The point of FB / VK is 'lost' on me and even single folk who want to be contacted by / contact FRIENDS.. That's people one really knows / knew ?
Personally speaking, many ladies I know on VK, Odnoklassniki, etc have friends only profiles, now - such is the volume of clueless w.guys who think registering a profile will get them dates ?
You know I don't advocate either as dating sites,they are far surpassed by other sites more geared towards that. I'v already stated that.
But they are social media sites and just because some men or women don't want contact from anyone they do not already know personally, the whole premise would not be even remotely as popular as it is, if the majority did not want others to see,notice,read, and indeed interact with them.
Try posting in a forum where noone ever replies and see how long the site lasts.
You and jay can have your old guys opinion about it, I'm old too.
But to think millions of dates havnt sprung out of interaction on those sites, because you know quite a few people who don't enjoy being contacted ,hide their profiles etc , is a tad funny as well.
Intrusive?
Dear Lord.lol
What our society has become. I do so hope those people find their safe places.!
If a woman is at a singles bar and is approached ,its intrusive to some degree even if she was there to be approached. !
So what?
If she puts a profile on a world wide website designated solely to interact with ,people ,
well let's say world wide..
its intrusive to be contacted by anyone ?
How burdensome it most be to just not reply ,or delete a message.
The crosses we all must bear!
I mean sharing with family and friends only is not so very difficult is it now? I'm quite sure they can manage.
If you truly believe social media internet sites,of all things, would function viably solely off people only interacting with he circle of people they already know, then I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you.
Yes that's a big part of the sites anymore, and I agree they arnt dating sites.
But they function because many people do want to interact with people they do not know yet.and not only online interaction , people date off them daily.
I'll repeat I'm not advocating them as a great place to get a date,but plenty of single people do date from there, despite your ,and *many womens* misgivings.
But just think if we only interacted here with people we knew in person.And while certainly no dating site,how many people have met and dated from here? Certainly a few.
I'd cast as wide a new as possible if I were TC.
I'd use the good dating sites, as you e recommended, and I'd use viber and Skype to communicate and sort things out.
I'd be gasp* ! intrusive* and just talk to strangers at the market, on the train,at the bus stop , and yes even on social media.
No I wouldn't doggedly pursue strangers on fb or vk.. thats silly ,we agree on that point.
.But I sure would have a fb, and have interests in russian language groups, and locations, etc, etc etc.
and I sure wouldnt turn down friend requests from FSU women from such groups , or other friends circle of contacts.
I used to get them,and .often, and no not all were scammers.very very few were.
one very beautiful and intelligent fsu woman in particular lived somewhat near me at the time, which was cool ,back in Russia at this time, and yet still a couple guys from here have met her in person there. I met and dated several fsu women from the USA, who contacted me on fb or vk either out of the blue ,or thru a wide circle of online aquantences. To completely ignore it just limits things.
He needs as much luck and help as he can generate,and mostly a stronger sense of empathy and more,more ,and a I repeat more interaction of almost any kind with people he doesnt already know.
Just one random opinion though,
from someone that does wish the best of luck for him.