gifts

[theguide]

 I am going to see a woman for the second time and I am looking for advice on a gift for her. It was her birthday a few weeks ago. I was wondering what kind of things would an fsu woman want from the USA?
 Maybe something that would be fashionable?
 I don't want to give jewelry,  it is too easy.

[Lily]

It is your second visit, may be you can remember whether she ever mentioned anything that she particularly likes. You saw her world, perhaps you could think of something that she enjoys doing or having around, Hobbies, etc.

[theguide]

 She is an avid bowler, but I don't think I can fit a custm ball n my carry on.

[BillyB]

I am going to see a woman for the second time and I am looking for advice on a gift for her. It was her birthday a few weeks ago. I was wondering what kind of things would an fsu woman want from the USA?
 Maybe something that would be fashionable?
 I don't want to give jewelry,  it is too easy.

I don't know what you gave your lady in the first meeting but it's always good to give stuff made in your country. See's candy is good stuff and FSU women will remember that. See's Truffles are what I bring every time. A scenic book of your state and/or country since a book like this is symbolic. If the girl intends to live with you someday, the book will have meaning and it means you're giving her a glimpse of her future home. My wife said her favorite gift I brought the first time was the book.


Ask her if there's something she needs. She may ask you to bring vitamins or something else that you wouldn't have thought of. She may say "just bring yourself, that's all I need." I've heard that before....but don't just bring yourself, show her you're thinking about her with a few gifts.

[Patagonie]

Birthadays are very important.
You must absolutely offer something. Especially if it is the second visit.
A watch or a bag but something not very expansive.

[Faux Pas]

I am going to see a woman for the second time and I am looking for advice on a gift for her. It was her birthday a few weeks ago. I was wondering what kind of things would an fsu woman want from the USA?
 Maybe something that would be fashionable?
 I don't want to give jewelry,  it is too easy.

Regardless, jewelery is always a winner and a good fall back if you can't come up with something more original. It doesn't need to be overly expensive but it is or IME always been well received.

[Larry1]

Regardless, jewelery is always a winner and a good fall back if you can't come up with something more original. It doesn't need to be overly expensive but it is or IME always been well received.

I've brought jewelry a few times and the girls always seemed to be happy with it.  Nothing expensive really.  Perfume was also well-received.  I knew the kind she would like because I had steered one of our conversations weeks before my visit into such topics as preferences in perfumes. I bought it at a shop in the Frankfurt airport.

Little gifts for a girl's parents were more difficult to choose.

[BillyB]

Birthadays are very important.

Unfortunately the lady's birthday was two weeks ago and by the time theguide gets there, the delayed birthday gift may seem a little strange. I think he would do fine by bringing the standard gifts for a second visit and take the money he'd spend on a birthday gift and apply it to a very nice dinner and boat cruise. If I remember right, theguide is headed to Mariupol. There has to be some sort of scenic boat tours available.

[Maxx2]

I don't know what you gave your lady in the first meeting but it's always good to give stuff made in your country. See's candy is good stuff and FSU women will remember that. See's Truffles are what I bring every time. A scenic book of your state and/or country since a book like this is symbolic. If the girl intends to live with you someday, the book will have meaning and it means you're giving her a glimpse of her future home. My wife said her favorite gift I brought the first time was the book.


Ask her if there's something she needs. She may ask you to bring vitamins or something else that you wouldn't have thought of. She may say "just bring yourself, that's all I need." I've heard that before....but don't just bring yourself, show her you're thinking about her with a few gifts.

My thoughts exactly. That's what I did.

[ML]

Bring her a certificate showing you were STD free . . . as least as of the date of the certificate.

Also, it is a big hit with the women who don't want more children . . . when you tell them about your vasectomy.

Surprisingly, many FSUW (otherwise highly educated) have never heard of this . . . and say that FSUM would likely never do this for their partner, even when their woman desired it.

[2tallbill]

I am going to see a woman for the second time and I am looking for advice on a gift for her. It was her birthday a few weeks ago. I was wondering what kind of things would an fsu woman want from the USA?
 Maybe something that would be fashionable?
 I don't want to give jewelry,  it is too easy.

I would bring one of those large coffee table picture books of your area plus something local.


Another thing that was rare in the FSU when I went was marshmallows. Buy some high quality
hot cocoa heat up milk (not water) and then put marshmallows on top. Don't forget about your
potential future in laws.

Airport giftshop stuff isn't a bad idea. 

[krimster2]

ya'll better think ahead
and think about "grifts" and not "gifts"
cuz yur all gonna be poor drummer boys, with no gifts to bring...rum pum pum pum
when the economic collapse happens in the west in the 2030s

when this happens...
two cans of tuna (regular tuna not even whole albacore) will buy you sex on any street corner in America
WTF anybody wanna gonna go to the FSU?
dem dayz will be long over
ya'll better start lookin forward
insteada at what's disappearing behind you in yur rear view mirror

ya'll worried 'bout gay cowboys and mexican farm workers
instead of how the 1% ripped you off every way that they could YOUR ENTIRE LIFE, and how much poorer you are because of it
and they also made sure you were kept ignorant about how the system is rigged
because they rely on yur obedience to it

I don't know about YOU
but I'm REVOLTING!!!!!

[2tallbill]

I don't know about YOU

http://youtu.be/Tgz5-8chSlk

[Trenchcoat]

I would bring one of those large coffee table picture books of your area plus something local.


Another thing that was rare in the FSU when I went was marshmallows. Buy some high quality
hot cocoa heat up milk (not water) and then put marshmallows on top. Don't forget about your
potential future in laws.

Airport giftshop stuff isn't a bad idea.

The Coffee Table book isn't a bad idea Beel. I hadn't thought of that one.

While a large one will show the place where you live off better, it will weigh more for luggage and possibly cost more.

I always went with an item the area I am from is most well known for (assuming it is appropriate to give a lady).

I would say though upon reflection keep the gift small and not too expensive, quality enough but small. Probably in current UK money no more that £30, possibly something around £20 ($30 - $40?)

Basically you have no way of knowing a meeting will work out necessarily, very good communication beforehand might indicate that it might. However you may be meeting many ladies before you meet the one. So an expensive gift may be the unnecessarily given to the wrong lady. Apart from the cost you really want to know that the lady is into you for you. You also don't want to give an overly positive sign to a woman who turns out to be keen on you but you perhaps not quite so on her. That can be a case of digging yourself into a hole and an awkward place to get out.

So if it were me I would do something reasonably small, decent enough but not too big a deal. Like a reasonable priced fairly small local souvenir gift of something reflecting the local area a tourist might buy. Nothing real tacky, something where if she turned out to be your wife you won't cringe as to how tacky it is everyone you saw it but something that isn't too unnecessarily expensive either.

Usually a gift upon first meeting is essential and this is written with that in mind. Upon second meeting it is usually not needed besides flowers. If for a birthday without knowing her long/well then I would say again keep it reasonably inexpensive as the relationship might still not work out and you don't want to feel the girl is with you if thd stuff you are giving her and have to keep that up and feel bad because you don't know if she really cares about you.

[ML]

Usually a gift upon first meeting is essential and this is written with that in mind.

I never provided gifts on first meeting . . . except sometimes sex.

[2tallbill]

The Coffee Table book isn't a bad idea Beel. I hadn't thought of that one.

While a large one will show the place where you live off better, it will weigh more for luggage and possibly cost more.

I always went with an item the area I am from is most well known for (assuming it is appropriate to give a lady).

I would say though upon reflection keep the gift small and not too expensive, quality enough but small. Probably in current UK money no more that £30, possibly something around £20 ($30 - $40?)

Basically you have no way of knowing a meeting will work out necessarily, very good communication beforehand might indicate that it might. However you may be meeting many ladies before you meet the one. So an expensive gift may be the unnecessarily given to the wrong lady. Apart from the cost you really want to know that the lady is into you for you. You also don't want to give an overly positive sign to a woman who turns out to be keen on you but you perhaps not quite so on her. That can be a case of digging yourself into a hole and an awkward place to get out.

So if it were me I would do something reasonably small, decent enough but not too big a deal. Like a reasonable priced fairly small local souvenir gift of something reflecting the local area a tourist might buy. Nothing real tacky, something where if she turned out to be your wife you won't cringe as to how tacky it is everyone you saw it but something that isn't too unnecessarily expensive either.

Usually a gift upon first meeting is essential and this is written with that in mind. Upon second meeting it is usually not needed besides flowers. If for a birthday without knowing her long/well then I would say again keep it reasonably inexpensive as the relationship might still not work out and you don't want to feel the girl is with you if thd stuff you are giving her and have to keep that up and feel bad because you don't know if she really cares about you.

You didn't read the OP. Is anyone surprised?

This is a second meeting. You don't meet her a second time unless things went great the first time.
If you don't think that this girl could really be the one for you, move on. Don't make second trips
for girls unless she is really, really promising

For Trench only.
Get your mom to send you a postcard of Big Ben with a stamp of the Queen or King on it . You'll save
all sorts of money especially if you can get mom to spring for the stamp. Hopefully the stamp is a little
bit touristy.

NOTE for those not named Trench: Time your second trip so it doesn't coincide with her moon. The
second trip is one that you need to drink lots of fluids to help replace the ones you lost during sex.

Seriously, bring something to let her know what it's like to live in your area. Take a photo of every
sunset, flower or nice cloud you see, put it on a flash drive for her. 

If anyone not named Trench has a question, idea, theory or story. I will be happy to respond to it.