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Re: new guy here
« Reply #50 on: January 25, 2021, 05:16:03 PM »
Age gaps in the 90s were high, mine was relatively low at 8

Get this, one guy with a 19 yr age gap(he was 38 and she was 19) LEFT HER after 12 years

He wanted a newer sportier model?
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Re: Maximum age difference formula
« Reply #51 on: January 26, 2021, 02:28:17 AM »
-5 if you hit on her sister. Death if it was her kid sister.
What if her kid sister hits on you?

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Re: new guy here
« Reply #52 on: January 26, 2021, 06:09:09 AM »
He wanted a newer sportier model?

Im not sure, lost touch with him. She remarried and had children. So maybe she was demanding kids? So he took stage left to minimize the financial cost?

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Re: Maximum age difference formula
« Reply #53 on: January 26, 2021, 10:09:04 AM »
What if her kid sister hits on you?

-5 with no pluses. That answer is always no  :D

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Re: Maximum age difference formula
« Reply #54 on: January 26, 2021, 10:18:58 AM »
What if her kid sister hits on you?

The man  will always be blamed . . . regardless of who initiates.

Old story:

In my first marriage, we were visiting back in home town for both of us where a ton of relatives lived.

Girlfriend (maybe 18) of a nephew of mine was at a large family gathering.  She and I talked a lot with her standing in front of me.  It came time for a group picture.  She suddenly just sat in my lap and put her arm around my neck.  All in harmless fun as everyone having a good time and many hugging each other.  After many pics, she remained sitting in my lap with arm around my neck.  I think her boyfriend was off playing basketball or some such with other young guys.

After 5 minutes or so; my wife beckoned to me from some distance.
I told the young girl I must get up.
Went to wife and she said that shouldn't continue.
I said:  She sat in my lap voluntarily.
Wife just smiled and said:  Come on now, you know what's right and what's wrong.
And I did.
Wife never mentioned it again.
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Re: Maximum age difference formula
« Reply #55 on: January 26, 2021, 09:54:39 PM »
Yes, a 17 year age gap is too much unless you are ridiculously handsome, rich,
famous, funny and glamorous.



I'm in trouble then. Fortunately my wife's desires of me are minimal and to be turned on, needs only needs my big....brain.
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Re: Maximum age difference formula
« Reply #56 on: January 27, 2021, 11:01:11 AM »
What if her kid sister hits on you?

Innocence is no excuse!
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Maximum age difference formula
« Reply #57 on: January 27, 2021, 11:17:52 AM »

I'm in trouble then. Fortunately my wife's desires of me are minimal and to be turned on, needs only needs my big....brain.

You keep telling everyone that you aren't a glamorous rock star
teen idol moonie cult leader.


Seriously, you are a statistical impossibility and nobody should move
forward trying to duplicate either yours or Turboguy's age gaps. Sun
Myung Moon had six wives. I don't recommend that either, yet men
do it all over the globe.

« Last Edit: January 27, 2021, 11:25:53 AM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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Re: Maximum age difference formula
« Reply #58 on: January 27, 2021, 11:48:27 AM »
Innocence is no excuse!
Trust me, I was not innocent, I knew what she was on for and it was a very tricky slope to traverse. It eventually subsided.... fortunately...😳

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Re: new guy here
« Reply #59 on: January 27, 2021, 11:18:54 PM »
You can avoid some uncomfortable situations if your future father-in-law is actually older than you are.

Just my experience, yours may vary.   
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Re: new guy here
« Reply #60 on: January 28, 2021, 05:33:10 AM »
What pigs don't fly in your neck of the woods? ;D  Again it depends on the people involved and their particular situation.  As you stated all marriages have problems.

If it's a single woman approaching 30 (or older) and she has a child she has few to no options in Russia or Ukraine.  A man who is about 50 with a good job and a home might be a Godsend for her.  If he treats her right the marriage will likely last; considering that she is a normal woman invested in the relationship. 

It may not be "normal" but then I suspect most people don't think any of these East/West international relationships are normal.

Exactly, it can't be easy for some lone parents especially if they don't have much of a support network and they are much carrying on alone by themselves with a kid. Having the support of an older guy both emotionally and (probably later on) financially would very likely be seen as a godsend to her.

Add to that the possibility of better education and living conditions for her child. I've only communicated with one single mother in the FSU but I got the distinct impression that her child's wellbeing/future was her overriding concern. That was one of the first women I communicated with a few years back. I dropped out after a few messages as I came to realise that I was not set up to take on that responsibility from the get go so it was better that I not take up anymore of her time. For me it was better to date single women and if things took off have a child as and when it was right enough to do so. I think there are probably a lot of women out in the FSU who child or not once they get into their thirties and older if still single and not living a happy life will see an older guy as not an issue as after all they probably see it better to have something going than nothing at all and they will have likely no other decent options at hand anyway probably just ugly drunk or druggie guys lowlifes with bad attitudes, mentally unsound guys, etc. So an older guy whose a bit altogether would be a good option for them.
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Re: new guy here
« Reply #61 on: January 28, 2021, 05:36:06 AM »
I think there are probably a lot of women out in the FSU who child or not once they get into their thirties and older if still single and not living a happy life will see an older guy as not an issue as after all they probably see it better to have something going than nothing at all and they will have likely no other decent options at hand anyway probably just ugly drunk or druggie guys lowlifes with bad attitudes, mentally unsound guys, etc. So an older guy whose a bit altogether would be a good option for them.
For a guy who people say doesn't get it , you do get it . And that is why you get laid upon, because you insult the women men commonly go for
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Re: new guy here
« Reply #62 on: January 28, 2021, 07:38:50 AM »
You can avoid some uncomfortable situations if your future father-in-law is actually older than you are.

Just my experience, yours may vary.

Yes, I agree that is a pretty good idea.  Achieved comfortably in my case.

My own Father was much older than my Mother.
He was younger than his Mother-in-Law, but not by much.
When he started calling her Mom . . . she told in no uncertain terms that just wouldn't be acceptable . . . given she was only a few years older than him.
I heard this story much later, of course.
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« Reply #63 on: January 28, 2021, 08:38:34 AM »
Yes, I agree that is a pretty good idea.  Achieved comfortably in my case.

My own Father was much older than my Mother.
He was younger than his Mother-in-Law, but not by much.
When he started calling her Mom . . . she told in no uncertain terms that just wouldn't be acceptable . . . given she was only a few years older than him.
I heard this story much later, of course.

I was 7 and my Step mom was 21 when my Dad married the second time.

« Last Edit: January 28, 2021, 08:55:56 AM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

 

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