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Offline Trenchcoat

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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #25 on: December 18, 2017, 06:39:59 AM »
No - even if you haven't already done a profile

VK / Facebook, etc., - in my opinion - should be used to contact people you have met in real life

PLENTY of single,  attractive, FSU  ladies have profiles you'll never see - as they were already fed up of guys using the sites to hit on them...

I think to some extent you are probably right on this Mobe. The social media stuff I do in this country I pretty much keep to people I have met or at the very least seen/familiar with. The odd few I connect with of they have a very particular relevance to me/what I do, am about. Nearly all of those I have never met though I ignore/reject their invitations as I'm not into having a high connection count just for the sake of it. I prefer to have social media that is relevant to me particularly on my feed/wall. Having it end up irrelevant by having loads of people I've never met dies not interest me. Not that I spend a lot of time on social media anyway.

That said while I think I will concentrate most of my time on the dating sites since that is where the women are single & up for dating I may just give it a try on VK. I've heard that many women look for guys on VK not just the guys and while some may be more interested in local guys who knows is my thoughts.
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #26 on: December 18, 2017, 06:49:46 AM »
Trench I found your thread : Re: Third Time Lucky in Kiev

From your posts it sounded like she was the one, in love...  So what happened?  That was not even 5 months ago.

She demanded that she visit me next or we do not meet at all. Bearing in mind this would be all at my expense & to arrange visa. That and we had only met twice for a week on book occasions. For me there is something fishy going on if a woman takes this stance. She is trying to force me to get her into the UK. Why? various reasons of course come to mind. I know (like many Ukrainians her Father works in Poland) most probably illegally. It left me not convinced that she was fully into me or some other reason. I like her but there are many other women in the FSU which might be better suited to me who won't try and force my hand. There were some small minor issues with the relationship that could have been worked out such as interests,  shopping, etc but this I was not going to take.
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #27 on: December 18, 2017, 01:37:57 PM »
Not that I spend a lot of time on social media anyway.

That said while I think I will concentrate most of my time on the dating sites since that is where the women are single & up for dating I may just give it a try on VK. I've heard that many women look for guys on VK not just the guys and while some may be more interested in local guys who knows is my thoughts.

If you don't spend much time on social media what's the point in using them?  VK is useless for you if you can't read or write in Russian. And if it's blocked in Ukraine what good is it to you.

Are you going to just randomly message girls on VK asking them if they are single, speak English, want to date a foreigner and move to your country?
Sometimes your lack of common sense is astounding.

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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #28 on: December 18, 2017, 01:44:09 PM »
She demanded that she visit me next or we do not meet at all. Bearing in mind this would be all at my expense & to arrange visa. That and we had only met twice for a week on book occasions. For me there is something fishy going on if a woman takes this stance. She is trying to force me to get her into the UK. Why?

I thought you loved her or at least had a strong connection.  If you can't show trust in someone that you actually met and had feelings for..well...odds are you're gonna be stuck here for a looooong time.  Would you honestly rate yourself a good catch for a woman because that in the end is what you should be asking.  All you keep thinking about are ulterior motives.  It shows a lack of faith in yourself.

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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #29 on: December 18, 2017, 05:01:05 PM »
I thought you loved her or at least had a strong connection.  If you can't show trust in someone that you actually met and had feelings for..well...odds are you're gonna be stuck here for a looooong time.  Would you honestly rate yourself a good catch for a woman because that in the end is what you should be asking.  All you keep thinking about are ulterior motives.  It shows a lack of faith in yourself.

I disagree many guys out there may love/have a strong connection with a woman but if that woman shows herself to be questionable in either sincerity or faithfulness then he should of course take the common sense approach and not go any further with the lady in question. Her actions of demanding she come to me or she would not see me coupled with her shopping spree made me question her sincerity. What else could I have done?
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #30 on: January 01, 2018, 12:08:30 AM »
VK? Sure if you have a few friends already. Most women see men as trolls if suddenly out of the blue they are contacted for friendship by a guy who doesn't speak the language, knows little of the culture, and has no friends on VK.

VK works well just as FB if you know "somebody who knows somebody" as a contact and friendship source. It isn't a dating site, but neither is FB.

I would recommend VK as a way to cultivating contacts you already have, to advance your conversations past the email stage.
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #31 on: January 01, 2018, 12:12:24 AM »
Welcome back after such a long absence :clapping:, and HNY.
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #32 on: January 01, 2018, 01:02:37 AM »
Welcome back after such a long absence :clapping: , and HNY.


I sure missed him. Welcome back Mendeleyev


I got a VK site. I fill it with photos of my life in Georgia and some photos of me and family over the years. It is a useful tool as Mendy said for giving someone a glance into your life. I got about 10 VK friends both men Western, and women of the FSU.
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #33 on: January 01, 2018, 01:41:40 AM »
Welcome back and Happy New Year, Mendy !

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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #34 on: January 01, 2018, 05:22:01 AM »
Спасибо! Пусть все мечты сбываются желанья исполняются. С новым годом!
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #35 on: January 01, 2018, 05:30:48 AM »
Спасибо! Пусть все мечты сбываются желанья исполняются. С новым годом!

Mendey,

followed your link to your website...  http://russianreport.wordpress.com/

Cannot view the Anna P story in any browser ? ((

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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #36 on: January 01, 2018, 05:40:51 AM »

I sure missed him. Welcome back Mendeleyev


I got a VK site. I fill it with photos of my life in Georgia and some photos of me and family over the years. It is a useful tool as Mendy said for giving someone a glance into your life. I got about 10 VK friends both men Western, and women of the FSU.

I think you're right Maxx. I've just joined up and already I could see how it might help show a girl more better your life. From what I have learned on the other thread about the situation with the last girl I was with it could really help in a situation such as that I think. If a girl can see more of your life then it may help avoid distrust on the girl's side. I know it can often reassure me a little when I have seen the girls VK page that everything aligns and she looks sound enough. It also helps me get a better idea of her. If she see's I've got a fair few girls on there then a bit of jealously may work in my favour :devil:
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #37 on: January 01, 2018, 05:48:56 AM »
If she see's I've got a fair few girls on there then a bit of jealously may work in my favour :devil:

In your dreams, Trench ....

She's as likely to think you're just another internet saddo collecting virtual 'friends'.....   and block you

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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #38 on: January 01, 2018, 09:48:09 AM »
Moby, so much has been hacked on the site that it is difficult to navigate many pages. I am working on a new rebuild that is more secure.

I have pissed off certain personalities in the Kremlin.
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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #39 on: January 01, 2018, 10:06:19 AM »
Moby, so much has been hacked on the site that it is difficult to navigate many pages. I am working on a new rebuild that is more secure.

I have pissed off certain personalities in the Kremlin.

Figured as much.... ((


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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #40 on: January 01, 2018, 11:52:59 AM »

New Year's gift to RWD is Mendy! Welcome back Mendy, we miss your wisdom on everything FSU.
Fund the audits, spread the word and educate people, write your politicians and other elected officials. Stay active in the fight to save our country. Over 220 generals and admirals say we are in a fight for our survival like no other time since 1776.

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Re: Should I do VK?
« Reply #41 on: January 01, 2018, 11:33:04 PM »
If she see's I've got a fair few girls on there then a bit of jealously may work in my favour :devil:

that's why you're still playing checkers and they're playing chess.   If a girl has a hundred or more guy friends then you gonna be jealous too?  most people have at least that many friends on Facebook or VK. grow up.

 

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