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Still not married?
« on: December 13, 2014, 11:41:29 PM »
I haven't been around these forums for a while and after returning I see some members that were around 5 plus years ago are still single, isn't it time to admit that you're just looking to get laid? Larry and too tall Bill either have to be the most unluckiest men alive or the horniest. I hope no one is taking advice from either of these individuals.

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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #1 on: December 13, 2014, 11:48:32 PM »
Hi Paul.  :)


I don't know if Larry is actively looking, but Bill did get married. :)
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #2 on: December 13, 2014, 11:54:47 PM »
Hi Paul.  :)


I don't know if Larry is actively looking, but Bill did get married. :)

WOW! Congratulations Bill!!! Is there a thread about this? And hello Boethius, you're one of the more intelligent members of any of these forums and I'm glad to see that you're still here  :)

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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #3 on: December 14, 2014, 02:44:54 AM »
I haven't been around these forums for a while and after returning I see some members that were around 5 plus years ago are still single, isn't it time to admit that you're just looking to get laid? Larry and too tall Bill either have to be the most unluckiest men alive or the horniest. I hope no one is taking advice from either of these individuals.

As for Larry, he is often on chat as he is a chat moderator, but, not actively searching as of the last time he came back (I think from Ukraine). 

In chat he does a good job of encouraging newbies and ensuring that chat is "neutral" territory - everyone is welcome on chat and asked to be reasonably civil, even if they spar in forums.  There have been as many as 10 people on chat at once, I think, during this past week.
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #4 on: December 14, 2014, 11:04:39 AM »
I am only looking for the right woman.  The woman who isn't:   prostitute, scammer, pro-dater, money motivation, cold-hearted (compare to Latin women).

I am not desperate or finding a "better than nothing" woman
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #5 on: December 18, 2014, 07:38:23 AM »
Well, to say the obvious, maybe some of the posters are aiming for something beyond what they can command. From what I've gathered, a lot of the guys who go on the journey to find a partner from the FSU, are usually old, unattractive and overweight. The FSU is seen as some sort of "utopia", a land filled with milk and honey where the women are willing to overlook their flaws and see their "inner beauty", whilst failing to see the hypocrisy of how they value a girl based mainly on their physical beauty. Oh yeah, and on the side, they start criticizing western women in order to make themselves feel better. :deadhorse:

I suspect many find it hard to be honest and introspective about where they stand on the attraction totem pole. They think that somehow hopping on a plane and going to another country changes things. Who needs diet and exercise, when you can just travel to Russia or Ukraine and find a woman who will love you and that massive overhang preventing you from seeing your penis?

Sorry I couldn't help it. After reading more of this forum and some of the regular posters, I just can't help but despair and laugh about things.

It shouldn't be that difficult. I reckon if you haven't succeeded within two years and multiple trips, you probably have some weird personality quirk, are butt ugly, or you are trying to punch above your weight and need to reassess the kind of girls you go for.

It took me 7 months to find my now wife (4 of those months spent communicating), and I'm no Brad Pitt, but then again compared to a line up of John Candy's and Chris Farly's...
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #6 on: December 18, 2014, 07:49:03 AM »
Well, to say the obvious, maybe some of the posters are aiming for something beyond what they can command. From what I've gathered, a lot of the guys who go on the journey to find a partner from the FSU, are usually old, unattractive and overweight. The FSU is seen as some sort of "utopia", a land filled with milk and honey where the women are willing to overlook their flaws and see their "inner beauty", whilst failing to see the hypocrisy of how they value a girl based mainly on their physical beauty. Oh yeah, and on the side, they start criticizing western women in order to make themselves feel better. :deadhorse:

I suspect many find it hard to be honest and introspective about where they stand on the attraction totem pole. They think that somehow hopping on a plane and going to another country changes things. Who needs diet and exercise, when you can just travel to Russia or Ukraine and find a woman who will love you and that massive overhang preventing you from seeing your penis?

Sorry I couldn't help it. After reading more of this forum and some of the regular posters, I just can't help but despair and laugh about things.

It shouldn't be that difficult. I reckon if you haven't succeeded within two years and multiple trips, you probably have some weird personality quirk, are butt ugly, or you are trying to punch above your weight and need to reassess the kind of girls you go for.

It took me 7 months to find my now wife (4 of those months spent communicating), and I'm no Brad Pitt, but then again compared to a line up of John Candy's and Chris Farly's...
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #7 on: December 18, 2014, 11:16:28 AM »
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Looking for a partner is not a race or task that must be accomplished within a time limit. In the end it does not matter how someone is in the looks department, as long as both sides are fully committed.

Very true. The lovely Mrs. M and I courted for over a year, locally in Russia, prior to our marriage. We did not rush, but neither were we slow, we simply built a relationship until we were ready.
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #8 on: December 19, 2014, 08:38:17 AM »
The reason why most guys are still searching "The dream wife" after 5/6/7 years is pretty simple.

They are chasing a dream that does not exist. When you pass middle age or 50/60 (mmmm Im near that bl***** age)
you simply are not going to find a 20 year old beauty queen who wants to marry you, and you are wasting your time and effort even trying. Unfortunately trying to educate people about this is often a waste of time.

If you are realistic with your searches instead of chasing the dream you will find someone much faster:) Ask yourself why is some young 25 year old girl going to want to marry a guy twice her age? Who probably will not even be able to give her good sex in a few years. Young women need good sex in a relationship, not a beer belly :P

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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #9 on: December 20, 2014, 01:30:13 PM »
Ok Paul.. lol

I'll bite, whether effective for them or not (Bill is married)
what advice have either of your examples given that would be considered bad?

If I had to pick out posters that have so often given reasoned ,experienced advice, delivered in a style a new comer would listen to, they would be in the top.

Just sayin'

As far as the concept of guys in general who have looked a long time,
i doubt its fantasy seekers as those usually see the reality ,get burned out, and give up far quicker than that?

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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #10 on: December 20, 2014, 02:14:55 PM »
The reason why most guys are still searching "The dream wife" after 5/6/7 years is pretty simple.

They are chasing a dream that does not exist. When you pass middle age or 50/60 (mmmm Im near that bl***** age)
you simply are not going to find a 20 year old beauty queen who wants to marry you, and you are wasting your time and effort even trying. Unfortunately trying to educate people about this is often a waste of time.

If you are realistic with your searches instead of chasing the dream you will find someone much faster:) Ask yourself why is some young 25 year old girl going to want to marry a guy twice her age? Who probably will not even be able to give her good sex in a few years. Young women need good sex in a relationship, not a beer belly :P

The thing that hangs between your legs usually has the last word :deadhorse:

I agree with Steve wholeheartedly.  It is absolutely unreasonable to assume that any 20 something woman would ever be interested in a 40 something (or older) guy.    Not only does it not happen in the FSU, it certainly doesn't happen here in the States.  I fully expect to still be searching years from now (when I reach Steve's age).  Moreover, I am impressed with his post.  He actually was able to string more than three sentences together without grammatical or spelling errors.
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #11 on: December 20, 2014, 02:18:10 PM »
I agree with Steve wholeheartedly.  It is absolutely unreasonable to assume that any 20 something woman would ever be interested in a 40 something (or older) guy.    Not only does it not happen in the FSU, it certainly doesn't happen here in the States.  I fully expect to still be searching years from now (when I reach Steve's age).  Moreover, I am impressed with his post.  He actually was able to string more than three sentences together without grammatical or spelling errors.

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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #12 on: December 20, 2014, 02:20:08 PM »
 :shock:
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #13 on: December 20, 2014, 03:14:59 PM »
"You are not a kid at 33."

As much as I hate to agree with Paul K, the old goat is right.   


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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #14 on: December 20, 2014, 03:25:58 PM »
The reason why most guys are still searching "The dream wife" after 5/6/7 years is pretty simple.

They are chasing a dream that does not exist. When you pass middle age or 50/60 (mmmm Im near that bl***** age)
you simply are not going to find a 20 year old beauty queen who wants to marry you, and you are wasting your time and effort even trying. Unfortunately trying to educate people about this is often a waste of time.

If you are realistic with your searches instead of chasing the dream you will find someone much faster:) Ask yourself why is some young 25 year old girl going to want to marry a guy twice her age? Who probably will not even be able to give her good sex in a few years. Young women need good sex in a relationship, not a beer belly :P

The thing that hangs between your legs usually has the last word :deadhorse:


I can see some unknown % of women in their early to mid 20's having an interest in a man in his mid 40's....but the % must dwindle to single digits by the time he is over 50, 55, 60.  Let alone a beauty queen type.    After watching these relationships for many years, I've concluded that if an older man (50+) WANTS to remain married he is better of choosing 30 and up...but the reality is a lot of men are fully aware they are likely to divorce again and that is all a part of the equation when going for a super young gal...so really there should be very little complaints when it does come to pass.


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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #15 on: December 20, 2014, 03:38:29 PM »
I agree with Steve wholeheartedly.  It is absolutely unreasonable to assume that any 20 something woman would ever be interested in a 40 something (or older) guy.    Not only does it not happen in the FSU, it certainly doesn't happen here in the States.  I fully expect to still be searching years from now (when I reach Steve's age).  Moreover, I am impressed with his post.  He actually was able to string more than three sentences together without grammatical or spelling errors.


Yeah !!  It would be impossible--right? :ROFL: :ROFL: :ROFL: :ROFL: :ROFL: :ROFL: :ROFL:
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #16 on: December 20, 2014, 03:52:23 PM »
Of course it's not impossible, but Steve does have a point.  Most twentysomethings are not interested in men old enough to be their fathers, and most of those marriages don't last.
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #17 on: December 20, 2014, 04:06:29 PM »
Of course it's not impossible, but Steve does have a point.  Most twentysomethings are not interested in men old enough to be their fathers, and most of those marriages don't last.

My wife has a doctor friend she worked with in Atlanta. He's 71 and was doing a K1 on a 22 year old in Moscow. Their K1 was denied because of age difference is what he told her. She told him that was probably one of the most intelligent things that had ever happened to him. She told him to take his meds and go to a senior citizen's home and find him a woman and move in and shack up with her, your life and bank account will be in much better shape.
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #18 on: December 20, 2014, 04:18:10 PM »
Is this a man hate thread or a sex tourist thread?  It has elements of both

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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #19 on: December 20, 2014, 06:39:02 PM »
I think it is pretty silly to try to draw any conclusions about a particular guy or gal just because they have not married within X number of years.

There can be a thousand and one reasons why no marriage has occurred. 

And, as I have said a dozen or more times, most western guys really do not want to get married.  The guys here are only fixated on marriage because that is (almost) the only way they can get one of the FSU gals to live with them in-country.

So the married guys here are really the outliers in the scheme of things.

And, to really go far out, the married guys here are feeling pretty P.O.ed that they had to get married, are jealous of other guys (both on the forum and in their daily life) who do not have to get married.

Misery  loves company.

That being  said . . . we are getting married.  :-))
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #20 on: December 20, 2014, 07:31:13 PM »
I think it is pretty silly to try to draw any conclusions about a particular guy or gal just because they have not married within X number of years.

There can be a thousand and one reasons why no marriage has occurred. 

And, as I have said a dozen or more times, most western guys really do not want to get married.  The guys here are only fixated on marriage because that is (almost) the only way they can get one of the FSU gals to live with them in-country.

So the married guys here are really the outliers in the scheme of things.

And, to really go far out, the married guys here are feeling pretty P.O.ed that they had to get married, are jealous of other guys (both on the forum and in their daily life) who do not have to get married.

Misery  loves company.

That being  said . . . we are getting married.  :-))

Congratulations to Ochka and ML --wow!!

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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #21 on: December 20, 2014, 08:03:07 PM »
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That being  said . . . we are getting married.  :-))

Congrats!
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Re: Still not married?
« Reply #22 on: December 21, 2014, 08:17:44 PM »
WOW! Congratulations Bill!!! Is there a thread about this? And hello Boethius, you're one of the more intelligent members of any of these forums and I'm glad to see that you're still here  :)

Thank you Paul  ;D




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