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Offline Jumper

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Re: need advice, please.
« Reply #25 on: October 23, 2017, 11:20:26 AM »
Quite a few times when we read these threads, then pairing that off with stories and people we've know from *their* stories of the past...I've come to realize with great despair and sometimes amusement, that it isn't always 'wise' to lead many of these horses to water. The best that can happen when we do, is if they don't actually drink the water after being 'led' to it.

Sad for gals, really, if you think about it.


Perhaps.

I'm likely more jaded and cynical of both sides of the equation.

Often quite wacky guys involved in this, that's a given by its very nature.

Often wacky women involved in this as well, probably not at the same level as men, but there are plenty I've met here stateside,  that the lift dint go to the top flat.


It's been a wacky dirty business for a long time, unlikely to get better.

And come on GQ, 90 day finance ,or *before the 90 days*, pales to reading here, and that's considered successful tv anymore
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« Last Edit: October 23, 2017, 12:22:51 PM by Jumper »
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Re: need advice, please.
« Reply #26 on: October 23, 2017, 03:22:22 PM »
OP, story sounded like I heard it before as I remember TMD telling it a while back on here. I haven't really the time to go into all the in & outs but I would say walk away from this bs situation and find a nice clean slate to work with. There is enough work trying to find a decent FSW that messing around wasting time with one that is known to have been dodgy is a big inefficient time killer you don't need.
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Re: need advice, please.
« Reply #27 on: October 23, 2017, 04:42:24 PM »
OP, story sounded like I heard it before as I remember TMD telling it a while back on here. I haven't really the time to go into all the in & outs but I would say walk away from this bs situation and find a nice clean slate to work with. There is enough work trying to find a decent FSW that messing around wasting time with one that is known to have been dodgy is a big inefficient time killer you don't need.

So why didn't you follow your own advice?

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Re: need advice, please.
« Reply #28 on: October 25, 2017, 07:56:51 AM »
Well,   I talked with him last night.  and  decided to tell him.   I met her.   of course he didn't believe it.  he continued to talk.   he asked me if I met her partner.   Irina.  I said yes.   he started asking me questions about both.  what they look like.   he asked me a question,  to trick me.   

"does Alina  have a tattoo on her lower back?"     I said no she does not. 

he said your right. 

I told him everything.   

he then started admitting he has been tricked.   and letting himself  think of someone.  who does not think of him.  Alina was the only one he wrote.    he even wrote to Irina.  but he talked about Alina with her...  he thought they were lesbian.  because they are in pics together.   in bath together.....in bed together.     

I told him these are just promotional pics for duo husky.     

I suggested he come to this forum.    but he didn't answer.   

thanks for the advice.    maybe it's better I leave him alone. 

« Last Edit: October 25, 2017, 08:03:33 AM by IamMaiC »

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Re: need advice, please.
« Reply #29 on: October 25, 2017, 08:07:54 AM »
he then started admitting he has been tricked.   and letting himself  think of someone.  who does not think of him.  Alina was the only one he wrote.       



Glad to know what you told him finally registered. A guy doesn't know who he's writing to at the pay to play agencies. Lots of money and only three years of his life wasted chasing a fantasy.
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Re: need advice, please.
« Reply #30 on: October 25, 2017, 08:19:47 AM »

Glad to know what you told him finally registered. A guy doesn't know who he's writing to at the pay to play agencies. Lots of money and only three years of his life wasted chasing a fantasy.

well,  maybe.    he also told me,  he told her  he loved her.    she said nothing about it.   I told him that's a big red flag!!     you tell a woman you love her and no response???    he said maybe your right...he didn't spend too much money....3 times a month he wrote alina...that's not too bad?  right?  he said it cost when he chatted.   that was his mistake.   

I'll keep talking to him,   maybe talk about other things.    so he's not thinking of alina while we do. 
« Last Edit: October 25, 2017, 08:22:05 AM by IamMaiC »

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Re: need advice, please.
« Reply #31 on: October 25, 2017, 08:42:39 AM »
...Often wacky women involved in this as well, probably not at the same level as men, but there are plenty I've met here stateside,  that the lift dint go to the top flat.

It's been a wacky dirty business for a long time, unlikely to get better.

And come on GQ, 90 day finance ,or *before the 90 days*, pales to reading here, and that's considered successful tv anymore
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