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Offline nic80b

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strange behavior
« on: May 26, 2015, 04:47:45 PM »
Hi,
just wanted to know your point of view about this story.
met a very nice lady on a dating agency reputed website showing lots of models...
We've been chatting using skype for a few weeks (she invited me on skype after 2 mails). Everything was smooth, and i must confess i was getting more and more in love with her. She asked me if i'd visit her in russia and i said yes. Then she immediately offered to come in europe, so we can meet within one or two weeks, and see if we match. I said okay, no prob, i was ready to make the move straight. We planned to talk about this meeting in the evening face to face.
when i come back on skype in the evening to call her, i see many many different messages, apparently not for me, without head or tail, even in russian, like she is talking to a lot of men...
i then just send her a simple text saying i am ready for our video call.
1min later, all the "strange" messages disappears.
she then asks me if i still want to talk.
i say of course, why such a question?
then she calls me, and i simply ask her what is the plan about our meeting in europe. She replies we will see, we have time etc... i tell her that i can make such move quickly only if i have informations... but she keeps on being distant, cloudy...
(remark: the day before, she was very pushy about this trip, and she was really looking serious to make such move)
then i ask her about the messages i just got on my text chat from her, which did not appear to be for me, and she suddenly shuts the call off.
Then she sends me some text messages with very bad words.
is it a normal behavior for a russian woman?
thanks for your advice.

Ps: i am no longer communicating with her, because of this curious story.
i am not a specialist in dating, and i know i am not perfect, but i am respectful, so i don't really get the point here.

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Re: strange behavior
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2015, 04:52:02 PM »
She was a scammer, plain and simple.  She was setting you up for the big fall.  But she messed up by not running her communication software correctly and knew that you were no longer going to believe her.

Stick around.  There is plenty to learn here.

And, welcome.  You are lucky that your first interaction did not cost you lots of Do Re Mi.
Kissing girls is a goodness.  It beats the hell out of card games.  - Robert Heinlein

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Re: strange behavior
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2015, 05:07:52 PM »
then i ask her about the messages i just got on my text chat from her, which did not appear to be for me, and she suddenly shuts the call off.
Then she sends me some text messages with very bad words.
is it a normal behavior for a russian woman?
thanks for your advice.

No, it isn't normal behavior for a RW of the type you want to date. It was a good move to discontinue things with her.

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Re: strange behavior
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2015, 05:45:45 PM »
Count your blessings brother.  ;D

#1 that you discovered something you were not suppose to and #2 that you found RWD

Going forward you should temper your behavior. It isn't wise to be falling in love with anyone you don't know (can you really do that?) and never go all in before learning your hole cards.

Hang around, there's lots here for you to learn and Welcome to RWD

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Re: strange behavior
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2015, 06:36:17 PM »
She was a scammer, plain and simple.  She was setting you up for the big fall.  But she messed up by not running her communication software correctly and knew that you were no longer going to believe her.

Stick around.  There is plenty to learn here.

And, welcome.  You are lucky that your first interaction did not cost you lots of Do Re Mi.

Well, thank you all for your advices.
i must confess i noticed many signs from the very beginning (i can't tell, there are too many, this one was not that smart i guess), but i sticked to it, curious and also because the girl was really in front of me behind the screen, so i was really interested to know more, giving myself an opportunity to learn about an fsu woman, whatever she says or do.
unfortunately, i did not reach the point where she asks for sthg, she screwed the story before...
and it's true, i need to put my feelings on hold, i am too sensitive.
in any case, i will never send money to anyone, but it appears that some scammers have other plans now to drain you...
thanks for your informations anyway, it is very good to learn from the others.

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Re: strange behavior
« Reply #5 on: May 26, 2015, 09:18:05 PM »
A search for an FSUW, should not be rushed. Some of us are lucky to come across a genuine woman with sincere intentions, but beware of the red flags.  You noticed signs from the beginning?  You can't ignore those my friend!  You can't afford to not be as sure as possible before hopping on a plane and spending possibly thousands of dollars.  Most of the FSUW are very attractive and have amazing bodies. I say this as loudly as I can."DO NOT GET FOOLED BY THE PRETTY"!  Use common sense, ask questions and read as many threads as you can on this board. Lots of good folks here with tons of good information and willing to help. Glad you dodged a huge Russian Missile Crisis! 

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Re: strange behavior
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2015, 12:38:58 AM »
A search for an FSUW, should not be rushed. Some of us are lucky to come across a genuine woman with sincere intentions, but beware of the red flags.  You noticed signs from the beginning?  You can't ignore those my friend!  You can't afford the not be as sure as possible before hopping on a plane and spending possibly thousands of dollars.  Most of the FSUW are very attractive and have amazing bodies. I say this as loudly as I can."DO NOT GET FOOLED BY THE PRETTY"!  Use common sense, ask questions and read as many threads as you can on this board. Lots of good folks here with tons of good information and willing to help. Glad you dodged a huge Russian Missile Crisis! 

Tag

Lot of truth in this statement. :thumbsup:
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Re: strange behavior
« Reply #7 on: May 28, 2015, 02:33:23 PM »
I think i was "catfished"!!!

"Catfish Daters

Online dating opens the possibility for match making and lasting relationships. It also can be a place where people hook up. Online dating is an Internet platform intended to allow people to meet. Though as with any new relationship, a courtship period affords two people to get to know each other. That is intended to take place in person as a way to eliminate fantasy. Otherwise, if the entire relationship is online and/or on the phone, you become that fantasy and the relationship is created in your own mind. That is how “Catfish” daters work. They entice you into believing the best fantasies your mind can create and they build this facetious relationship from your own fantasy. So despite dating a person for a year if this is done only online, you have created a fantasy relationship. That relationship is based upon whatever one has told the other. By dating in person it may reduce the amount of deceit a person can pull over your eyes. Not entirely true or foolproof but dating in person does allow the other person to piece things together."

See: http://mdscoggins.hubpages.com/hub/Online-Dating-Catfish

 

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