trenchcoat Apparently she has a friend that lives here and this makes me wonder if she has a gameplan for specifically wanting to go to UK. Anyway she reneged on the idea of another place in EU when it became evident I was willing to accept this as an alternative/compromise.
you are a very suspicious man mr trench , who is always keeping his guard up
of course she has a plan for wanting to go to the uk ?? are you stupid ??
just reverse the scenario for a sec here
if you as a man where sleeping with a woman from iceland , and all seemed ok with her , she had visited you and all was good ,you had been intimate , she then offered for you to come & live with her and get married in iceland DONT YOU THINK YOU MIGHT WANT TO VISIT ICELAND FIRST ?? would that not be a priority for you possibly ?/ can you at least understand that for some people it might be ???
especially when you add in that you wont have a job , salary , home of your own , all your security is going to be provided by her at the start ?? even your staying in that country is dependant on her to some degree could you do that trench ?? can you not understand why that might be important to her , before she invites you into her world ??family and home etc
why does that flaunt scam for you automatically ??
you have been advised before you dont seem to have what is needed for this caper , which imo the no 1 thing you need is a good sense of who you are and an open mind to accept all sorts of scenarios and be capable of weighing up for yourself what is ok and what is not
your so busy looking suspiciously into every dark corner , idea , act & conversation , you cant see the light here ,
christ now your posting her family you have never met might be good to dump all her dirt to you ????
trench you need to step back , go and sort out all the old hurtfull stuff your holding onto and then rethink this adventure
you are not ready to handle the long term responsibilities that come with bringing a wife into your life and country imo until you sort out some of this other stuff mate , you are carrying your past with you all the time
that mr trench is a heavy burden that is going to drown you and any relationship you get into
mate its time to let it go and get yourself sorted first as a priority imo
its ok to not believe all you see or hear , but you have it to a max level that is crippling you
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