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A dating advice service?
« on: May 10, 2017, 06:16:12 PM »
I was wondering if there is such a thing as a service that provides personal advice for someone that is dating a Ukrainian woman?  (or Russian)  As everyone here knows, things can get complicated or confusing sometimes.
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #1 on: May 10, 2017, 06:17:42 PM »
There are people who can help you.  Eduard, who posted today, is one such person.  What he may also be able to ascertain, coming from the culture, is the woman's sincerity.  However, if things are complicated, you've likely chosen the wrong woman.
« Last Edit: May 10, 2017, 07:12:42 PM by Boethius »
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #2 on: May 10, 2017, 07:23:47 PM »
I was wondering if there is such a thing as a service that provides personal advice for someone that is dating a Ukrainian woman?  (or Russian)  As everyone here knows, things can get complicated or confusing sometimes.

Why not try the collective here-- you can be sure opinions will be diverse !!
Also-  posts can generate pm's for private advice !
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 translated as: Glory to Ukraine! Glory to the heroes!!!  is a Ukrainian greeting slogan being used now all over Ukraine to signify support for a free independent Ukraine

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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #3 on: May 10, 2017, 07:41:13 PM »
Jay makes a great point, xiphoid.  If you ask about issues in a general way, you can get the collective wisdom of forum members, many of whom have probably experienced what you are going through, and you'll learn how they resolved those issues.
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After the fall of communism, the biggest mistake Boris Yeltsin's regime made was not to disband the KGB altogether. Instead it changed its name to the FSB and, to many observers, morphed into a gangster organisation, eventually headed by master criminal Vladimir Putin. - Gerard Batten

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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #4 on: May 10, 2017, 08:43:36 PM »
I was wondering if there is such a thing as a service that provides personal advice for someone that is dating a Ukrainian woman?  (or Russian)  As everyone here knows, things can get complicated or confusing sometimes.

There are services out there but keep in mind, if you're a quality man, you won't lose the girl.
Fund the audits, spread the word and educate people, write your politicians and other elected officials. Stay active in the fight to save our country. Over 220 generals and admirals say we are in a fight for our survival like no other time since 1776.

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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #5 on: May 10, 2017, 09:46:33 PM »
There is. I did get an email notification of the message you sent me, but when I looked for it in my mail on RWD it was deleted... plus I'm blocked by the admin and can't respond unless you send me your email. Alternatively you can contact me through my web site. Sadly some people can hold a grudge for a decade! 
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #6 on: May 10, 2017, 10:39:57 PM »
I can't stand you, Ed ! :))  Nice you see you posting

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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #7 on: May 11, 2017, 04:03:54 AM »
Thank you everyone. I’ll share a long curious story in brief. I suppose it no longer really matters now but I was wondering why a Ukrainian professional woman would communicate with me for so very long (at her pace) eventually warm up to me, become friendlier, more animated, and discuss when we can meet. A few phone calls too at my urging. We were unable to schedule meetings in the past due to our work schedules. She very much wanted to meet this May but I could not until June which I explained due to my job. During the past 2 weeks she is writing me every day – several times last Sunday, very friendly. After I told her the following day on Monday that I had set up vacation for June after she returns from work travel and that I also still had the possibility of visiting during the last week of May before her trip. She went silent. She was still visiting the website during this time of silence. I was thinking we really had something special going. Yesterday I wrote her again to see what happened but she remains silent – she read the letter – the website indicates that each letter was received and read. She seemed so normal, mature and nice. Fire to ice in 2 days. I'm baffled. Anyone else have a similar story? I think the idea of an advice service is a good one. I’m going to check it out for future use.
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #8 on: May 11, 2017, 04:27:05 AM »
Off the top of my head --are you aware this is /was a big holiday weekend?
I can add a dozen scenario's why she may not have been able to reply ( easily )
Without trying to cover everything -- she will have had some reason for her suggested timing of visit -do you know why?
Additionally -- very possible that  you are not the only one in contact and she is working her own agenda -- so don't get too precious over it all at this stage. :)

Are you aware of the number of  hours she is likely to be working each day and week?
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #9 on: May 11, 2017, 04:53:40 AM »
I was thinking we really had something special going.
I admit I haven't read your whole story.
Someone said and I agree "women are meant to be loved and not understood."
You can't have anything special going until after you met and decided you are exclusive. Dial down your expectations till that happens. In my experience, Ukrainian women are mysterious and hard to understand. They are conservative. She is keeping her options open. So should you.

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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #10 on: May 11, 2017, 05:17:02 AM »
I'm a little puzzled here. I wrote about the timing and that she reads my letters but does not reply. I know all about her work etc. Naturally everyone writes to multiple people but over time we narrow numbers down, I know and its not an issue. Just curious as to the big build up and then sudden silence. It seems I did not make myself very clear in my story. Sorry. But I'm also curious though as to what other scenarios could explain the sudden and intentional ignoring of my emails especially after discussing a meeting? We've been in contact a very long time. Its all in my story. As it is I'm not going now that she is ignoring me. Oh well. I'll just mark it up to human experience and drop it.
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #11 on: May 11, 2017, 09:30:09 AM »
Matey, sorry - but if she is reading your correspondence - but not responding  - move on - make a new plan

IF she is in to you - she would find a way to respond

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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #12 on: May 11, 2017, 04:42:45 PM »
She went silent. She was still visiting the website during this time of silence. I was thinking we really had something special going. Yesterday I wrote her again to see what happened but she remains silent – she read the letter – the website indicates that each letter was received and read. She seemed so normal, mature and nice. Fire to ice in 2 days. I'm baffled.


1) FSU women like men who can make things happen. Things may have not been happening fast enough.

2) Plans for meeting should not be made in a messaging system. You both should be off the site and using phone or video chat for communication.

3) You snooze, you lose. This could've happened as another man beat you. He may have aggressively pursued her and made concrete plans to visit her ASAP.

I'd move on. Continuing to contact her would give her the impression you're weak and desperate. Ignoring her may impress her.
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #13 on: May 12, 2017, 08:53:06 AM »
I'm a little puzzled here. I wrote about the timing and that she reads my letters but does not reply. I know all about her work etc. Naturally everyone writes to multiple people but over time we narrow numbers down, I know and its not an issue. Just curious as to the big build up and then sudden silence. It seems I did not make myself very clear in my story. Sorry. But I'm also curious though as to what other scenarios could explain the sudden and intentional ignoring of my emails especially after discussing a meeting? We've been in contact a very long time. Its all in my story. As it is I'm not going now that she is ignoring me. Oh well. I'll just mark it up to human experience and drop it.

From your description it doesn't seem to be any big mystery. You've been in contact a very long time. My first inclination is that she's found someone else and gone silent. I faintly remember your story and that was a long time ago. Next time act faster

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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #14 on: May 12, 2017, 09:13:43 AM »
The top five reasons that overseas relationships fail:

1.  Failure to get on a plane

2.  Failure to get on a plane

3.  Failure to get on a plane

4.  Failure to get on a plane

5.  Bad advice from Russian Women Discussion
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #15 on: May 12, 2017, 09:21:35 AM »


5.  Bad advice from Russian Women Discussion

Then please be specific to the 'bad advice' ?....

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« Reply #16 on: May 12, 2017, 12:04:27 PM »
Then please be specific to the 'bad advice' ?....

List would be MUCH shorter if listing the good advice.....
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #17 on: May 12, 2017, 12:14:53 PM »
List would be MUCH shorter if listing the good advice.....

Oh, that is too funny.  Was thinking the same thing.
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #18 on: May 12, 2017, 12:54:43 PM »
From your description it doesn't seem to be any big mystery. You've been in contact a very long time. My first inclination is that she's found someone else and gone silent. I faintly remember your story and that was a long time ago. Next time act faster


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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #19 on: May 12, 2017, 11:37:31 PM »
Oh, that is too funny.  Was thinking the same thing.

..and yet, you dodge my question as to 'bad' advice ... ?!

Why raise it and then 'go silent' .. 

I'm not 'trolling' ... There are plenty of guests and folks that would want to know your opinion - having raised it
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #20 on: May 15, 2017, 01:23:31 PM »

FP,


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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #21 on: May 16, 2017, 01:00:28 PM »
From your description it doesn't seem to be any big mystery. You've been in contact a very long time. My first inclination is that she's found someone else and gone silent. I faintly remember your story and that was a long time ago. Next time act faster

It really is fairly mesmerizing to witness how men seem befuddled by the very actions they (other MOBers) involve themselves in.
 
Yes, chances are someone else caught her fancy. Why not? Men do it all the time. We see and read it here on this board. Case in point, wasn't there one not too long ago who met/liked a Ukrainian, then met a Russian, then met a Belarussian shortly after that - then was confused on who to see, and when, and how - yadayadayada? This, despite the story line at how well they (individually) communicate....
 
Folks, yes, women do it, too. When they happen, men on this board trip over each other trying to pile up concocting misguided, if not undeserved, conclusion towards the gal/s.
 
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Re: A dating advice service?
« Reply #22 on: July 26, 2017, 10:20:29 AM »
His contact was thru an agency, seems a pay per letter one.
She likely is paid to write him andnothers, most never get on a plane.If it leads to that, and the guy might actually visit,they will be unavaible, or hard to schedule around their work.lol.
This reads like a
classic ppl agency girl.
  While she could have found a new guy , could be in the hospital, could have moved to Egypt, could just be shopping, he knows  she's reading his mail and login in to her agency site.

 Occurs razor, the simplest answer is usually  the right one.


The other options woukd be more realistic if they were not communicating thru a
 Ppl agency site.


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