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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #750 on: January 08, 2018, 02:27:18 PM »
Hi Jan.  Great pics; thanks for posting them and the updates.
In pic where the gals are dancing . . . what happened to the bottom of Tanya's dress that previously dragged on the floor?




Well *I* can see it rucked up behind her knees - if you can't )

Recently took 2 Scandinavian Ferries ( The Finns aren't Scandanavian, btw ?!) and these discos are manic


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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #751 on: January 08, 2018, 03:23:02 PM »

Well *I* can see it rucked up behind her knees - if you can't )

Recently took 2 Scandinavian Ferries ( The Finns aren't Scandanavian, btw ?!) and these discos are manic

Scandinavia - Sweden, Norway and Denmark 
 
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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #752 on: January 09, 2018, 06:18:55 AM »
Scandinavia - Sweden, Norway and Denmark

I LEARNT that I had long lived in ignorance - in the company of many Finns - who put me straight  ;)

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #753 on: January 09, 2018, 09:54:05 AM »
 
even though its possible for an outsider to diagnose and criticize my family life in such a way, it's mostly non relevant noise in my ears.

So the purpose of your sharing all this is...?

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #754 on: January 09, 2018, 09:57:00 AM »
So the purpose of your sharing all this is...?


Or the question could be - why would you feel the need to comment ? ...;)


Thank goodness folks do post the things that are happening in their lives / good or bad ... there's SO many on here who just snipe and contribute NOTHING other than political nonsense that has nought to do with the FSU ..

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #755 on: January 09, 2018, 10:35:35 AM »

Or the question could be - why would you feel the need to comment ? ...;)


Thank goodness folks do post the things that are happening in their lives / good or bad ... there's SO many on here who just snipe and contribute NOTHING other than political nonsense that has nought to do with the FSU ..

Thanks but I didn't ask you any questions  so "why did you feel the need to comment"?
What is you name again?  northkape?

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #756 on: January 09, 2018, 12:26:39 PM »
Thanks but I didn't ask you any questions  so "why did you feel the need to comment"?
What is you name again?  northkape?

There's defo some sort of reading comprehension issues with some posters, today ...

Suggest to you and the others with the same affliction to READ - carefully - before posting even dafter ;)


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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #757 on: January 09, 2018, 06:18:14 PM »
Thanks ML,,, like me, you seem to wonder about how things are working :-)

Well, the devil is in the details, always,,,
Similar to the way it is done in comparable wedding dresses, there is a hidden hitch underneath at the bottom, sort of a rope made from the same fabric.
It can be hooked on the finger for temporary lifting the bottom off the ground, or hooked inside for permanently lifting the bottom.
Nice for dancing, like the shoulder straps that are designed for being used and looking good in the down position,
but almost necessary for (especially disco) dancing, in the upright position, (it has some clever design features for accomplishing this in a nice way)
PS... I will get back to you about the question of forced learning of Norwegian for Tanya,,,,,,,, later :-)

Doll,
I'm free to post, without needing to justify my intentions, for you or anyone else.

This thread has had a lot of readers since starting it, and I truly believe, that it has provided a lot of inspiration (and learning), for many a lurker passing by here.
A real life story, augmented with occasional documentary photos, makes it much more interesting to read, while at the same time adding credibility. 

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #758 on: January 10, 2018, 11:13:18 AM »
You don't need to justify your intentions - they are totally clear for me.
I just reacted on your "  non relevant noise in my ears".
As you hopefully understand, I didn't actually ask a question.
You're right- we all are free to post (some are freeER))))))))))))))))))))))

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #759 on: January 10, 2018, 11:18:32 AM »
I am glad Lena will get her boys back- that's the best part of recent news.

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #760 on: December 31, 2018, 09:05:26 PM »
How quickly time passes,,,
Another year behind us now, and tomorrow we are celebrating our 4 year anniversary.
Seems just like yesterday, when we got married at a Zags office outside Kiev, in less than an hour,,
one grey and cold January Saturday.

I'm 64 in a couple of months and Tanya 37 in the same month.
She was only 31 when I first had a short meting with her in Brovary,
before my flight home from nearby Borispol.

She had a funny incident in 2017
Arriving together with some girlfriends, at a night club / disco for adults above 21,
the two men at the door asked for ID, for verifying her age before letting her in.
Receiving it, they could barely believe she was 35
Here is a selfie she took before leaving home that evening:


Lena (my x-wife) got main custody of our boys this summer,
so now they are living with her and her new man, during the week, and coming to us in the weekends.

Tanya got her permanent residence permit in springtime, so she is free to leave, whenever she wants.
Anyway, we are still staying together, in spite of all my economical problems during our years together.
The last six months however, have been the nicest period so far in our marriage.

At the moment we are celebrating new year at home together with our children.

And the coming year looks so much brighter, compared to those behind us...
I got a new business up and running, doing very well.
All remaining debts will probably be paid off before the end of this year.

And of course some photos from the year behind us,,,,,

From a long weekend trip, without children to Hamburg, Germany in April:


August, north of Copenhagen, when driving home after a weekend trip for the three of us:






September, in Liseberg amusement park Gothenburg, Sweden, with Tanya and my boys,
how much they have grown in the last year, both of them now higher than me,,,,




Last but not least, I wish you all, a Happy New Year  :-)


« Last Edit: December 31, 2018, 09:20:46 PM by northkape »

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #761 on: January 02, 2019, 09:31:45 AM »
Hi North, thanks for the very nice write-up and accompanying pictures.

Wish the best for you in the future.
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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #762 on: March 12, 2019, 01:58:34 AM »
I cross my fingers for you man.
Nice photos
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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #763 on: July 11, 2019, 07:56:57 AM »
ML & Pat
Thanks for the positive contributions,,,
Even though our relationship isn't without some friction every now and then,
I still think that Tanya has decided to stay with me, for the foreseeable future.

As usual I'm still struggling with the same troubles I always had in life,
never enough hours in a day, or days in a week.
Always far behind schedule, because my innovative & creative self, is occupying too large a part of my daily life.
Often hurting my economy badly at the same time.
However, it's what makes, and always made life exiting, and worth living for me. But of course, not so much for Tanya.

To alleviate the painful burden of living together with me, I occasionally look for some cheap getaway for a few days or so.
Usually a combination of some Ryanair giveaway-tickets, Airbnb and a rental car.

That's what we did a few weeks ago, a trip to Italy for almost a week without children,,
partly fulfilling one of Tanya's dreams about visiting Milano.
The weather wasn't on our side, cold and rainy, but not enough to spoil the adventure of driving all the way around lake beautiful Garda.
Departing with a nice visit to Verona and then on to Milano.
Even though I had been here many times before, I had never seen much of beautiful Lake Garda, except for a little of the southern part.





Sunny and nice the first evening, when arriving in lovely town Sirmione at the southern end of the lake.



Next morning, on our drive around the lake, an all day long trip,
it was rather cold,,, and blowing in addition to some heavy rain showers.



In Riva del Garda at the northern end of the lake, the weather had cleared up.



So many times, Tanya wants me to take photos of her and her creations.
I'm usually reluctant to this, as it so easily ends up with her being upset with me.
She is an accomplished photographer herself, but has this distorted idea,
that I should somehow be mentally connected to her mind, when taking photos of her.
What I do, or my ideas, are always wrong,,,, I should have done like this or that instead of what I was doing.
This session was finished in ten minutes, with her upset, and we didn't talk with each other for the next hour or two.



Next day in Milan then, we were able to some nice shots without her being upset :-)



My lovely wife is soon reaching the end of her thirties, but still so good looking, with no enhancements,,,,
(in my opinion)



"A call from the past"

We both have an interest in architecture, design, handcraft, +++ past and present,
not to talk about art, nature, science, history, industrial ++++
So when travelling we always try to visit some museums, fairs, or local displays in one way or another.
And of course, what nicer place on this planet than Milan for such activities.
Here a history of Italian furniture,,,



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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #764 on: July 11, 2019, 08:09:11 AM »


As usual I'm still struggling with the same troubles I always had in life,
never enough hours in a day, or days in a week.
Always far behind schedule, because my innovative & creative self, is occupying too large a part of my daily life.
Often hurting my economy badly at the same time.
However, it's what makes, and always made life exiting, and worth living for me. But of course, not so much for Tanya.
Perhaps bite the bullet and hire a person or two....I know easier said then done.

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #765 on: July 11, 2019, 08:33:16 AM »

So many times, Tanya wants me to take photos of her and her creations.
I'm usually reluctant to this, as it so easily ends up with her being upset with me.
She is an accomplished photographer herself, but has this distorted idea,
that I should somehow be mentally connected to her mind, when taking photos of her.

What I do, or my ideas, are always wrong,,,, I should have done like this or that instead of what I was doing.
This session was finished in ten minutes, with her upset, and we didn't talk with each other for the next hour or two.


Three points: 

       1.  Your photos are excellent. 

       2.  Reading minds is not my forte either.

       3.  Not talking for an hour or two is not that bad.  My wife can go a day or two; however, we were never driving together and thus had space.

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #766 on: July 16, 2020, 02:36:23 PM »
Another year behind us,,, and we are still doing well,,,,
Once in a while, some cloudy days in between, but mostly the sun is shining on us :-)

Phil,,,, Thanks for the nice comments.
You are one of the most considerate and thoughtful men ever to visit this “web-puddle”

Yes, FT,,,, I had employees in many of my earlier business ventures, between 10 and 20 at the most.
Really the main reason, I want to go alone as far as I can get, this time around.

Almost everything in this world, I can do very well.
I am considered by many to be an above excellent salesman.
Unfortunately, sales is only as a necessary evil, that distracts me from entertaining and brain stimulating activities like developing new products.
I will never get rich economically, neither do I want to.
In most of my ventures, I was overly optimistic, and it usually created economic problems.
But it keeps me hungry, and never a dull or lazy moment to sit down and rest.

Throughout my life I used to say:
If someone wants to give me a million, I will go to the top of the mountain and spread it for the winds.
Money I can earn myself.
 
But this time around I’m creating a profitable high tech business, not too fast, stone onto stone, with no debt.
And with so much future potential, that my boys might want to carry it further at some point in the future.
They are definitely not like me,,
At their age 17, I had been working alongside school for years, and had my first business running.
Shovelling your kids into your own shoes, is in my opinion, a terrible idea.
But I just can't see how they can get out of the shade underneath their mothers wings, on their own.
Hopefully they might grow into independent young men themselves, understanding the world, without me leading the way.

Yes, our economical worries are still present, albeit a little softer in the edges these days, even when hit by the corona depression.
Tanya is doing OK, and finally decided to learn Norwegian also, although not completely fluent, she now talks Norwegian, with all of her customers.
And Sofia, her daughter at 17 also, is running her own business after school every day, and doing well.
Both of them  are now positive contributors to our family economy.
And things like having the latest top of the line iPhone, and all kind of fashion clothes and gadgets, they are able to serve themselves with.
Tanya is an entrepreneur at heart and can do much better, but she needs some pushing, which I have been unable to do till now.
Maybe next year, to help open her eyes for all the possibilities that are waiting for someone to act upon them.

And of course some recent photos from a few weeks ago, of my lovely wife :-)





The one below is a little unsharp, as it is a screenshot from a nice video we made

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #767 on: July 16, 2020, 05:47:55 PM »
such a lovely blond could easily pass for a local Norsk girl instead of a Russkaya

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #768 on: July 16, 2020, 08:37:12 PM »

So many times, Tanya wants me to take photos of her and her creations.
I'm usually reluctant to this, as it so easily ends up with her being upset with me.
She is an accomplished photographer herself, but has this distorted idea,
that I should somehow be mentally connected to her mind, when taking photos of her.
What I do, or my ideas, are always wrong,,,, I should have done like this or that instead of what I was doing.
This session was finished in ten minutes, with her upset, and we didn't talk with each other for the next hour or two.



I missed this, before.

My former Russian wife was rarely happy with the composition of photos I took. FSU W can be 'exacting' and expect one to know what is in their minds.. I found making a video and capturing stills means one gets a chance to be accepted ;)

Your photos are 'perfectly acceptable' ..  and thanks for sharing the moments.




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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #769 on: July 17, 2020, 05:49:23 AM »


Yes, FT,,,, I had employees in many of my earlier business ventures, between 10 and 20 at the most.
Really the main reason, I want to go alone as far as I can get, this time around.

 
Thanks for the update, and like everything it seems you got to do it your own way.   Lovely photos as usual.

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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #770 on: April 05, 2021, 11:48:00 AM »
13 years,
Or today, more like 23 years ago,
when I wrote by hand, those first letters to Russian women, half my age, in St.Petersburg.
Oh,,, boy and boy, did those letters, start that snowball rolling.

So it was,,,
the start of a romantic adventure,, through so many years,,,

I was used to always having aspiring beauties at my side.
But I had no intentions of marrying till after 40.
Only after arriving at 40, did I slowly realize how difficult it would be.
To find a younger, beautiful, suitable wife, to have children with.
I had no interest in those at home, who had a child already,,,
Or those who had gained both years and weight.

Yes, some amount of water has passed under the bridge…. since then.

Those naive, fumbling steps into martian dating scenarios,
made possible by a disruptive new invention,, the internet.
Mixing frustrating failures and joyful meetings with heartbreaking romances.
Then came; 13 years and twin boys together with my ex Ukraine wife.
Before repeating it all, in this story.
Searching for that needle in the haystack, a second time.
And now, 7 years already, together with my lovely Tanya.

Retrospectively; quite a challenging endeavor,
at times, like swimming uphill in ice cold water.
Then, suddenly not,,
More like the swift touch of a mild wind, when turning your head.
The feeling of pleasure, as your life is running its course.
Surfing midstreams, in a gulf of soft warm waves.

Yes, happy days indeed, moments of enjoying life at its best.
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What an alien, strange period of time, that has passed by in the last twelve months.
Not like we, here in Norway, were hit hard by the Corona at all.
But all of the effects it had, on so many facets of daily life.
My boys couldn’t travel to their grandparents in Ukraine for their summer vacation.
So they stayed with me and Tanya for 5 weeks.

With so many travel restrictions to foreign countries,
we made a lot of trips to different places in Norway instead.
Me together with boys only, or all of us together with Tanya.
Sofia, her daughter, has got a boyfriend, and had no interest in being with us.
More about that later,,, in part two maybe,,,

Travel restrictions however, hit both ways,
no foreign tourists were coming here either.
The fear of the unknown Covid 19,
even made a lot of Norwegians afraid of traveling.
Transforming the most popular tourist destinations
into ghost places, devoid of visitors.

The three photos below are from the breathtaking Geiranger Fjord.
During the last seasons there has been discussions about restrictions,
in the amount of cruise ships allowed, and tourists at the same time.

This year on a beautiful summer day,
there were no ships and barely a tourist on the plateau 5000 feet above sea level

Click on photos to make them larger  ;)








An here is what it looked like, ten years ago, when I was visiting with my ex wife and my boys.
http://www.northkape.com/Geiranger/Geiranger/Geiranger/Geiranger-22.html

Ferries are one part of traveling along the western coast of Norway.
With crossings accompanied by blowing winds,,,,



Youth has long since passed at age 66,
not that it matters all that much.
As nature was somewhat forgiving with me,
preserving the energy of my youth intact.
And then, for the feeling of youth in my mind,
what better than a (young) beautiful wife.
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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #771 on: April 05, 2021, 01:09:55 PM »
Wow North, what an interesting and even romantic story your words make.
I am impressed !!

Look forward to the next installments.
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Re: Update - 13 years later
« Reply #772 on: April 05, 2021, 07:54:16 PM »
Excellent update as usual!   Superb pictures of the lady and boys.   They look like they are getting along well, that is really great for you. 

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« Reply #773 on: April 05, 2021, 10:53:39 PM »



Somebody needs to cut the grass on that roof.
Fund the audits, spread the word and educate people, write your politicians and other elected officials. Stay active in the fight to save our country. Over 220 generals and admirals say we are in a fight for our survival like no other time since 1776.

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« Reply #774 on: April 05, 2021, 11:47:36 PM »
Thanks for the update, and keep them coming.
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