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Your preconceptions about the FSU and how they changed?

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Son of Clyde:
Actually the FSU was exactly as I had imagined it. In a state of change but many people still holding onto their old values. The driver I had who had studied law in the US laughed at me, as we were driving near a huge political parade, and told me Ukraine was a democracy. Still, I was warned to stay away from political rallies in the FSU so one night I stayed inside when there was a huge rally with fireworks outside. I still was not surprised to see the people walking around the streets showing little or no emotion. I found out to get to the heart of the FSU you must meet the people on a one to one basis or in small groups. The people are very warm and proud people and I sort of thought it would be the case once I got below the surface.

Bruno:

--- Quote from: jen on July 23, 2007, 08:21:02 AM ---Some of you, I know, had experience abroad, including in the FSU, before seeking and/or finding a spouse there. For many, though, a trip to the FSU was expressly in search of romance, and you may not have known a lot about what life there was like before you arrived. So: what were some of your preconceptions about the FSU before you went? How did those change once you began to spend some time there?

As appropriate, if you could include a note as to how many times you've been there or for how long, that would be great. Thanks.

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Hmmm... i am one of the "had experience abroad, including in the FSU, before seeking and/or finding a spouce there"...

First experience was with Moldova... i was not yet adult... a camp in the forest organized by a Belgium ecologist association... Second time was Poland, again some camp...

Once adult, begin my army ( Navy ) time... a lot of country visited... Russia, "Stalingrad" in 1986... during these stay, i have like Russian men and hate Russian women... RM was friendly and use any excuse for make some drink party... my only experience with RW was the obligate translator/guide who was following me everywhere... at the hotel, if i quit my bedroom for the toilet, she follow me to the door... she was huge in both direction ( high and large ), with more beard that myself... let say that if she was not with a robe, you have certainly think that she was a man !!!

After the army, a first trip to Moscow... by bus... from Gent to Moscow university... a little more that 4 days trip... visit poland, belarus and Moscow... great time like tourist... first experience with some charming FSU ladies...

1996... first russian girlfriend... married in 1997... a lot of visit to FSU... divorced in 2004...

2005... start the hunting again... Ukraine Nikolaev... She will find a local man before the marriage proposal... 2006... Odessa... new girlfriend... now, always together but not yet married ( will be soon )...

FSU was like i have think and read before the first visit... so, no real big surprice... but the FSU from 20 year ago, from 10 year ago and from now are different world... you can find a "reflection" of this when you date some RW... a RW from 40 yo is from the Soviet time... a RW from 30 yo is from the difficult transition periode... a RW from 20 yo is not very different that our own teener...

Air Dog:
I have been to Kiev thrice, starting in 1999.  Having grown up and joined the military during the Cold War, I was expecting some hostility from the residents.  I did not encounter any hostility, even when people learned that I was in the active duty military.  My future wife's family accepted me, and were very kind. 

Yes, there were a lot of dreary concrete buildings needing maintenance, and most of the people were economically worse off than your typical American, but they managed to live a dignified existense.

My biggest surprise about the FSU, after talking with my future wife, was how little politics entered into the daily life of most people during the Soviet Union.  I was expecting the films of that era to be propaganda pieces.  Instead I discovered musicals, good romantic comedies,and other normal fare.  Life in the Soviet Union for the average person may have had its difficulties, but there were good things too.

I/O:

--- Quote from: Air Dog on July 28, 2007, 09:51:31 PM ---but they managed to live a dignified existense.
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I would have to agree with this comment.  Dignified is a good way to describe how a lot of people live/ed in Russia and other FSU areas.  Economically lacking in many cases but quite proud and certainly dignified.

My biggest surprise was the lack of political knowledge both domestically and on the international scene. Geographic knowledge often better than ours, but very often no real understanding of how the world is actually working. 

Further I noticed some "Denial" regarding the break up of the Soviet Union, particularly in the satellite areas such as Moldova which really surprised me. An almost "Clinging" to "Mother Moscow" as it were. Again, I was surprised by this.  I had thought that perhaps many would see the reality of needing to go through a tough period in order to ultimately gain economic improvement, but such was not the case with many people I met and spoke to.  I guess change, when forced upon one, comes hard.

The lingering belief that someone "Further up the tree" needed to organise everything if anything was to improve. Very limited "Have a go for myself" thinking.  Again, I guess a product of history.  An example: With some friends, I visited a beautiful area south from Kishinev and I commented, you guys should get your act together, you could arrange international tours to areas like this. The response was, "Tourism is not organised in this country, so we can do nothing".  I just shook my head and remained silent.  My thoughts were and are, things will never change here markedly.

The unsmiling faces were a little daunting at first and I didn't expect everyone to be laughing their heads off, but I also didn't expect the blanket glum looks on everyones faces.

The beauty of the drive from the airport into central Moscow was quite a surprise and Moscow in and of itself was far more beautiful than I expected. Far more.

Siberia had long been a fascination with me. Siberia in general and Baikal in particular were my original reason for going to Russia. I just fell in love with so many parts of Siberia.  It was so different from what I had imagined.  So different.  The amount of forest, mountains and rivers just took me by complete surprise.  Then as I so loved as a kid in my own country, the sweeping, almost endless black soil plains of some parts just "Got me in".  (Yeah, no city kid at heart tis I)   

I have 9 Russian visas in my passport, 3 Ukrainian, 2 Romanian, 2 Moldavian and a couple of other FSU country stamps FWIW.  I haven't bothered to add all the time up, but it would be close to 9 months or more in the last 5 years.

2 things really shocked me. The coexistence of the very modern and the antiquated side by side at times and the standard of dress in general.  I remember landing in Moldova first and within a few hours ditching my travel cloths and making a mensware store a whole lot more economically stable. ::) ::) I dress fairly well in general, but there was no way I was going to slide under the radar with the standard of travel clothes I had with me. :o :o

The Asian pervasion of the "Consumer" market has also been a surprise to me.  I've noticed this ramp up quite a deal over the last few years, although cities like Irkutsk have a two hundred or more year history of this. 

I/O

jen:
Hi all,

Thanks for the responses. However, the thread died down without a whole lot of attention. I asked this question because as you know, I think one assumption many people might make about AM who go to the FSU to find a woman do so without knowing or caring much about the place. Probably this is true of some. Yet, I've seen plenty of evidence here of all the cross-cultural learning that happens through the process of searching (and certainly, through interacting with your spouse if/when you have one). Anyone care to share more stories of what this cultural learning curve was/is like for you?

Thanks, J.

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