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fandelau:
Hello ladies:
I'm in the middle of my search for my queen. Currently I'm corresponding with a woman from Minsk, Belarus... no, I haven't met her yet, but I plan to do so next year. I have told her that I live in a big city (Phoenix, Arizona), but now I have to move, due to work, to a small town (Bentonville, Arkansas). Being a big city guy myself I know it will be a little bit of an adjustment for me... ok, ok, there is a mid size city 43 Kms south, and a big city 200 Kms west from my future small town, so I guess the change wont be so traumatic. Besides, I think I can use the slow pace of a small town and enjoy life a little more  ;) ...
My question is, would it be hard to adjust to a small town for a big city RW, or like me, it depends?
Thanks in advance for your comments.
Poka!

Ramon

Lily:
Hi Ramon,

Welcome to the board, first of all! :)

You would probably ask your lady this question.

It depends on the individual, I think. Some prefer living in a megapolis not because of its pace and apparent boost of life, but because of her work that is necessary for people to support themselves. It is apparent that for many people a big city means a variety of options for locating a job. If a woman would get support from her husband, she may eventually change her preferences.

Very individual solution, IMHO.

Turboguy:
I have always believed who you are with is more important that where you are.  My wife moved from a fairly large city to where we live now which is around 10,000.  We have had no real issues with where we live.

Big cities tend to have excitement, an endless array of restaurants, always things to do, lots of job opportunities and lots more.  Small cities tend to have friendlier people, a more relaxed atmosphere, less congestion and other pluses. 

One plus to small towns is that I had to teach my wife to drive.  I think it would have been a very daunting experience in a large city and I think I would have to worry even more when she is out trucking around on her own.   

I tend to agree with Lily.  Some women might find the adjustment hard others would not.  A happy person is a happy person and where they are is not going to change that.  I think too that all small towns are not created equal.  Bentonville to me would be a much easier adjustment than Billings MT or Fairmont MN. 

I/O:
Fandelau: You'll have all the feel good BS under the sun fed to you on this one. The reality is, she'll struggle for a while, maybe longer.

I/O

Misha:

--- Quote from: fandelau on November 03, 2008, 12:16:15 AM ---My question is, would it be hard to adjust to a small town for a big city RW, or like me, it depends?

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Keep in mind that she will likely be going through culture shock the first year. As she is going through the culture shock, she is likely going to blame the fact that she is in a small town on her not being happy. If she were in a big city, she would cite some other cause. One way or another, you have to expect a lot of tears and adjusting, small town or not.

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