36yo looking for a wife

[supraman]

At 40 ,when i started looking outside of Oz- never previously married or previous children - i got used to being called "A man of many pillows"  By FSUW. Which was funny at first but did work against me .
 My opinion only --- i did not have a head like a smashed crab
                          ---- was not fat
                          --- worked for myself
      Which some how worked against me with some ladies from FSU .

  Due to working too many hours and only mixing with long term friends who all had children young - i simply never met any women worth marrying . With periods of dating and being single by choice . I also had maybe to high a standard of woman i wanted -So my friends told me
   My wife and her mother were sure i was a player or even a scammer ! After a few days she figured out i was telling the truth all along .
  The only advice i can give that works for every one is -- Stay true to who you are and what you want in life and a wife  .. All the best in your search.
   

[Anotherkiwi]

Yet another one-hit wonder who disappeared as soon as he posted his query - and hasn't been back.

[LiveFromUkraine]

I am unable to help someone if even the bold text quoting of BillyB's initial sweeping statement...which he subsequently qualified...is beyond you.

That wasn't a quote, it was a hack.  You didn't fully quote Billy.  Anyway, I and now another have confirmed Billy's statement based on our experiences.  You lose.   

At 40 ,when i started looking outside of Oz- never previously married or previous children - i got used to being called "A man of many pillows"  By FSUW. Which was funny at first but did work against me .

Thanks for the post supraman.  I'm sure they were just commenting on your well rested look.   

[supraman]

Thanks for the post supraman.  I'm sure they were just commenting on your well rested look.    [/font]
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LOl,

[Trenchcoat]

Yet another one-hit wonder who disappeared as soon as he posted his query - and hasn't been back.

Yes strange really, one wonders what they do with all the good advice we give them Hope it doesn't go to waste

For me I found getting into this venture, many questions needed to be answered along the way and I'm only six months in, perhaps it gets less as you go along and get more experienced. Though I can only think many of these guys lose heart and give up easily as soon as they hear any bad news. Thing is I think you have to accept that anything in life that at first appears rosy having bad news under the surface that should be expected, it's life. When I first got a good response rate on Elena's Models I thought where is the downside turns out from what I see that only about half of them if that aren't there on a scam/soft scam of some sort. No doubt in other pay monthly websites it's the same or worse, you just have to accept the bad downsides and deal with it I think. I can't believe these guys carry on without asking more questions as each circumstance can throw up new scenarios etc which even reading through the tons of threads on here may not cover it if one even had the time available.

[BillyB]

I am unable to help someone if even the bold text quoting of BillyB's initial sweeping statement...which he subsequently qualified...is beyond you.

msmobyone, try to make an effort to quote the entire sentence instead of cutting off a few words and again explain to everybody here how I made ONE sweeping generalization.

At 40 ,when i started looking outside of Oz- never previously married or previous children - i got used to being called "A man of many pillows"  By FSUW. Which was funny at first but did work against me .
 

msmobyone seemed to forget I said men in your situation can be labeled playboys. Being labeled a playboy is better than being labeled a loser. Some FSU women expect a man in his 30's to be experienced and wouldn't hold it against him.

While a man's past history isn't important when making friends, for women it is when getting into relationships. Men don't care as much but most women do care who they are putting between their legs for years to come.

[msmobyone]

msmobyone, try to make an effort to quote the entire sentence instead of cutting off a few words and again explain to everybody here how I made ONE sweeping generalization.

BillyB, Perhaps thou dost protest too much?

''Being 36 yo and never married is an indication to them that no woman wants you'' ...

Do you dispute posting this as a reason ? ...

Omitting the rest of your sentence starting with 'or' - which was simply another 'reason' you offered - didn't change the daftness of the first reason offered.

[BillyB]

Do you dispute posting this as a reason ? ...

I can't make myself anymore clearer in my last post. My dispute is with you saying I made ONE sweeping generalization. I made a simple request for you to quote the whole sentence and then try to explain to everybody here how I made ONE sweeping generalization. You are avoiding the request. It seems I struck a nerve saying RW may think a guy is a loser nobody wants if he is in his 30's and never been married to the point you didn't read the rest of what I wrote that the guy may be accused of a playboy instead of a loser. Go after the RW who think like that, not me. Other guys have stepped forward to indicate that RW think like that too based off their experience. This stuff has been talked about years on this forum. You're the only guy that seems to disagree.

[GatoMoon]

For Example if she asks for travel money to travel to see you in FSU when you are there send her the train tickets (not any planes)

If the lady still want to fly to Kiev (say from Odessa) rather than being on the train  (eg quicker and more comfortable), I would still think she is NOT really interested in meeting you - just want 'luxury' life at your own expenses.   Remember you are flying ALL THE WAY to Ukraine to meet her.

After all, all Ukrainians women are used to living in 'hard life'.  If you were local, she would've met you by cheapest method

[fathertime]

BillyB, Perhaps thou dost protest too much?

''Being 36 yo and never married is an indication to them that no woman wants you'' ...

Do you dispute posting this as a reason ? ...

Omitting the rest of your sentence starting with 'or' - which was simply another 'reason' you offered - didn't change the daftness of the first reason offered.

Your brain must not work too well today.  Billy IS correct, in some cases being 36 and never married CAN BE because no woman wants you...there are other explanations as well which have already been mentioned.  It is obvious to everyone but you, that was what he was saying. 


Fathertime! 

[alex330]

Like many say it is suspicious for women in the FSU. Just being a Western man raises suspicions to begin with. Why is he not able to find a woman in his own country? Is he a sex tourist? What flaws does he have that are not apparent? I was 36 when I met my wife and all these crossed her mind. True to FSUW form she did not hold back the questioning.

[ML]

Less than 5% of FSUW ever questioned me about why I  was looking in Ukraine.  None ever questioned about why I didn't choose an AW.  A few did tell me why AW were not good; sounded like they had picked these ideas up from other AM.

[Bobimy]

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Many of the women who you will be writing too may think there is a problem with you. Being 36 yo and never married is an indication to them that no woman wants you or that you are a playboy and can't make a commitment to marriage. Be prepared to have some explaining to do.

I'm Love-Shy. Hope this explains everything.

Have a nice day
Best Regards

Bobimy

[BillyB]

I'm Love-Shy. Hope this explains everything.

Not really. What does it mean? Are you shy in getting into a serious relationship or when it comes to talking to girls, you're shy?

Have a nice day

You have a very nice day. Don't wait another year between making posts. You don't have to be shy with us!

[Bobimy]

more than one and a half year ago I started this thread... I'm still in the same situation... I'm not have been able to find a wife... btw I'm unemployed right now (welfare benefit will come to an end in a couple of months...) I know this sounds like I'm a pathtetic loser...I live with my parents ... I have a master degree in Electronics Engineer which turned out to be completely useless in this economy (education is overrated IMHO)...  do you think I could stil have a chance to score a wife by being unemployed?
I'm approaching 38 now... never had a relationship before due to shyness... I'm starting feeling really depressed

Have a nice day

[Boethius]

I don't think your unemployment will be an issue if you can still support a wife if you look in Ukraine or the Central Asian republics (lots of Slavs there), and look for someone roughly in your age group.  But they will view your lack of relationships with suspicion, so I suggest you say you have never found a woman you wanted to marry. 
Have you considered moving?  You could get work in other countries, I assume.

[BillyB]

do you think I could stil have a chance to score a wife by being unemployed?

You should try to score a job first. If your priorities aren't in order, a wife won't stay with you very long.

[Trenchcoat]

Bobimy, BillyB is right you need a job or some form of income other than benefits. If your benefits are going to come to an end and you are going to be entirely dependant on your parents/family then you will be of no use to FSW as the way I hear it they have enough of that there. Even on a low paid job though you will likely earn way more than a lot of FSW who may be on only 200 Euros a month if that. Trying to explain your situation to most FSW will just be painful in itself, most will assume you have some form of income of your own and can support them somewhat not the other way around. Getting your act together is more important to you now than looking for a FSW. In any case have you contacted any online and what did they say?

[Boethius]

Even on benefits, life in Italy is more comfortable than lots of places in Ukraine.

[BillyB]

Even on benefits, life in Italy is more comfortable than lots of places in Ukraine.

Even if one can live comfortably on social benefits, most women will not respect a guy if refuses to work. Bobimy is an electronics engineer and if that line of work doesn't need him, he needs to find another line of work that does need him.