I know many of you will lambaste me for even bringing this up when I am just getting divorced (should be officially divorced in less than a month)
Don't do things to make the peanut gallery here happy. Nobody here knows you and nobody
knows more about your situation and what's in your head better than you do.
HOWEVER, wait until she is on the plane before you do anything. It sounds as if your future
exwife doesn't want a pound of flesh from you, but believe me she can be persuaded to
change her mind (by you). Make sure as far as she knows that you will be attending a school
for monks, hermits and celebates.
Only you will know when you get your emotional life in order. None of the yahoo's here can
tell you. Will you need a rebound fling? It might be a good idea to get your sheets sweaty
with a girl who is too young and all wrong for you and stay locked a room with her until
you are both nearly starving. Do you need to get the idea out of your system? You are the
only one who can determine that.
How soon for the second K1? that's probably a bad title for the thread, but I highly, highly
recommend that you take a bit of time and make a detailed list of what you want to do, who
you want to spend the rest of your life with and to go over the various mistakes that you've
made in the past. Make a list of all the things you want in a girl and what things you could
live with and what things you can't.
Make a list of things you would like to improve about yourself. Do you need to start hitting
the gym? learn some Russian? something else? put it down on the list.
Once you have all that information out of your head and on paper, only then you can you
start to make a plan about how to find the right girl.
My next piece of advice is when you find the right girl, you want to get to know everything
about her and you want to be absolutely sure she loves, loves, loves you. You've spent
time with a woman who didn't love you so
DON'T DO IT AGAIN!!!! You want a girl who's eyes light when she sees you, who misses you when you are gone.
You want a girl who dreams about waking up in your bed every day for the rest of her life.
You want who a girl who wants to grow old with you, bear your children, wash and iron
your shirts and thinks about you night and day and you need to feel the same way about
her.
Anything or anyone else is not worth it.
I spent years searching for the right woman, but I can't tell you in words how good
it feels and how happy I am with her in my life
Udachi!
Bill
PS. I visited my wife 4 times in her city and she came to visit me twice before we got
married.