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« on: August 05, 2015, 06:44:01 AM »
So hey everyone, as you already know, my fiancee will be arriving within the next month.

Is there anything that you guys learned that I should do pertaining to my apartment that I might not know?

For example. Olga bought a new shirt for me. I casually put it on and was going to wear it. But she instructed to me that all clothes must go through the laundry first.

So, are there any cultural living conditions that I should be prepared for? Should I buy slippers for the house? New bedsheets (or wait till she is here, because I know they want new ones)

And after she arrives, what should we start working on?

I know she needs an SSN, driving lessons, english lessons... what about the college equivalency test? Any other comments?

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #1 on: August 05, 2015, 10:18:00 AM »
Clean the crap out of your apt. She will probably still want to clean it herself. LOL I'm sure she will have many suggestions for your place when she arrives. Just plan to accommodate many of her wishes so she will start to feel more at home.
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« Reply #2 on: August 05, 2015, 10:23:41 AM »
Change the sheets?  Interesting enough I started a thread about changing the entire bed!LOL (mattress). If you have the resources, I'd hire a professional cleaner to tidy the place up.  I agree with Hammer, she'll have some ideas about the place as well.

To be completely honest with you, I plan to move when my fiancé arrives. I want us to pick a place out together and make it our own.  My lease is up in November, so I'm lucky enough to have that option.  Yah I do plan on getting a new bed btw.

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #3 on: August 05, 2015, 10:51:49 AM »
Marriage, file AOS, EAD, AP. change name on SS card. Put her name on some things, like a joint bank account, electric bill. Flowers in a couple of vases. Maybe a house plant or two. Scrub bathrooms. Supply of vodka. And lots of love....

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« Reply #4 on: August 05, 2015, 02:26:07 PM »
Scrub bathrooms.

Are you kidding?  That's why you are bringing the woman over!
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« Reply #5 on: August 05, 2015, 03:36:07 PM »
She is good. Strong, like bull.

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« Reply #6 on: August 05, 2015, 05:28:20 PM »

Is there anything that you guys learned that I should do pertaining to my apartment that I might not know?

For example. Olga bought a new shirt for me. I casually put it on and was going to wear it. But she instructed to me that all clothes must go through the laundry first.

So, are there any cultural living conditions that I should be prepared for? Should I buy slippers for the house? New bedsheets (or wait till she is here, because I know they want new ones)

And after she arrives, what should we start working on?

I know she needs an SSN, driving lessons, english lessons... what about the college equivalency test? Any other comments?

Go through your house and remove anything from an old flame. Go through all of
your old photos. If you have a photo of a girl and this girl is not your Mother or Sister
or Grandmother then get rid of it, exception if the girl is less than 9 years old or older
than 75 then you can keep the photo. Do the same with your computer hard drive.

She will be leaving things behind. Tell her to box up two extra boxes and mail it to
your address in USA and pay for it, she will still be leaving stuff behind but those two
extra boxes will be a big help.

Tell her to pack a little medical kit. She is used to being able to go to the pharmacy
and buy antibiotics, to do that here she will have to talk to an English speaking doctor
at a high cost. She might take charcoal or stomach ailments or some kind of tea or some
herbal remedy for anything from colds to diarrhea. She will have problems finding the
same thing here.

Bring flowers to the airport and have a vase to put them in at home. Do you have some
empty drawers and closet space for her? When she arrives she will want to take a shower,
I bought Angel Eyes a pink towel and wash cloth washed and dried it and had it set out
for her. I did buy a brand new set of sheets, washed them and put them on the bed. 

Buy bottled water for her. Our water has different slightly different enzymes and could cause
her system to have toilet issues.

Clean your house, make sure you have an ample supply of cleaning supplies. When you
are done cleaning your house is man clean. Which means that this house if free of visible
dirt, grime and there aren't any animal carcasses under your bed. Your new girl is going
to have a different opinion of what clean is. You see FSUW can see dirt at the microscopic
level and won't be happy until your house glows.

Buy a pair of rubber gloves and put them under the kitchen counter along with an assortment
of cleaning supplies, fluids, powders and solvents. LEAVE the rubber gloves inside the
packaging so that she doesn't assume that one of the many American girls in the neighborhood
hasn't been coming by to clean your house.

If you had a super secret hiding place assume that she will find it. Forget all about secret
hiding places, they cease to exist. Don't be silly enough to believe that she won't find your
stash of porn/weed/photos of old girlfriends (note a photo of any girl that isn't your mother,
grandmother, sister or your flesh and blood child is an old girlfriend!)   

Udachi!


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FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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« Reply #7 on: August 05, 2015, 05:33:42 PM »
Yah I do plan on getting a new bed btw.

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Good plan, that way she won't be imagining the vast number of women who you
surely bedded there. FSUW assume that since they are attracted to you that every
other living breathing female between the ages of 12 and 74 are dying to have their
toes curled by you.  ;D

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #8 on: August 05, 2015, 07:10:51 PM »
Clean the crap out of your apt. She will probably still want to clean it herself.



Yep, don't let her come to a dirty home.


Also clean out the photos of the other ladies in your computer or in your home. Get rid of that porn! Delete your history or you're history. Then again, maybe she'll like your style!


And after she arrives, what should we start working on?



Just relax and enjoy your time together. No need to work on much when nothing is broke. She's an adult and she'll adapt fine if you're there for her but don't overdo it. Let her get settle in and later ask her when she'd like to get a driver's permit, work or take English lessons or college courses.
There are people that will pass info about you and your family. Do not share info about yourself or share photos as they can search for you on the internet and distribute what they found since they are allowed to participate here.

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #9 on: August 05, 2015, 07:21:02 PM »
Change the sheets?  Interesting enough I started a thread about changing the entire bed!LOL (mattress). If you have the resources, I'd hire a professional cleaner to tidy the place up.  I agree with Hammer, she'll have some ideas about the place as well.

To be completely honest with you, I plan to move when my fiancé arrives. I want us to pick a place out together and make it our own.  My lease is up in November, so I'm lucky enough to have that option.  Yah I do plan on getting a new bed btw.

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I wanted to move too. I actually put an offer in on a few houses, but someone else got them because they offered cash, or it was accepted a day before my offer was in. I'm still planning on moving, but maybe in a few months.

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #10 on: August 05, 2015, 07:29:23 PM »
Oh... and about the professional cleaners... I thought about it, but from what I hear from you guys, I kind of think... well, what's the point? She's just gonna clean anyways ;-)

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #11 on: August 06, 2015, 08:05:07 AM »
Im not remarried yet but GF lives with me so I can absolutely agree with the above.
she WILL find everything you try to hide. Privacy?  Xaxaxa, whats that?   EVERY photo of a female 12-62 thats not blood related IS an ex or someone you are cheating with now.  She WILL see everything on every device and in a box.
no, its never clean enough. .. she will control the remote from now on
pretty much sums it up and we haven't even started on the US home.  I'm going to need a month head start!

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #12 on: August 10, 2015, 12:46:17 PM »
Slippers? Absolutely. At least 4-5 pair: one for each of you and then to offer guests. Start practicing now the habit of taking shoes off when you enter the home.


Shoe shelf or cabinet, and a chair or bench. She will want a place for you, and for guests, to place their shoes upon entering the home. Visit a European or Asian furniture store in your city and find one. A short bookcase might do in the meantime. Provide a place to sit and take off/put on shoes and slippers.


Luggage. Many gals don't have nice luggage. Some do of course, but you do not wish to make her feel self conscious upon arrival. Either purchase a decent set and take it with you, or do some shopping in her town so that she can arrive feeling "normal" and not like she is a poor immigrant arriving penniless upon your shores.


Bathroom space. Just as Bill mentioned for bedroom closet and drawers, she will need space for her stuff in the bathroom.


Bathrobe. They wear them--make sure it is new so that she doesn't wonder who else wore it before she came along. She will not understand that most Western gals do not wear them any longer.


Bedding. FSU bedding is some of the most beautiful and your plain sheets will look plain. Although the sizes are typically not as wide, have her bring a couple with her. She will not likely have fitted sheets, so that is something you can provide, but the top sheets are visible and she may just appreciate something more than just plain. Top sheets here in the FSU typically have an opening in the middle in which to stuff a blanket or comforter--it is stuffed in winter months to make the sheets warmer. Invite her to bring a couple of those style top sheets.


Keys.
These are not just necessary, but symbolic. I can remember in the 80s/90s when keys to a typical Russian apartment door were expensive due to the number of deadbolts and types of security doors. Some families had a couple of keys and it had to be shared. For some ladies, the fact that she has a key to important things such as the yard gate, the car, and naturally the house, can in some cases represent a symbolism of trust and freedom far beyond the obvious practicality.


Bus and train tickets.
Public transport is such an important part of her life now, that the absence of these will cause her to wonder why you don't have them for her. In a worst case, some gals might wonder if your plan is to keep her sheltered. Even if you will drive her everywhere at first, and in most cases she won't be driving herself for a while, if your city has buses and a train system, go out and purchase tickets now and have them (even if it is just symbolic) for her arrival. While at it, learn how to use those yourself so that quickly after her arrival you can show her how to use them.


Cell phone.
She is used to having it as her primary means of communication. They like to choose these themselves so perhaps get a basic one for her arrival and then plan on soon taking her to the phone store so that she can pick one out. Sign up for a home internet phone system like Vonage, etc, so that she can make unlimited calls back home without breaking your bank. Download the Vonage app to her cell phone so that she can use it as an extension of the home phone for international calling.


Computer
. Her own. Either a nice PC/Mac or a decent laptop. Nothing communicates trust and freedom like having a new one waiting for her.


Cash and reloadable debit card. You simply cannot afford to have her feeling desperate and penniless upon arrival. Think of how you travel--one of the first things that you do upon landing is to find an ATM or place to exchange currency. Even if it takes some time for her to learn how to transact in her new world, having the ability to do so transmits a trust and freedom that is difficult to understand. Imagine how you would feel if you arrived in her country penniless, so make this a priority. I recommend a debit card that isn't tied to your bank, just at first, until she gains confidence in how your currency works, and how things are budgeted in your income. Just as you felt dependent upon her when making transactions in her country, she will have some of those same uncertainties at first in your economy.


Refrigerator stuff. Mayo, the olive oil kind as it is thinner. Sour cream, Mexican style is closest to what she has in the FSU. Small whole pickles are something that she can quickly adapt to include in several salads that represent "comfort foods" in her experience. You will be a hero in her eyes if she pulls open a crisper drawer and discovers 4-5 whole beets. Those with a handful of potatoes may just get her involved in the kitchen quicker than you had imagined. A ready supply of onions and mushrooms (either fresh or canned) will empower her culinary instincts.


Tea and Sugar. Likely tea will be just as, if not even more important to her than coffee. She probably doesn't use artificial sweeteners either.


Chai-nik (чайник). You have seen this in her home. It is the small (usually plastic) tea kettle in her kitchen used to quickly boil water for tea. Hers is 220v and will not work in many Western countries, but the good news is that they are readily available in your city. I'd recommend having it in the kitchen when she arrives. For some cool results, leave it in the original box so that she knows you were thinking of her in your preparations. Kind of like Christmas all over again.


Supermarket loyalty cards. In Moscow, and in large cities of Russia and Ukraine, more and more supermarkets have introduced loyalty programs with special discounts for frequent shoppers on certain products. If you have these for yourself, obtain duplicates for her and have them ready for your first shopping experience together.



Gifts for her arrival:

Flowers. Good ideas presented already up-thread. Very important.


Certificate for beauty and hair salons
. Most likely she is used to using such services already, and this is one of the most thoughtful gifts that you can present. She may arrive feeling stressed and in general, just plain unattractive. That is a feeling, not reality, but you and I cannot change that feeling. So, invite her at her leisure to relax at a nice salon and feel beautiful again. Throw in a spa treatment as a bonus. You will be rewarded for this effort.


Fruit. She likely enjoys healthy foods, and fruit may be very expensive back home. Have a nice collection/small basket of fresh fruit waiting for her, and when shopping encourage her to pick out the fruits that she most enjoys.


In general, think of her apartment and try to have the things in your home that will make her feel at home quickly. Give her the freedom to rearrange and put her stamp on the home. Instead of resisting changes she suggests for the home, offer to help her make the changes she desires. In short, give her the title of home decorator, and label yourself as the manual laborer. In the vast majority of cases she will make you proud with the end result.
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« Reply #13 on: August 10, 2015, 04:16:19 PM »
Great list Mendeleyev👍

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« Reply #14 on: August 10, 2015, 04:40:51 PM »
Great list Mendeleyev
I agree, and put it into our RWDpedia for future reference ;).
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« Reply #15 on: August 10, 2015, 06:25:38 PM »
Mendy, that's one of the best things I've read in a long time.  A few good ideas in there I didn't think of

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« Reply #16 on: August 10, 2015, 06:58:43 PM »
Slippers? Absolutely. At least 4-5 pair: one for each of you and then to offer guests. Start practicing now the habit of taking shoes off when you enter the home.


Shoe shelf or cabinet, and a chair or bench. She will want a place for you, and for guests, to place their shoes upon entering the home. Visit a European or Asian furniture store in your city and find one. A short bookcase might do in the meantime. Provide a place to sit and take off/put on shoes and slippers.


Luggage. Many gals don't have nice luggage. Some do of course, but you do not wish to make her feel self conscious upon arrival. Either purchase a decent set and take it with you, or do some shopping in her town so that she can arrive feeling "normal" and not like she is a poor immigrant arriving penniless upon your shores.


Bathroom space. Just as Bill mentioned for bedroom closet and drawers, she will need space for her stuff in the bathroom.


Bathrobe. They wear them--make sure it is new so that she doesn't wonder who else wore it before she came along. She will not understand that most Western gals do not wear them any longer.


Bedding. FSU bedding is some of the most beautiful and your plain sheets will look plain. Although the sizes are typically not as wide, have her bring a couple with her. She will not likely have fitted sheets, so that is something you can provide, but the top sheets are visible and she may just appreciate something more than just plain. Top sheets here in the FSU typically have an opening in the middle in which to stuff a blanket or comforter--it is stuffed in winter months to make the sheets warmer. Invite her to bring a couple of those style top sheets.


Keys.
These are not just necessary, but symbolic. I can remember in the 80s/90s when keys to a typical Russian apartment door were expensive due to the number of deadbolts and types of security doors. Some families had a couple of keys and it had to be shared. For some ladies, the fact that she has a key to important things such as the yard gate, the car, and naturally the house, can in some cases represent a symbolism of trust and freedom far beyond the obvious practicality.


Bus and train tickets.
Public transport is such an important part of her life now, that the absence of these will cause her to wonder why you don't have them for her. In a worst case, some gals might wonder if your plan is to keep her sheltered. Even if you will drive her everywhere at first, and in most cases she won't be driving herself for a while, if your city has buses and a train system, go out and purchase tickets now and have them (even if it is just symbolic) for her arrival. While at it, learn how to use those yourself so that quickly after her arrival you can show her how to use them.


Cell phone.
She is used to having it as her primary means of communication. They like to choose these themselves so perhaps get a basic one for her arrival and then plan on soon taking her to the phone store so that she can pick one out. Sign up for a home internet phone system like Vonage, etc, so that she can make unlimited calls back home without breaking your bank. Download the Vonage app to her cell phone so that she can use it as an extension of the home phone for international calling.


Computer
. Her own. Either a nice PC/Mac or a decent laptop. Nothing communicates trust and freedom like having a new one waiting for her.


Cash and reloadable debit card. You simply cannot afford to have her feeling desperate and penniless upon arrival. Think of how you travel--one of the first things that you do upon landing is to find an ATM or place to exchange currency. Even if it takes some time for her to learn how to transact in her new world, having the ability to do so transmits a trust and freedom that is difficult to understand. Imagine how you would feel if you arrived in her country penniless, so make this a priority. I recommend a debit card that isn't tied to your bank, just at first, until she gains confidence in how your currency works, and how things are budgeted in your income. Just as you felt dependent upon her when making transactions in her country, she will have some of those same uncertainties at first in your economy.


Refrigerator stuff. Mayo, the olive oil kind as it is thinner. Sour cream, Mexican style is closest to what she has in the FSU. Small whole pickles are something that she can quickly adapt to include in several salads that represent "comfort foods" in her experience. You will be a hero in her eyes if she pulls open a crisper drawer and discovers 4-5 whole beets. Those with a handful of potatoes may just get her involved in the kitchen quicker than you had imagined. A ready supply of onions and mushrooms (either fresh or canned) will empower her culinary instincts.


Tea and Sugar. Likely tea will be just as, if not even more important to her than coffee. She probably doesn't use artificial sweeteners either.


Chai-nik (чайник). You have seen this in her home. It is the small (usually plastic) tea kettle in her kitchen used to quickly boil water for tea. Hers is 220v and will not work in many Western countries, but the good news is that they are readily available in your city. I'd recommend having it in the kitchen when she arrives. For some cool results, leave it in the original box so that she knows you were thinking of her in your preparations. Kind of like Christmas all over again.


Supermarket loyalty cards. In Moscow, and in large cities of Russia and Ukraine, more and more supermarkets have introduced loyalty programs with special discounts for frequent shoppers on certain products. If you have these for yourself, obtain duplicates for her and have them ready for your first shopping experience together.



Gifts for her arrival:

Flowers. Good ideas presented already up-thread. Very important.


Certificate for beauty and hair salons
. Most likely she is used to using such services already, and this is one of the most thoughtful gifts that you can present. She may arrive feeling stressed and in general, just plain unattractive. That is a feeling, not reality, but you and I cannot change that feeling. So, invite her at her leisure to relax at a nice salon and feel beautiful again. Throw in a spa treatment as a bonus. You will be rewarded for this effort.


Fruit. She likely enjoys healthy foods, and fruit may be very expensive back home. Have a nice collection/small basket of fresh fruit waiting for her, and when shopping encourage her to pick out the fruits that she most enjoys.


In general, think of her apartment and try to have the things in your home that will make her feel at home quickly. Give her the freedom to rearrange and put her stamp on the home. Instead of resisting changes she suggests for the home, offer to help her make the changes she desires. In short, give her the title of home decorator, and label yourself as the manual laborer. In the vast majority of cases she will make you proud with the end result.

Seriously, thank you. This helps a ton. I feel like this is going to prevent some arguements, such as "where are your slippers"?

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #17 on: August 10, 2015, 07:21:28 PM »
ice shaft

mendy has written up a great  list for you in the that post above

having experience of a new wife arriving i can tell you it is spot on accurate in every way

just reading his list made me smile and brought back many memories of these small changes in our home

my wife loves her slippers/ house shoes and her bathrobe or ''housecoat ''
she still cherishes her new luggage pack from years ago , we bought it in ukraine before she left for australia &  the bed sheets/ linen is all new  100%  pure cotton 1000 count thread ,

fruit just walks out the door in our home , similar with chocolates ,
likewise the potatoes and mushrooms !!

expect to eat less red meat and more chicken , soup ,pasta ,salads ime as well

your about to have a life changing experience when your wife arrives , embrace it and show her your love every day in small ways ,.

the reward is unbelievable  ;) ;D ;D ;D

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #18 on: August 10, 2015, 08:00:29 PM »


Great list Mendy and I'll use your list to describe what I did in preparation for my wife's arrival.


Slippers?  I don't wear them and took her shopping for ones she likes. We don't keep spare slippers in the house but we do have a policy of having guests take off their shoes before walking around the house.


Shoe shelf or cabinet, and a chair or bench. We got closet for shoes and coats and a bench at the front door hallway.


Luggage. When I visited my wife before she came over. I gave her my best pieces and took the worst one back home with me.


Bathroom space. My wife took most of it. Too many crèmes and cosmetics!


Bathrobe. She wears them, I don't. Got her one shopping shortly after I arrived. I wanted her to pick the one she wanted.


Bedding. Again, shopping so she can choose what she likes.


Keys.
Got them for her.


Bus and train tickets.
I showed her how to use the bus but I always told her to call my mom or sister up first if she needed to go somewhere. I think it's best when family gets involved and they can bond with the wife. Most family and friends will naturally be skeptical of your wife but time reveals all.


Cell phone.
Got it.


Computer
. Got her own computer and she uses it almost everyday to talk to family back home.


Cash and reloadable debit card. Gave her cash, debit card and put her name on my credit cards.


Refrigerator stuff. Mayo, the olive oil kind as it is thinner. Sour cream, Mexican style is closest to what she has in the FSU. Small whole pickles  I took her food shopping soon after she arrived. Fortunately there is a big FSU community in my area and there are plenty of Eastern European food markets that sell the stuff from back home. I also wanted her to relax and get settled in and took her to restaurants often in her first few weeks here.


Tea and Sugar. I got sugar and black tea but she likes other types of tea. Shopping solved the issue.


Chai-nik (чайник). I always use that for my tea so didn't need to purchase one.


Supermarket loyalty cards. In America, cards aren't necessary since one can give the phone number so I let her know to give my number to the cashier every time she buys something.


Gifts for her arrival: I wrapped the gifts and put them on the bed. Hair dryer and other ladies things were part of the gifts.


Flowers. I brought some to the airport. These memories are important for women.


Certificate for beauty and hair salons
. I drive her there and now she drives herself.


Fruit. We bought some shopping together.


In general, think of her apartment and try to have the things in your home that will make her feel at home quickly. Give her the freedom to rearrange and put her stamp on the home. Instead of resisting changes she suggests for the home, offer to help her make the changes she desires. In short, give her the title of home decorator, and label yourself as the manual laborer. In the vast majority of cases she will make you proud with the end result.
I told my wife she can decorate the house anyway she liked. She painted most rooms and we did some remodeling and moving furniture around. If a guy can make his lady feel wanted and needed, she will feel she has a purpose and adjust to her new man, new home and new culture better.
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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #19 on: August 10, 2015, 08:30:45 PM »

Gifts for her arrival: Hair dryer and other ladies things were part of the gifts.

Generally speaking, they don't like to receive things that your other ladies have used.
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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #20 on: August 10, 2015, 08:44:05 PM »
Generally speaking, they don't like to receive things that your other ladies have used.

pretty sure he meant all NEW '' other ladys things '', not preloved other ladys things  :) :) :) :)

but you never know  :D

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #21 on: August 10, 2015, 08:47:08 PM »
pretty sure he meant all NEW '' other ladys things '', not preloved other ladys things  :) :) :) :)

but you never know  :D

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #22 on: August 11, 2015, 02:55:08 AM »
Thanks, and please continue to add to the ideas. I hope that your lady will enjoy and respond to everything you do for her arrival.

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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #23 on: August 14, 2015, 12:49:39 PM »
Did you get a new bed?
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Re: Preparing for wifey to come
« Reply #24 on: August 14, 2015, 01:04:15 PM »
Did you get a new bed?

I started a thread about that very same question.lol. I intend to get one before my P gets here.

 

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