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The girl from August
« on: May 22, 2015, 03:13:56 AM »
I need a Russian women’s perspective. Last August I met with a nice lady in Moscow and we had a good time together but I declined to take things further. Later, in September, I gifted her with a show at the Bolshoi Theater – just because. Anyway, now I have a possibility to return to visit someone else in Moscow this summer. However I would like to visit, as a friend, the girl from August while I am there. Perhaps meet for dinner. Could this be seen as offensive or strange to her in some way that I am unaware of? I ask because women can be a mystery to me sometimes/most times. I’m not attempting to deceive her. But even so, I admit that I still sometimes miss her letters, and that this letter may seem dumb to some of you but…there it is.
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #1 on: May 22, 2015, 03:29:33 AM »
I need a Russian women’s perspective. Last August I met with a nice lady in Moscow and we had a good time together but I declined to take things further. Later, in September, I gifted her with a show at the Bolshoi Theater – just because. Anyway, now I have a possibility to return to visit someone else in Moscow this summer. However I would like to visit, as a friend, the girl from August while I am there. Perhaps meet for dinner. Could this be seen as offensive or strange to her in some way that I am unaware of? I ask because women can be a mystery to me sometimes/most times. I’m not attempting to deceive her. But even so, I admit that I still sometimes miss her letters, and that this letter may seem dumb to some of you but…there it is.

Hi xiphoid!You told your lady, what she for you only the friend? If she doesn't know about it -it there will be a deception. I think.....
« Last Edit: May 22, 2015, 03:34:49 AM by STaty »
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #2 on: May 22, 2015, 03:46:59 AM »
Hi Staty. I understand your point. If I do ask to visit her I will ask her as a friend. If a spark ignites I will tell her that too and take my chances on being rejected.
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #3 on: May 22, 2015, 03:53:06 AM »
You give her hope. You can tell her your plans for her.  I wish you good luck!!!
« Last Edit: May 22, 2015, 04:28:14 AM by STaty »
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #4 on: May 22, 2015, 06:14:03 AM »
I apologize for intruding, since you asked for a Russian Woman's point of view.  However, I think you may want to consider all perspectives on this.  You declined to take things farther with August?  Did you explain to her why?  How did she respond?  It sounds like she was put in the friend zone, but are you all truly friends?  You miss her letters which sounds like you two have NOT been communicating.  If she has moved on with her life, maybe it's better to stay out of it.  To re-enter her life at this point may only make things worse for her, especially if she wanted more from the relationship/friendship you had with her.  I understand wanting to re-connect with old flames, but aren't you being a little selfish? If she has in fact gotten over you and moved on with her life, what good could come of you seeing her again?  You have someone new to visit, so why not just concentrate on making that work, instead of go back in the past.  Just my thoughts, you're a grown up, so do what you think is best.

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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #5 on: May 22, 2015, 06:38:56 AM »
  If she has moved on with her life, maybe it's better to stay out of it.  To re-enter her life at this point may only make things worse for her,


Agree.Good post Tag !
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #6 on: May 22, 2015, 07:29:14 AM »
Totally agree with Tag as well. Nothing good can come from this. You need to just work on building you relationship with your new lady of interest....
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #7 on: May 22, 2015, 07:52:02 AM »
Nothing wrong with just being friends with benefits:devil:

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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #8 on: May 22, 2015, 10:02:32 AM »
You guys are assuming he can move back into her life. I suppose he is too. xip, if she's willing, go for it but don't expect any new women to understand why you would. IMHO, you'd be causing yourself some problems but, to each their own  :popcorn:

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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #9 on: May 22, 2015, 10:28:39 AM »
Every woman that I know would say: 

Get on with your life.  It didn't happen then.  It ain't a gonna happen now.  Unless the relationship was previously established as friendship, there are overtones that cannot be accommodated.

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The girl from August
« Reply #10 on: May 22, 2015, 11:07:36 AM »
I know you asked for response from the girls. My advice is  Do not recycle girls
This isn't Hollywood, they won't suddenly realize that you were the right man all along.

It's far better to start fresh with a new girl. There is a girl in the FSU waiting for you and
the sooner you move past this girl, the sooner you can find your girl.

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FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
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There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #11 on: May 22, 2015, 06:10:47 PM »
However I would like to visit, as a friend, the girl from August while I am there. Perhaps meet for dinner. Could this be seen as offensive or strange to her in some way that I am unaware of?



Ask the lady and you'll get an answer.


I’m not attempting to deceive her.



If she accepts dinner and wants a serious relationship and you don't, move on. Out of all the women in the FSU, why go back to someone there were no sparks with in previous meetings?
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #12 on: May 23, 2015, 11:32:12 AM »

Out of all the women in the FSU, why go back to someone there were no sparks with in previous meetings?


To get laid. Duh!!
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2015, 04:16:23 PM »
I see your point Tag. But the problem is that there was some spark (of some kind) and I might have been too hasty. Like BillyB wisely said, I could simply ask and get an answer. Or I could do nothing and wonder at what might have been. I’m not selfish by nature, hence the reason for my original post.  Dating is rarely a  simple process. Thanks all for some interesting perspectives.
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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #14 on: June 08, 2015, 04:50:30 PM »
I need a Russian women’s perspective. Last August I met with a nice lady in Moscow and we had a good time together but I declined to take things further. Later, in September, I gifted her with a show at the Bolshoi Theater – just because. Anyway, now I have a possibility to return to visit someone else in Moscow this summer. However I would like to visit, as a friend, the girl from August while I am there. Perhaps meet for dinner. Could this be seen as offensive or strange to her in some way that I am unaware of? I ask because women can be a mystery to me sometimes/most times. I’m not attempting to deceive her. But even so, I admit that I still sometimes miss her letters, and that this letter may seem dumb to some of you but…there it is.

From the perspective of the girl whom you want to meet as a "just friend" - I see no problem in going out with you. Unless you are not pleasant as a friend. But it's completely different if you had sex in the past. In that case - I don't see the "just friends" possibility as very realistic or pleasant for her. Because then you are the man who rejected her, and there is nothing pleasant in going out "as friends" with the man who rejected you. It's pleasing for your ego, but not for hers.

From the perspective of the "someone else," whom you are visiting this time in Moscow with potentially romantic plans, this will be a problem. If you tell her - she will be unhappy. If you don't tell her and she somehow finds out - it will be even worse.

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Re: The girl from August
« Reply #15 on: June 08, 2015, 10:10:52 PM »
Hi mies – To clarify, we merely held hands once while walking. Sex was never a consideration. We parted as friends. We had a good time and I then had tickets for the Bolshoi sent to her after I went home as a gift of appreciation. Yet I still have a lingering feeling about her. :-\ As for the “someone else” it is definitely not a certainty…we have not yet confirmed an exact time for a visit.
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