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Offline spectris

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Opinion on intro letter
« on: December 21, 2009, 12:32:10 AM »
OK, let's try this again without my screwing up.  Anyway, I've been communicating with some RW after a couple of false starts for the past few weeks and it has gone pretty much like I thought (and what was detailed here and other places), I'm not a novice to "web dating", w/ the match.com's and whatnot, but this IS different w/ the language and all.  Anyway, I recieved this reply from a women that I really liked from a profile I did search on, but...  If this was and AM, I would take it at face value and just assume it was a very attractive, recently divorced woman from a wealthy husband who was quickly tyring to secure her and her children's future.  However, since I'm not familiar with RW, I was curious to get an opinion or two about it.  She is from one of the "apporoved" agencies here btw.  Anyway, an opinion would be appreciated.  thanks...
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Hello <my name>! Thank you for your interest and your letter! And now a little bit about me.
I'm 39 years old and I divorced last year, and I have two kids from my marrige. They are 11 and 5 years old. Their names are xxx1 and xxx2.
xxx1 was born in the USA and he has an American passport. We did it on purpose so he would have an American Citezenship.
I visited America three rimes. In 1998 I lived for half a year in the state of Florida in Maimi. I was pregnant at that time. Even then I had thoughts about moving from Russia . At first my husband agreed but after living with me in Maimi for three monthes he said he didn't want to move. He explained it that it was because he would never be able to became there the man he was in Novosibirsk . He didn't know the language and he didn't see the possibility for his business. I had to agree with him to save our family.
But now after the divorce nothing stays on my desire to move.
It's difficult to explain all my reasons for imigration in one letter. There is not one reason there are many. I always don't feel free enough. I think Russia will never become a democratic and stable country. Here one can never be absolutely sure about the next day. About one's future and about the future of the children.
If you are interested we can discuss it in details on the phone.
Now I'd like to tell you more about my children. Xxx1 is a smart and intellegent boy, he loves sport, especially soccer, he plays in one of the strongest city teams for the young and he dreams of becoming a professional player.
My youngest kid xxx2 is 5 years old. He is too smart for his age, he loves to perform and declaim poetry. He knows several Pushkin poems by heart and when he declaims them it amazes everyone. He has a good voice and has a ear for music. I think he has all qualities to become a moviestar and I have to work on this. And he just has to get into the right place in the rith time.

Also like his brother he loves soccer. His brother is 11 and he loves to play soccer. He dreams of becoming a profeccional player and play for famous European Club.

I tried to teach my kids the English language from the young age. This year Vinsent won two school contest on English and Literature. I pay much attention to his education. A year ago I teach him to dive. He loves swimming and watersports also last year he manages the waveboard. We travelled almost everywhere in Europe and im many warm countries such as Thailand , Maldives , United Arab Emirates . So yes, I love travelling and I like to discover the new places. We visited a lot of Amusments parks in
different countries. All in all I had a good life, happy and content. And there was one bad thing my husband started to drink and his heavy-drinking was the reason for my divorce.

I have two universities degrees. One of them is Teachers' Training institute my profession is English Teacher but I had never worked in the school. And the second one is Administration University on speciality State Municipal Administration. I got it last year. But all my life I was working in a casino business. After the divorce I left it. And I did it in time because here in Russia this business now haves many problems. The goverment closed all the casinos this July.

Right now I don't work because I was afraid to start something new here during the crisis. And also my divorce was at that very time. And what's more I hope to change my life completely and start something new aboard.
As you can see and as I mention I am used to the comfortable way of life. I have two appartments in Novosibirsk in the city and one outside. Also I have an appartmen in Bulgaria that I bought so my children could spend their Summer near the sea.

One of the main quialities that I admire in my man is the things that he created in his life. I want to be proud of my man. It's very important for me. And also I want my children to have a role-model, a man who can teach them to be real men and to show them how to become sucsesfull. I am not looking for a father for them they have one, who loves them and who may be overcome his bad habbit for them. But my man shoud be their best friend.
They are good boys and if one can show them the way they can reach everything they want from that life.

I love the sea and the ocean.
The most important things for me are water and fire, they give me life energy, they inspire me or calm me down. My childhood was spent on sailing boat that my father had. We often went fishing and for a time off, and I am very fond of these memories. I remember how we sat on the shore in the evenings, made a fishsoap and told stories. I felt saved and happy then. My parents are very important to me, thanks God they both are fine and I love them very much. They gave and taught me many things. And I'll always be
grateful.
P.S.My intentions are very serious.
I'm not looking for a pen pal, I'm looking for a real man for a personal meeting that may become a long term relation if we really do like each other.
And I hope to know more about you soon and see your pictures.
Have a nice day
« Last Edit: December 21, 2009, 12:51:47 AM by spectris »

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Re: Opinion on intro letter
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2009, 05:45:29 AM »
... and?

I didn't understand your question. If something worries you, say it. It's only you who decides if this woman is right or wrong for you. But I was pleased to read something not from Cinderella  ;D

It's your problem if you take my posts too seriously.

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Re: Opinion on intro letter
« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2009, 08:12:14 AM »
Wow, it's a long letter!  :o   And her kid was born in Miami on a short visit for the citizenship purpose?   Cool!    8)   I advise all pregnant Russian women do the same!    ;)
« Last Edit: December 21, 2009, 07:45:29 PM by Ooooops »

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Re: Opinion on intro letter
« Reply #3 on: December 21, 2009, 05:31:26 PM »
Simple.. are you rich in material wealth?

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Re: Opinion on intro letter
« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2009, 06:47:20 PM »
spectris, If I were you I wouldn't post an entire personal letter with lots of personal details, first names and place-names on a public forum.  You never know who might be reading and who might recognize the lady based on these details.  The world is a small place and N-sk is even smaller. 

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Re: Opinion on intro letter
« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2009, 07:13:26 PM »
Wow, it's a long letter! 

That happens when it's a canned letter that gets send out to every man. I remember a guy on a forum saying his intro letter is 16 pages long. I told him he was going to turn off women but he insisted he was doing right.

If spectris asked any questions in his previous letter, she did not answer and she didn't ask him any personal questions. I can't guage how interested she is in spectris if she's even interested at all. Some women don't get interested until a guy makes plans to visit. Spectris should not visit until he's on the phone with her a lot.

Spectris, if you've done the online thing before, your previous letter failed to get her to talk on a more personal level. I always ask enough questions or make comments to get the ladies writing me back on a more personal level. Did you ask her questions and did she ignore them?

One lady I wrote to always responded to my questions with questions such as "Why are you asking this?" and "Why do you want to know?" I wrote back to her "Maybe I ask questions because I like you. Guys tend to ask questions if they like a woman". She got better but went back the answering my questions with a question so I wrote to her "We should stop communicating if you don't like answering my questions. We'll never get along."

You mentioned you're using an approved agency. You still need to be smart. You may still be trading love letters with Boris, the employee of the month.
Fund the audits, spread the word and educate people, write your politicians and other elected officials. Stay active in the fight to save our country. Over 220 generals and admirals say we are in a fight for our survival like no other time since 1776.

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Re: Opinion on intro letter
« Reply #6 on: December 21, 2009, 07:25:29 PM »
This doesn't look like a canned letter. Her point is probably to keep away men who don't meet her expectations... not to waste time. I quite liked the style. But agree with BF, I don't understand why you find it normal to post private letters on a public forum.
It's your problem if you take my posts too seriously.

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Re: Opinion on intro letter
« Reply #7 on: December 21, 2009, 08:37:25 PM »
This doesn't look like a canned letter.

Why do you think it's not a canned letter that she sends to everyone? You think she type it only for Spectris? I can't imagine her trying writing a fresh letter each time in an effort to tell her life story to every man who writes her.
Fund the audits, spread the word and educate people, write your politicians and other elected officials. Stay active in the fight to save our country. Over 220 generals and admirals say we are in a fight for our survival like no other time since 1776.

 

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