Is it possible to find a real 20-year-old Russian woman on dating sites to marry her?
This article is written about Russian women. However, everything that is written here equally applies to women from Ukraine and Belarus.
Russian women traditionally get married quite early - about 20-25 years old. But do not think that this is the key to your success in finding a young Russian wife: Russian girls are focused on their peers. Most often they find future husbands in college or in their neighborhood. During this time, women in Russia do not lack the attention of Russian men and do not think about finding a husband outside her own country. We are now talking about 80% of the female population of Russia aged 18-23 years.
A certain part of high school graduates are girls motivated to get a high-quality education abroad. If their parents have enough money or the level of knowledge gives them the opportunity to go to college in a selected country, the girls leave Russia to study. They also believe that since it is still necessary to get married before the age of 25, a foreign husband is a better option than a compatriot. At first, they look for a husband in their college (as is done in Russia). Over time, they learn the Western mentality and pretty soon they are not different from Western women. After graduating, they decide what their future will be. Education in a western country, fluency in a foreign language provides a woman with good career prospects and a high income at homeland, and it stimulates them to return to Russia. The second way is a career in the country of study. They are career-oriented and get married at 30-35 years old. It is unlikely that you are able to get such a woman by catching her at the start of her adulthood. If she chose to live in a western country, you may later meet her on local Western dating sites, where she will not position herself as a Russian woman.
If the level of knowledge or the financial situation of the family does not allow a woman to go to study at a Western college (but she does not want to follow the traditional path and intends to leave Russia), she joins international dating sites - but she tries to find her peers there, not you.
In most cases, her experience is unsuccessful, as her profile is lost in thousands of scam profiles. You are simply not able to find and recognize her. If by the chance you find her, she will not answer you, because she looks for young guys.
Time passes, and she discovers that Western men of 18-27 years old are not ready to get married. At this stage, many girls abandon the idea of marrying a foreigner and they go back to native habitat and to guys with a familiar mentality. Some girls go further and accept the idea to marry a man 20-30 years older. You can try and find her if you are lucky. If nobody found them at that age, they grow up, gain experience, get an education and eventually get married (later, when their age is about 30). Their value in the marriage market of Russia decreases to zero, but their value in the international marriage market rise to 100%, therefore, most likely their husbands will be foreigners close to them in age.
If you are lucky and you have found a young Russian woman (18-23 years old), what going to be next? Does she do it because of love? Does she want only your money or a green card? Does she plan to divorce you in the future? Will you live together happily ever after?
When such girls agree to a marriage with a significant age difference, there are very few cases when they initially have a hidden agenda to immigrate through marriage, then get rid of it. Women at this age most often do not yet have a clear understanding of what they want and how to get it. Usually, they sincerely intend to build a family as tradition required. But if she looking for a foreigner, it is 100% she wants to leave her country. Of course, they would prefer to get a guy of their age as a husband, but they persuade themselves to marry a man significantly older for the purpose of immigration and do not feel love for the groom. Sorry, I hate to say it. But. Not everything is lost yet. In Russia, from ancient times, there is the proverb “Sterpitsa, slubitsa" (You will get used to it after time, you will fall in love with him later) that has been preserved, designed to coercion (and self-coercion) women to a marriage of convenience. A lot of cases, when a girl indeed does fall in love with her husband, but sometimes not.
In the second case, the girl waits for a residence permit and initiates a divorce (or divorces her husband without waiting for a residence permit and refuses the immigration).
Who else is hiding behind photos of lovely 20-year-old girls on dating sites? Lovely 20-year-old girls. At this age, they are still getting used to the attention of men. They are testing a new tool that they can use to change their lives. Some of them, having enjoyed the attention of domestic men, want to check their influence on foreign men. After making sure that they are equally omnipotent both in their native country and abroad, the majority return to domestic boyfriends who are always nearby and look much more real. The profiles of these girls remain in the databases of dating sites to attract a paying targeted audience. These are dead profiles.
Sometimes these girls get acquainted with Western men who send them money or invite them to a tour for a personal meeting. Not used to such generosity, girls tell their friends about it, share information on social networks. Thanks to them, a word about rich Western men who give money just for a pretty face in the photo is spreading all over FSU. This information attracts other girls. They have no immigration intentions, they are in demand by local guys, but these girls want to try to get their piece of heavenly manna, there are so many rumors about. Their interest is similar to the interest of a gambler who intends to repeat the win in the lottery if a neighbor won. They turn into amateur scammers. Such a girl flirt with a man, they even can invite him to Russia and not go on a date, because a real meeting and a real relationship are not included in her plans. Her interest is only the money that he may send her before a visit. Having not to get any money, the girl loses interest and leaves the site (leaving a dead profile behind). If she manages to get something, often she has satisfied with her trophy and leaves the dating site (one more dead profile). If she does not leave, sometimes, when she gets older, she becomes a professional scammer.
You may say that there are young women, who by their nature are drawn to men of mature age. They are attracted to the format of the relations “Pygmalion and Galatea” or “Father and Daughter”, “Teacher and Student”. Such roles cannot be found in relationships with peers. Yes, there are such women in FSU. But they do not have a deficit of attention from Russian wealthy middle-aged and older men and they get married before they even think of international dating sites.