits typical FSU gopnik culture, both in your home and with her family. You yourself characterized as such.


I do not think "cycle" is an excuse to be emotionally and verbally abusive to those you love, and use logic and compromise for conflict resolution

[GQBlues]

..and yet ...

here you are... offering 'advice' on our collective feelings

Advice? It wasn't an 'advice'. It's an observation.

Trench's posts NEED to be countered least a new member believes his thoughts are 'gold' ...

LMAO! I always find this amusing...I often wondered how it is that men who have had multiple divorces would actually believe he's the authority in successful relationships/marriages. How does one 'counter' subjective instances in everyone's life?