Wife's friend in FSU wants to meet an American guy

[KenInUtah]

Hi guys,

Long time no talk!All is going great for us as we just celebrated our 1st Anniversary last week.  Looking to buy a house in Vegas so that is our main plan for the near future.

I have a question that hopefully you guys can help with.  A friend of my wifes, who lives in Moscow, is divorcing her husband (drinking, of course) and is interested in meeting someone here (like me, my wife said) who is stable and wants a family.  This lady is 39 with three kids (10, 3, 1).  She asked my wife last night what would be a good site for HER to go on to meet guys that are interested in a Russian woman.  My wife asked me about things like Match.com but I don't see that as a viable option because the guys on there are looking for someone local.

Does anyone have any suggestions of where can I can point her?

[Nightwish]

I have heard a lot of good about cuteonly.com, a couple of friends are registred there and they like it.
Its a monthly paysite and they seem to take down fake profiles quite quickly.
Not expensive for the guys and they can exchange contact info right away if they chose to.

[BillyB]

Long time no talk!All is going great for us as we just celebrated our 1st Anniversary last week.  Looking to buy a house in Vegas so that is our main plan for the near future.

Happy anniversary Ken! It's been a year. Man how time flies.

is interested in meeting someone here (like me, my wife said)

Does anyone have any suggestions of where can I can point her?

Where can we point her? Well....with you living in Utah and she's looking for a guy like you, I have to ask are you one of those old school Mormons that are allowed to have multiple wives?

[KenInUtah]

Smartass, Billy!  I'm not mormon!

[GQBlues]

Nice to hear you reached a milestone in your relationship.

Having said that...based on your OP, I would strongly advice you do not get involved in this. For your sake, your wife's and your marriage. There's so many things wrong on many fronts with your given scenario.

Just let your wife share whatever service/site she used to meet you, and leave it at that.Put the rest of your time and energy into your wife and your marriage. You'd be so much better for it in the long run.

[tfcrew]

Congratulations.......................

                                                   

                                         Let's have another next year

[whynotme]

Hi guys,

Long time no talk!All is going great for us as we just celebrated our 1st Anniversary last week.  Looking to buy a house in Vegas so that is our main plan for the near future.

I have a question that hopefully you guys can help with.  A friend of my wifes, who lives in Moscow, is divorcing her husband (drinking, of course) and is interested in meeting someone here (like me, my wife said) who is stable and wants a family.  This lady is 39 with three kids (10, 3, 1).  She asked my wife last night what would be a good site for HER to go on to meet guys that are interested in a Russian woman.  My wife asked me about things like Match.com but I don't see that as a viable option because the guys on there are looking for someone local.

Does anyone have any suggestions of where can I can point her?

Suggest her to take off pink glasses...

[Faux Pas]

Nice to hear you reached a milestone in your relationship.

Having said that...based on your OP, I would strongly advice you do not get involved in this. For your sake, your wife's and your marriage. There's so many things wrong on many fronts with your given scenario.

Just let your wife share whatever service/site she used to meet you, and leave it at that.Put the rest of your time and energy into your wife and your marriage. You'd be so much better for it in the long run.

Good to see you posting GQ. WB and hang around some 

[Anotherkiwi]

Nice to hear you reached a milestone in your relationship.

Having said that...based on your OP, I would strongly advice you do not get involved in this. For your sake, your wife's and your marriage. There's so many things wrong on many fronts with your given scenario.

Just let your wife share whatever service/site she used to meet you, and leave it at that.Put the rest of your time and energy into your wife and your marriage. You'd be so much better for it in the long run.

Agree 100%.  What happens if, a few years down the track, the husband you found for her turns out to be NOT the ideal person you thought?  It's you that gets the blame.  Also, I would expand a bit on the reasons for not getting involved:

1.  She's not yet divorced.  She needs to get that out of the way and let the metaphorical dust settle BEFORE she even contemplates marrying someone else.  She needs to get back into the swing of dating first, and I would guess (based on the ages of her children) that that's something she hasn't done for many years.

2.  The kids themselves.  For starters, three children, with the youngest still in nappies (so to speak) will be a turnoff for 99.9% of all guys, whether local or imported.  Even if she did find someone willing to take on the entire family, the husband is surely always going to be wondering if it's true love, relief at finding someone decent with whom she's prepared to make a life, or that he's simply a mule.

By all means wish her well, but stay out of it if you can.

[BillyB]

Playing matchmaker can make you a hero or a zero. Don't want them women hating on you if you hook one up with a loser. Ken, at a minimum, you can help her help herself. There are plenty of websites she can sign up for. Recommended sites in the Starting out section should be best. Exposure will help her find her dream guy. Also she would need to renew her profile every so often to make sure her profile is in front.

Some men and women enter this endeavor while divorced. Hopefully she's on the tail end of her divorce because if she doesn't list she's married on her profile and a guy later finds out, it may not end well.

She also has 3 children with one as young as 1 year old. Many guys will see 4 people to take care of if they marry her and be turned off. Her chances are slim to remarry so she shouldn't dismiss a quality man from her own city if he shows up first.

[fathertime]

She also has 3 children with one as young as 1 year old. Many guys will see 4 people to take care of if they marry her and be turned off. Her chances are slim to remarry so she shouldn't dismiss a quality man from her own city if he shows up first.

It is going to be an extremely rare bird that will go through the marriage process with a 40 year old lady with 3 small children, unless she is spectacular looking which will probably be a game changer for some.  It can happen, but the odds must be very very low, especially when you account for the fact that the man also has to be wealthy, and presumably level-headed, and decent.  Maybe a much older man that doesn't have much else to contend with might be the best bet, but that could easily turn into a marriage of convenience. 


Personally, I wouldn't devote much time/energy into this situation. 


Fathertime! 

[alex330]

It is going to be an extremely rare bird that will go through the marriage process with a 40 year old lady with 3 small children, unless she is spectacular looking which will probably be a game changer for some.  It can happen, but the odds must be very very low, especially when you account for the fact that the man also has to be wealthy, and presumably level-headed, and decent.  Maybe a much older man that doesn't have much else to contend with might be the best bet, but that could easily turn into a marriage of convenience. 

Agree with FT here. Not seeing it happening.


Billy was joking upthread but a Mormon guy may be her best bet tbh. They are used to large families and many times will adopt a large number of siblings even.

[GatoMoon]

Ask Donald Trump for approval   lol

[Trenchcoat]

Ken, are you sure divorcing her husband is necessary. It might be best for her to reconsider. I mean although many women don't like men drinking a lot (don't know why I guess the look is not always great) is all else ok in the marriage aside from this. If he can support the family well enough maybe she should turn a blind eye to the drinking or work out why he does it - it might be stress related so remove the stress remove the drinking. Most guys I think would bulk at the responsibility of taking on 3 kids and pass over her on dating sites.

[Boethius]

You've obviously never lived with an alcoholic.  Plus, in Russia and Ukraine, when men are alcoholic, it usually means they are not supporting the family, either emotionally or financially.  That said, in the woman's situation, it would depend how far along he is in his drinking.  Is he out drinking regularly, or is it a Russian understanding of drinking?

I agree with fathertime.  Unless this woman is a stunning beauty, which is rare, because of her age and 3 dependents, the chance of her finding a WM who is willing to marry her, support her children, and raise them as his, are pretty remote.  Just as remote as finding another man in Russia.

[calmissile]

You've obviously never lived with an alcoholic.  Plus, in Russia and Ukraine, when men are alcoholic, it usually means they are not supporting the family, either emotionally or financially.  That said, in the woman's situation, it would depend how far along he is in his drinking.  Is he out drinking regularly, or is it a Russian understanding of drinking?

I agree with fathertime.  Unless this woman is a stunning beauty, which is rare, because of her age and 3 dependents, the chance of her finding a WM who is willing to marry her, support her children, and raise them as his, are pretty remote.  Just as remote as finding another man in Russia.

Agree,  that is a lot of baggage for a WM to accept.

[Brasscasing]

Agree with everyone above (except getting Trump's approval  ).

Everything else aside this woman isn't even legally eligible to seek an international relationship/marriage at this time.

Besides, how does she explain "sill married" on a dating/bride profile?

One step at a time. Get divorced, get her affairs and emotions in order then look forward.

Brass

[CaptB]

Ken,


Congratulations on your 1st anniversary !


Capt B

[msmob]

1/ Congratulations on your anniversary..

2/ Ignore the 'sensible advice' of others and point the lady to one of the sites we discuss on here..

It doesn't take long to get divorced in Russia and if the lady is worthy - she'll find a sober mate who may well  be a better Dad.

I suspect quite a few of us have married FSU ladies who had had kids by guys who ended up drinking too much.