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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #25 on: April 09, 2019, 09:17:58 AM »
I wish

V is not rushing to sign the Decree Absolute and if she take three months THEN I can end it ((

The reason was VERY clear in paragraph  three of the OP.....  One of our members seems to think a breakdown is always the other persons fault ..

Guessing today's news has come a bit too late for you, hey Mobers ;D

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-47860144
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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #26 on: April 09, 2019, 10:03:31 AM »
was it Lao Tsu or his cousin
who said that if you know your enemy and know yourself
then the outcome of each battle can always be accurately predicted

what bigger battle ground is there than marriage
so if you “choose to engage” the enemy
without knowing the enemy

is it the enemy’s fault or yours

do not blame someone else, ever...
because if you do, you won’t learn from your mistakes
it’s a hard pill to swallow
but WE are always the author of our own misfortune
yes, the enemy is brutal, funny thing that being the nature of enemies after all
but don’t BLAME them
blame yourself for not being stronger, smarter than what you are
this is why YOU lose
not because of the enemies characteristics
most of you are just cannon fodder for these battles
and have no real chance at victory
as always
the fault is not in your stars
but within you
all of you... open your eyes...

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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #27 on: April 09, 2019, 10:17:41 AM »
Guessing today's news has come a bit too late for you, hey Mobers ;D

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-47860144

Never the sharpest tool in the box, Trench ..

Unbeknown to me, a letter was on it's way to me ( when I posted ) that my decree Absolute was through  ..Hence the wedding dresses ..  :rolleyes:


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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #28 on: April 09, 2019, 12:01:20 PM »
Never the sharpest tool in the box, Trench ..

Unbeknown to me, a letter was on it's way to me ( when I posted ) that my decree Absolute was through  ..Hence the wedding dresses ..  :rolleyes:

You mean you haven't learnt your lesson yet after two marriages that you aren't cut out for the marriage game, poor Mobers :deadhorse: :D
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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #29 on: April 09, 2019, 01:48:24 PM »
Guessing today's news has come a bit too late for you, hey Mobers ;D

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-47860144

It is stunning that the UK is so far behind times.   Is the rest of the EU the same?   

From the BBC article:

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Under current rules, one spouse has to allege adultery or unreasonable behaviour by the other for divorce proceedings to start straight away.


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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #30 on: April 09, 2019, 01:52:45 PM »
Remember the days back here in USA when one party had to go to motel with someone not their spouse, and then someone took pics of them in bed.

Without that, or something similar, divorce was not possible in some states.
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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #31 on: April 09, 2019, 02:34:30 PM »
In today's America, I contend divorce is too easily obtainable, especially when children are involved.  People and circumstances change, and divorce may be inevitable, yet reconciliation should be deliberated thoroughly.  Nevertheless, in many cases it is better for the children if  mother and father divorce and divorce should not be delayed.  Sometimes the two divorce amicably.  Did the old UK divorce laws delay the dissolution for amicable cases or cases where it was clearly the better choice for the children?

When divorcing the mother of my children, I met the Godfather of Divorce Attorneys in Florida.  He commented that Florida enacted  no-fault divorce in 1971, and within one year afterwards  over a third of the legislature had divorced their spouses.   Some called that a conflict of interest. 

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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #32 on: April 10, 2019, 12:54:43 AM »
Hi Gator

Under current England and Wales Divorce law, one party has to be at fault..'unreasonable behaviour'..  It is the reason most couples agree to,  to get things moving..

If one partner refuses to accept..it can take 5 years to divorce without their consent...That will change too..

The EU doesn't control divorce law...))

A little known fact... One can divorce one's partner using the law of another EU state...

« Last Edit: April 10, 2019, 10:09:20 AM by msmob »

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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #33 on: April 10, 2019, 09:46:35 AM »
Hi Gator

Under current England and Wales Divorce law, one party has to be at fault..'unreasonable behaviour'..  It is the reason most couples agree to,  to get things moving..

If one partner refuses to accept..it can take 5 years to divorce without their consent...That will change to..

The EU doesn't control divorce law...))

A little known fact... One can divorce one's partner using the law of another EU state...

No but it meddles in it but allowing people to use other EU states divorce laws, another good reason to leave me thinks.
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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #34 on: April 10, 2019, 10:11:08 AM »
No but it meddles in it but allowing people to use other EU states divorce laws, another good reason to leave me thinks.

OK, Mr. "I just proved I'm clueless", AGAIN ..

Do entertain us with the methodology leading to your 'conclusion'

(Edited to add: http://ec.europa.eu/info/policies/justice-and-fundamental-rights/civil-justice/family-law/divorce-and-separation_en   )

« Last Edit: April 10, 2019, 10:32:50 AM by msmob »

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Re: Marriage breakdown/relationship ending - Do you feel bruised/at fault ?
« Reply #35 on: April 10, 2019, 10:46:18 AM »
No but it meddles in it but allowing people to use other EU states divorce laws, another good reason to leave me thinks.

The EU can’t “meddle”. There currently has to be some connection to the EU country to get a divorce. That’s always been the case, even before the existence of the EU (i.e. a person with a connection to an EU country could divorce in that country. Conflict of laws principles then could come into play.)

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I certainly felt bruised and it broke my heart when i realized in few days that my wife had stepped in a like passion with an other man.
Fortunately i got it for the very beginning, the very first  days.
I knew that it was over because i know love and women for a long time.
I needed few months to digest it,  the psychological time necessary to not break totally.
Therefore i focused to succeed my divorce and push her to leave, within sight to rebuilt things for my future life.
I was largely ashamed when i discovered how my country (as all other western countries) was a total crap in democracy, having a double standards for men, and for women; in the family court, and even in the penal courts. I lost a lot of trust in the system. What is a country who can force me to stay married against my will for a decade? It's named a dictature. Crappy democracies. That's a fact. .

I liked the time i was married, now the memory of this woman is over but i rationnaly didn't forget how hight at risk i was because i was a man and because this system is a crappy hypocrisy.
My pain came also largely a consequence of this crap, as a matter of fact i largely distrust my country now.


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Pat, I feel your pain over this matter and am sorry it happened to you.

I wish the very best for you in the future.
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Pat, I feel your pain over this matter and am sorry it happened to you.

I wish the very best for you in the future.
Thank you for you sincere empathy ML,
my life is nice today and i don't complain.
Plenty of fishes... and i like to fish  :P
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