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Online krimster2

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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #100 on: May 27, 2018, 12:46:58 PM »
Billy, Billy, Billy....
why do you want to make this about “how big of a man you are”
you know the kind of men who think this way?
little men, Billy, little men...

first, this story IMHO is being magnified in both the telling and the hearing

since you seem to be entirely ignorant of the nuances of Russian social etiquette
let me offer you my much needed assistance...

a response by YOU towards any offender of your wife’s “virtue”
is ONLY required if it is done in your PRESENCE
otherwise Russians will think you are some kind of possessive “Psycho”
if you respond later

that’s one thing

second, if this guy is some kind of oligarch
you are outgunned so badly that any approach by you
would end in your complete humiliation
if you are lucky

what our man experienced is all normal there
you better learn to adapt to it and the other 540 things that will piss you off there


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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #101 on: May 27, 2018, 12:54:18 PM »

Krimster, this doesn't have to be complicated. If you wife asks for your help, it's a simple yes or no answer. Keep dancing around the question if you want.
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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #102 on: May 27, 2018, 02:14:35 PM »
your wife would never ask you for help in this situation, seriously!

I know, because as I have said, I have been there and done that
and what I learned was:

1. it's not an actual threat to your family so you don't have to escalate this to a life or death situation
2. if you make any kind of public scene about it, YOU will be the bad guy!

it's REAL easy for someone who wants to do you harm, to go ahead and do just that if they want
they could sue you in court for title to your property and pay the judge
take over your bank accounts
all that is super easy for someone with wealth and power to do
or just pay someone to kill you and make it look like a robbery gone bad

to people of power you always want to present yourself as someone who someday might be useful to them
if you can use common sense to not be on their shit list you better use it

but like I say this is just one type of potential problem, that arises from something halfway accepted in one culture
but is a trigger in another culture
hope you like people cutting in front of you in line - you gonna have a fist fight each time this happens?
what will you do when you see your neighbors dumping their garbage on your lawn, ya gonna fight them to?
when pedestrians run right out 20 feet in front of you without looking, you gonna run em over?
and on and on and on.....

no, you are not

you are going to mellow the hell out
and not act so god damned insecure
because to be quite honest with you Billy,
if you're livin large in Russia
ya got better things to be doin than fightin with pretty much every single person you meet there
when you go to Russia
leave insecurity at home
and bring a metal detector or something useful like that instead

 

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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #103 on: May 27, 2018, 02:29:58 PM »
your wife would never ask you for help in this situation, seriously!


You just keep dancing. Never say never. The situation in your nightmares isn't anywhere near as bad as Deccie has stated.

Gentlemen, I've got over 11,000 posts here. I've probably read over 100,000 posts. I've been on  forums like this for over a dozen years. I've been involved with numerous FSU women for over 20 years but it's funny you are trying to educate me on how bad businessmen and mafia are in the FSU as if I never read or was told about it. Even if they are bad people, if your wife is in a bad situation and she asks for help, the answer should be clear. If she's asking, a simple yes or no answer is all that is required. Trying to educate her on how bad businessmen and mafia are is silly after the question. She's factored in those facts before asking the question.

Trust the women who lived there that they know about their culture and if they feel the circumstance requires their man to have a talk to the guy, what will you do? Don't keep dancing and say it will never happen. What will you do Krimster if your wife asks for help? I know your wife won't put you in harms way unnecessarily unless doing nothing is more harmful based off the way it's escalating. Any married man or single man here is free to answer the question. Hopefully you don't get a dance partner Krimster.
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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #104 on: May 27, 2018, 02:44:21 PM »
an oligarch is untouchable under any circumstance
especially by a foreigner
wife would have to avoid all future contact with him
if that means she takes a leave of absence from work...

you cannot make ANY public move against this guy, period
any attempt at intimidation will be met with laughter by him
he’ll call you a “bug" he could easily crush, and he’s correct...
but, this conversation make just him a little paranoid about you
so really what you just did was “tip him off” about your evil intentions

if you have to have a go at the king
you better not fail
and you better not tip him off

you just don’t sound like the kinda guy to do this
cuz if you were
you’d never “talk” about it
hmmm hmmm
cuz you wouldn’t have to
right...??

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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #105 on: May 27, 2018, 02:51:11 PM »
Finally a sensible comment.  I said the same at beginning.  "It is getting deep in here."


I disagree.  He didn't post that 350 roses were delivered in one vase.  350 roses is just under 30 dozen.  They can be delivered, either on stem or in vases, likely not in one vase. 
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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #106 on: May 27, 2018, 03:14:37 PM »

If I were born without testicles and someone asked me if I was the type of guy who would risk my life to protect my kids if they were facing harm, I would not dance around the question. I would not hesitate to answer. I would not say it could never happen because I can't have kids. I would say "Yes, I'm the type of guy that would protect my family." Easy answer.

When I joined the military, I understood that could mean dying for my country. That doesn't mean I'll run into a hail of bullets without thinking first. In war and Deccie's situation, all options are bad but the situation to be dealt with in a way to cause the least amount of harm but harm already happened and can get worse. If asked to reduce harm to the wife, it seems some men here feel harm to the wife is better than harm to themselves.

an oligarch is untouchable under any circumstance
especially by a foreigner

I thought you knew about Russia. A few oligarchs are sitting in prison right now. Give Putin grief and they are getting touched. Creating an international incident to have fun with a married woman and hurting Russia's image is plain stupid. I mentioned upthread how to plant a seed in the guy's head without threats.

Anyway, I'll chalk your answer to be a "no" if your wife asked for help against a businessman because you automatically assume he's an oligarch. You're rationalizing every incident is worst case scenario.

He didn't post that 350 roses were delivered in one vase.  350 roses is just under 30 dozen.  They can be delivered, either on stem or in vases, likely not in one vase. 


I assume a florist would deliver them like any florist would, in a van with a few employees carrying them to the recipient.
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Re: My wife is amazing...
« Reply #107 on: May 27, 2018, 04:37:18 PM »
"I thought you knew about Russia. A few oligarchs are sitting in prison right now. Give Putin grief a"

seriously, so you're on Putin's level now are you, wow!!!
you better put on a uniform and salute yourself in the mirror
AT-TEN-TION!!!

 

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