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Starting Out / Re: New member seeking some guidance
« Last post by Trenchcoat on Today at 04:16:45 PM »
The Lazy Donkey

to a russian woman, a man is some kinda DONKEY...
selected for how much he can carry

and if you got a "bad back" or a lame leg
well, ya know what happens to those donkeys?
they're left for the coyotes

nature is a cruel bitch
and so are most wimmin, it's only natural...

ya want a woman?
it comes with a price
and most of ya'll are flat broke or will be in the future

Trench, you have "no advantage" in this game
what you have now is temporary
ya think yur holding a strong hand - I own a little house....
this is an illusion you cling to

you made the decision to live the way and where of yur life as it is
and when ya saw things weren't workin out, ya didn't try to change it, only complain...
fundamentally yur lazy, and a lazy donkey is gonna have "problems" with his 'owner'

because of being 'the way you are'
you have condemned yurself to a lifetime of mediocrity
just so you can live in comfortable familiar surroundings

you have no idea what it means to work yur ass off with an 80 hour work week, thousands of miles from home, year after year to try and get ahead just a little...
you're just 'treading water' and not goin in any direction mate, stop thinking that yur gonna reach some island swimmin that way

you never learned to discipline yurself Trench
never leaned how to force yurself to do hard, difficult things
you have no ambition
and yur expecting some kinda reward for this?

you coulda been a totally different person if you weren't such a "comfort seeker"
and tried livin outside yur "safe zone"

out of all the different possible people ya coulda been
you picked the easiest one to be

and you have one last chance to redeem yurself
and even though it's right in front of ya
yur too fookin blind to see it...

What do you mean it's right in front of me?

I have ambition and am working towards stuff but for me I'm no Software Engineer, I can't earn too money like that then springboard off it onto setting up businesses with big money to roll into it.

I have to work with what I've got and move in baby steps one step at a time. I'm getting there but it's going to take time. The UK is not the US, there is not a lot of big money here and those that have big money are usually born into it from traditionally very wealthy families. Most people in the UK earn crap all.

That said even the crap all wages compare well with earnings in countries like Ukraine. If I were to go there with my wealth I would go from a not so wealthy looking guy in the UK to a wealthy looking guy in Ukraine able to buy a flat around the City Centre of Kyiv. I wouldn't donate the moment though as it would be a gamble and if the Russians move in then that's a lot of money lost to me. At the moment I am better off building up my wealth here. I have a plan and I have ambition, but I realise that I also need to move carefully and not throw caution to the wind and take wild gambles that likely won't work out and leave me in the shit.

Few girls date homeless guys, at the moment I may not be topping out but I'm stable enough and doing ok wealth wise. That's a better place for a girl to be with than a homeless guy who chanced it too far or a girl who isn't in the best place herself in life for whatever reason. Some girls will have little loyalty for a guy and some will stick by the guy who she chooses. If a girl will drop a guy over very little it's better to find that out sooner and not fret about it in my book. Sometimes events play to giving someone a stronger hand than usual sometimes they may play against. Sometimes the guy does something to give himself a stronger hand or inadvertently does something that makes his hand weaker.

It can be random, even a guy who is wealthy can end up screwing it up if he gets a gold digger after his wealth. It can be quite random, sure I may not have the strongest hand but it doesn't mean that I might not do well enough all the same.

Some may see me as mediocre and I can see why they might think that but it's possible to move from mediocre to something more. It's also possible to move from mediocre to something less. The UK can be a difficult country and moving from mediocre to something less can happen to many a person. It's best to see that it does not happen to me, a job can always be lost, income cut and end up stuck in a rut, I know from past experience that is to be avoided at all cost. So setting myself up well enough to avoid that is what I need to do.
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Ukrainian Front Discussion / Re: The Struggle For Ukraine
« Last post by krimster2 on Today at 07:53:07 AM »
Ukraine's recent mobilization effort got a million ukrainians to "sign-up" willingly or not...
so they have man-power
what they don't have is enuff weapons...
cuz that's not under their control

that's the achilles heel of Ukraine
and where Putin will focus his efforts now in the short term
while resurrecting the Soviet Russian military industrial complex for the long term

already a bolshoi OKTOBER SURPRIZE is underway for the USA
this is Putin's "Pet Project"
he's transporting highly trained Islamic terrorists to Mexico so they can cross the border
and hehe, the terrorists are complaining about lack of water there
ain't 'signal intelligence' a hoot!!!

there are two groups,
the first group is the "probing" group
the second group are the "specialists"
their first mission is to TOTALLY DISRUPT the election in Nov
second mission is the American military-industrial complex

Putin knows how to leverage his oppertunism

asymmetrical hybrid warfare
first acts of physical sabotage already done in europe and the USA
America's next 9-11 will start with a 10-
the countdown has started...
you won't be able to blame it on Russians
cuz they'll all be ARABS
and yur gonna blame it on.....BIDEN!!!!!
(Well, that's Putin's Plan)

if trump gets convicted in NYC in the next few weeks, his odds of winning the presidency drops to nearly ZERO
and the odds of him grifting and scamming the republican party and his base climbs to 100%
and the odds of this leading to the decline of the republican party climbs to 100%

Trump is the silver lining in the dark republican cloud
Trump is the redneck playing with a loaded gun who shoots himself in the foot
Trump will take down Trump and everything connected to Trump...in just a matter of a few more months....
watch and learn...

and yes, this IS ALL connected to Russia, always has been, from DAY ONE!!


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Starting Out / Re: New member seeking some guidance
« Last post by krimster2 on Today at 05:16:09 AM »
The Lazy Donkey

to a russian woman, a man is some kinda DONKEY...
selected for how much he can carry

and if you got a "bad back" or a lame leg
well, ya know what happens to those donkeys?
they're left for the coyotes

nature is a cruel bitch
and so are most wimmin, it's only natural...

ya want a woman?
it comes with a price
and most of ya'll are flat broke or will be in the future

Trench, you have "no advantage" in this game
what you have now is temporary
ya think yur holding a strong hand - I own a little house....
this is an illusion you cling to

you made the decision to live the way and where of yur life as it is
and when ya saw things weren't workin out, ya didn't try to change it, only complain...
fundamentally yur lazy, and a lazy donkey is gonna have "problems" with his 'owner'

because of being 'the way you are'
you have condemned yurself to a lifetime of mediocrity
just so you can live in comfortable familiar surroundings

you have no idea what it means to work yur ass off with an 80 hour work week, thousands of miles from home, year after year to try and get ahead just a little...
you're just 'treading water' and not goin in any direction mate, stop thinking that yur gonna reach some island swimmin that way

you never learned to discipline yurself Trench
never leaned how to force yurself to do hard, difficult things
you have no ambition
and yur expecting some kinda reward for this?

you coulda been a totally different person if you weren't such a "comfort seeker"
and tried livin outside yur "safe zone"

out of all the different possible people ya coulda been
you picked the easiest one to be

and you have one last chance to redeem yurself
and even though it's right in front of ya
yur too fookin blind to see it...

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Starting Out / Re: New member seeking some guidance
« Last post by Trenchcoat on Today at 03:06:22 AM »
general advice

1. don't be an idiot
2. 'learn' before you 'do'

understand that while yur lookin for one thing, you may completely miss other things which may turn out to be more valuable than what you were searchin for
in fact, I can guarantee this...

if you served in a western military - do NOT go to Russia right now!!!

wear clean socks


women choose men based upon what's "missing" in their life
take a good LOOK at yourself
what do YOU have to offer a woman to fill the missing piece she's lookin for?

this question will cause 90% of you to stay home, cuz in reality, ya got nothin much to offer. them..
and it's better for you to figure this out first, so yur 'fee-fees' don't get hurt later


if you come to some kinda understanding that ya need to find "someone" who will "complete you"...yawn...
then the ONE thing you can do IS FIND A WAY TO MAKE A LOT OF MONEY!!!

no, money ain't 'crass'
it's the most useful thing you can have
and you NEED to make YUR OWN
you don't wanna be no "wage slave"
you wanna make yur own way, yur way, and yur time, and not some "boss"
and you need to make AS MUCH AS YOU CAN!!
as the king, you realize the kingdom costs a LOT!!!
lack on money is the root of all EVIL in a marriage!!

only search for somone to 'complete you' after you complete yourself first!!!!
most of ya'll ain't even started yet...
and sometimes you try an old man's patience
to the point where he just HAS to reach across the bar and "bitch-slap" ya off yur stool


That's probably true and good stuff Krim. However, potentially the bar may be set pretty low in Russia & Ukraine so long as you don't get a very materialistic woman I think. Yes probably pretty much all women will be materialist in some sense and want you to have something or be able to be put to work to get it. Some women there may just want a man as a companion they feel they can get on with and feel into, perhaps someone on a similar wavelength to them - so the bar can be set as low as that I think without having something 'big' to offer like in the West. After all most Ukrainian or Russian ladies get with local guys with far less money than most western guys.

I think women that aren't model looking are likely to be the most genuine in that, not to say they aren't pretty looking in some way of course but the more everyday a girl is looking the more genuine she often is. Can't say that will be the case for every FSW but for many. The old saying, 'I (She) know what I'm (She) is worth' comes to mind. Model looking girls tend to want something big in exchange for their looks,  often a wealthy guy, not necessarily universally but pretty much always. Everyday looking women tend to have accepted their lot and have feet on the ground and are way more realistic. For sure I think there can be Model looking girls with problems that means they are more willing to accept guys who aren't so wealthy and everyday FSW also with problems. Most women I have found are unique in themselves and their situation.

Money though I think you are dead right is potentially the source of evil in a relationship. I am quite fortunate in that while I am not of great wealth or earn great money I come from a background of having some wealth behind me. It's not huge but having your own house mostly or fully paid up for and a  firm of income bringing in some money helps a fair bit in this venture I think. Not in terms of a woman wanting to get with you so much but in terms of her being happy that you can provide a decent lifestyle.

Once in a relationship having somewhere to live together is essential and it's better (in theory) if the guy has resources behind him to make that happen. Sure an everyday looking girl from the FSU may get with a guy who just rents a place but she will likely feel more reassured by a guy with resources behind him so they aren't (hopefully) one step away from living on the street. A guy with resources can usually provide a better lifestyle than one without and so it's a nice lifestyle that makes for a more pleasant relationship with less discontent, hopefully.

I often find that a FSW may have a work, work, work mentality in mind for her guy, even if he is quite wealthy. I think the temptation of making him the workhorse bringing in the money is often great for them. I would say however that it is best to push back against this. It's an easy thing for her to push her man towards such a lifestyle (or lack of one) but she is not having to do the man hours. The weak man would just accept it and be put to work in a job working all hours under the sun maybe even two jobs, etc. But a guy that works too much can damage himself and the relationship I think. Better to have a balanced lifestyle and not end up in that corner as I think it's likely harder to get out off once you are in it. Odds are the woman would probably latter complain that she never sees you lol.

So yeah I think work reasonably hard to get a nice lifestyle and be careful with spending but avoid overdoing it as that can be a problem also. Finding good deals around when spending I think can help the money go a lot further I think.
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Ukrainian Front Discussion / Re: The Struggle For Ukraine
« Last post by Trenchcoat on May 26, 2024, 11:56:33 AM »
Ukraine looks to be threatened by Russia's forces on its northern border:

http://www.euronews.com/2024/05/26/ukraine-war-zelenskyy-warns-of-russian-advances-kharkiv-strike-death-toll-rises-peace-summ

Apart from troops stationed on its northern border Ukraine doesn't currently have any troops in reserve. This is a precarious situation for Ukraine to be in as although Ukraine is holding Russian troops back at present were Russian troops to break through anywhere Ukraine would be screwed.

That's a military flaw Ukraine needs to urgently rectify by bringing up more troops and quickly. If it doesn't it's leaving itself open for a easy defeat where it needn't suffer one in the next few days to weeks.

Belarus will need watching too. Now that they have finished installing Russian Nukes on its soul it leaves Belarus more capable of joining the attack. That this has been completed at this time may be no coincidence. A joint Belarusian & Russian attack on Ukraine's northern border could be difficult for Ukraine to answer to even with dug in fortifications. Ukraine will need to boost it's number of soldiers significantly so not to be caught napping and be agile on its feet to responding to such threats. Belarusian forces are now better equipped and trained than in previous years so they could be a significant threat on the battlefield.
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Married / Re: Your package vs Large age difference
« Last post by Trenchcoat on May 26, 2024, 12:09:15 AM »

I got way too far into the weeds, so I am simplifying this.

Each man has what should be considered a package.

1. Looks: How purdy are you?
2. Physique: This includes height, weight, muscles, stamina or the lack thereof.
3. Social skills: How well do you function in a social situation with women?
4. FSU experience: Have you dated one or more of these creatures before?
5. Language: Can you say more than Da ili nyet? Do you know what ili means?
Can you read any Cyrillic?
6. Living/Lifestyle?
Do you live on a beach in Hawaii? (good) in Nome Alaska (bad) in your
mothers basement (very bad) Last wife was eaten by a crocodile (bad) local
cannibals (very bad) The oil fields of Norf Dakoty (bad) member of a cult (bad)
7. How much time, money and energy can you spend on this pursuit?
8. Money:* If you make more than $100K (acceptable) or less than $100K (risky)


Two weeks of vacation per year and/or using credit cards to pay for it = In your future
both your kidney's will be sold to pay for your divorce. Dialysis = Your future.

Do not attempt this if you are poor and/or don't have the ability to travel frequently.


* There are exceptions to the money. If you make less than $50K per year, you will have
problems, E.G. Making the trips, paying for all the things that you will need to pay for that
will pop up. Sending wifey home to visit Mamma. Her teeth and can easily be a total mess
and require thousands to repair (or she could be toothless).
 
You will have to buy family health care which is highly expensive in the US these days. This
can exceed $700 per month.

Take your age subtract 10 years and stick to that unless, you have a great package with
many of the traits above. If you have less of the package go with less than 10 years.

Lastly don't lie to yourself.

You forget in your equation is that the girl also has a value number Beel ;)

That effect things. However I would say even with equations done in both sides there can be more to it. One the girl has to be open to dating older guys (if we are talking about a large age gap). She also might have problems dating herself for whatever reason. She might have preferences to the type of guy she would like. She might just be looking for a guy she is into regardless of age, etc.

There could be many reasons why it could work with a large age gap. For sure there is always the much older guy hoping for a hit young thing who possibly might be deluding himself or beyond his means. However, I think with some women it's less of a thing out in the FSU as it is here. Some but not all prefer older guys (but not likely granddaddy older guys) who they may feel more comfortable with than younger guys. Some women can mature faster mentally than men and so prefer a man who isn't clowning around or feels like he is like a brother, is junior to her at least feelings wise. I would say though that older guys need to be wary of some younger girls who say they like older guys when really they are just out to fleece the older guy on shopping trips, etc.

End of the day relationships don't necessarily tend to find down to a number equation but instead what just works, do the people get on well together, are each others type, are into each other, emotional bond, etc.

I personally have tended to prefer much younger Women. Somewhere towards at least 10 years. The girl being my junior tends to make me feel more at ease and let's face it with many FSW they can be fairly dominant types so a age too near mine is likely to produce a relationship where the woman dominates too much with too much of a battle on my hands to push back against it.

It's really just keep trying until you find a girl where the relationship just works for you both I feel.
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Married / Re: Large age difference
« Last post by Trenchcoat on May 25, 2024, 11:44:41 PM »
I dated women who were my daughter's age.

 :clapping:
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Married / Re: Large age difference
« Last post by ML on May 25, 2024, 08:57:22 PM »
I dated women who were my daughter's age.

But I drew the line (just above) at dating those who were my granddaughter's age; not that I had a granddaughter.

But then, if I were a billionaire and Anna Nicole were still available !!
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Married / Re: Your package vs Large age difference
« Last post by ML on May 25, 2024, 08:44:33 PM »
Lastly don't lie to yourself.

That's no fun !!
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Ukrainian Front Discussion / Re: The Struggle For Ukraine
« Last post by Trenchcoat on May 25, 2024, 04:43:05 PM »
Banon belongs in jail...

people lie
numbers don't

The funding of the whole Trump Wall scam that he pulled if I vaguely remember correctly. I didn't read deep into it but apparently he set up a fund to fund some of the wall then ran off with the money.
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