Russian Women Discussion
RWD Discussion Groups => Experienced => Topic started by: Trenchcoat on March 09, 2019, 05:47:02 PM
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This has suddenly come up again for me. Tonight I realized what a girl was saying to me I have been corresponding to. It's come up with at least one other girl I have met and I also recall another poster brought this up over a couple of years ago now (not a regular poster I don't think). At the time I thought it was a bizarre thing and I think many forum members thought it was down to the guy, but now I think for him and me it's not as simple as that.
Basically, it is the girl pointing out that she has already said/stated such and such, and that I am asking the same point over again. I feel this is down to the tendancy for FSW/Culture to be more direct, as someone said on here a while ago - they are not into dialogue they just give a basic response and that's that to that discussion topic.
Now I as a western guy am more into the inside & outs of every topic of discussion. It looks to me as if they think I am asking the same question twice when really I am asking her to elaborate on it or come at it from a different angle. Now I don't think she would really understand if I tried to explain to her that this is what I am doing. I think she would just think 'you asked me that and I have already told you, what more is there to say' sort of thing i.e the not do dialogue thing mentioned above.
Trouble is my whole way of communicating is dialogue based, it's what I've been brought up on. I really don't know how to communicate well with a girl who just replies with brief statements and anything close to that is regarded as the same statement she has already said. I met with such a girl already last year and I started to run out of topics/questions of conversion fast! Plus I was reprimanded several times by the girl for me having already asked/her already told me. Before I broke it off I ended up walking around saying little to her partly due to fear of hitting the same thing but mostly as I had basically run out of things to say and the long silence started feeling a bit awkward.
How do I deal with such women?
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Mate fsu women want an alpha . They always test you. You have failed the test you are thinking too much. Either go silent or rephrase the question. Never explain yourself. Mate you need to just get out there and practice. It's like driving a Ferrari on a skid pan eventually you will get the hang of it.
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It has nothing to do with being alpha. Her perception is you’re not listening.
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She s asking you to fight to be top dog. So if you want to know something just ask and if she gets all pissy with you just get angry with her. Either she will back down behave and be reasonable or you find her replacement. See easy if you don't over think it.
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And for god sake never ask a deer how to hunt deer.
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Yeah, because the hunter is doing so well. 🤔
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She s asking you to fight to be top dog.
No. She is saying you weren’t listening.
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No. She is saying you weren’t listening.
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Boethius is right, she is saying I wasn't listening because to her it sounds like I am asking the same question twice or more. Even if I do say much the same question we in the west know if we have already stated an answer previous that it means to dig deeper in response.
James what you say about being an alpha etc is true in some regards for FSW but not true in this situation. If you were to react angrily to her Im pretty sure it would be a downward spiral in most cases with FSW. The situation here I think calls for some sort of technique I guess but I just don't know what?
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The "technique" is very simple. Listen to what she said, take an interest, then ask a follow up question.
For example, you ask her what she does for work. She answers "I'm in e-commerce" or some such.
Your next question is not "Hey, what work do you do?". It should be, " The other day you said you work in e-commerce. What do you do specifically? Do you process internet sales orders? "
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Some women are just abrupt or interact in different ways. If it isn't working, and isn't a simple misunderstanding that can't be overcome, move on to the next one.
It isn't rocket science. If you don't get on in conversation, it won't work. Stop trying to make the photo fit into what you want to transpire.
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Some women are just abrupt or interact in different ways. If it isn't working, and isn't a simple misunderstanding that can't be overcome, move on to the next one.
It isn't rocket science. If you don't get on in conversation, it won't work. Stop trying to make the photo fit into what you want to transpire.
This I will give you ;) It may very well be a case of not being suited to each other. The first girl I met in Kiev didn't seem to have this abruptness, she had much more dialogue ability. She had near perfect English. This girl's English looks quite good but I think it is probably a difference in personality.
I will try to explain it to the girl just to see how it goes down but I think you're probably right in it being a lost cause.
Both of the recent cases of non-dialogue girls have been in Minsk. I'm thinking that more Russian girls may have this the most & also as Belarus is a more at work culture.
I think if I check out more proper Ukrainian girls this issue may be somewhat less common. The girls I met in Lviv didn't seem to have this dialogue problem at all.