everyone deserve to be happy the way he want, and even he have + at some point or - its anyway he or she have all chances, its just a way of thinking and doing
Nano - you are free to seek happiness, but deserve nothing. The world gives you what you need, not what you want.
If you want to increase your chances of finding a partner, then you need to be realistic. Anything else is your own fabrication of fantasy. The "reality test" is intended to for a quick self-assessment. I used it for the purpose of stimulating conversation.
If you want real information and you can "handle the truth", then I invite you to perform the following experiments with online dating profiles -
Photo selectionMen normally covet youth and beauty so your photos MUST be excellent.
1. Pick five photos that you think make you look most beautiful - the best profile photo.
2. Create an account at
http://www.photofeeler.com/ . Upload the photos for dating; enter your real age; select who can vote on it as "45 and up". Obtain at least 30 votes for each photo.
3. Repeat these steps for a) a social photo/group photo and, b) an activity photo such as at the theatre, skiing, on holiday, etc. Something that tells a story about your personality.
4. For each type of photo, pick the photo with the highest "Attractive" rating.
If you do this, you will have your best three photos for a profile.
Put your photos into this web site:
http://www.how-old.net/If the predicted age is more than your real age, then you may want to pick a different photo or apply color correction to the photo.
Dating profile feedbackConduct a market-based experiment to see what men find you attractive.
5. Write your profile information.
When creating a profile, honestly enter the following information - age, height, weight, marital status (no children), profession and level of education. In the description section enter three things you really like, for example: "Reading Books. Yoga. Holidays in Bali." That's all, no other information. Do not put anything sexual in your description.
6. Create a profile on Tinder. Enter this information, put your best photo first and add the other two photos.
7. Select your partner's age to be between -5 and +20 years of your own age.
Do not use this profile for the purpose of dating. Follow these steps.
8. Swipe right ("--->") for every single profile. "Like" every man. Count the number of swipes, and swipe exactly 1,000 times. It may take a few weeks. Do not even look at the men's profiles.
9. After you have swiped 1,000 times do not use the account for one or two weeks.
10. After this time, login and count the number of matches. For example, 60 matches would be 6% of swipes.
11. From your list of matches, count the number of men you would want to date. For example, 5 matches would be 0.5%.
Repeat this approach on Badoo (press "heart" for 1,000 men).
If you do this, you will understand the percentage of men interested in you, the percentage of these men that you would be interested in dating, and the "quality" of men you are likely to date. Some of these profiles may use old photos, fake information, married men wanting an affair, etc. so the real percentage will be lower.
You can conduct a similar experiment on a website such as
http://www.elenasmodels.com/ -
http://www.russiancupid.com -
http://fdating.com/ -
http://dmnotify.com/ or other sites. List your partner's age to be -5 and +20 years of your own age. See which men are interested in you - their age, appearance, location, etc. The best 10% of these men are the best you are likely to date.
Personally, I don't like meeting online, but the benefit of online introductions is you can pre-scan thousands of potential dates. For example, I may only find 5% of women interesting (1 in 20), and of that subset of women only 5% find me interesting (0.25%, or 1 in 400). From this number, only half may meet for a real date (1 in 800) and of the women I meet there may only be chemistry 5% of the time (1 in 16,000).
In your case, many men will never travel to Russia, so the odds are even lower.
If you seek a foreign man online then you will get attention from Arabs, Turks, perverts, dreamers, losers and all types of men you have no interest in. If you don't like it, then don't create a profile.
I prefer meeting women in real life. Maybe you should try the same. Take up a social activity like dance lessons or volunteering where you can meet local men who share a common interest.
The only way to increase your chances of meeting a special man is to a) improve yourself or b) lower your expectations or c) do both.
If you don't have realistic expectations, you will have no chances and end up an old woman with lots of cats complaining that all men are goats.