Russian women that are already living in the u.s.? need advice

[Trenchcoat]

I would say that if shd is 'aloof' then she might not be all that into OP before meeting him. Odds are that probably won't change upon meeting, it can do if she feels he came across better upon meeting but it often doesn't. I'm not saying don't make the journey as experience counts, but a person in such a position as OP I wouldn't take it for granted that she is into him, or that even if she wants the relationship to continue he should continue with it. A lot depends on how much the woman wants to interact with you on whatever format of communication. A lot of wanting to communicate with you say daily is good, little wanting to communicate with you, say a message once in a while is usually bad.

I don't think you have to be fabulously wealthy for this venture, I'm not but unless your getting decent investment income or can live of a vast fortune then you need a job as a bare minimum requirement. The problem if you don't is that it puts you in the wrong position in the relationship. My feeling is that the relationship won't be chiming right, the girl will be carrying the guy and that probably won't feel that the relationship is working before long to her. Depending on what she earns even a low salary job could be enough. The guy needs to avoid being the junior in the relationship for it to work I think. Sure there are exceptions if the guy is very handsome, very good socially, gym body physique, etc but in general the woman wants the guy to lead the way at least in some respect not follow.

[2tallbill]

I would say that if shd is 'aloof' then she might not be all that into OP before meeting him. Odds are that probably won't change upon meeting, it can do if she feels he came across better upon meeting but it often doesn't.

How many meetings with FSUW have you had? This was a common Moby argument
to use the authority fallacy to claim he knows all (he was also a compulsive liar about
his experiences). However in this situation, I will ask because I doubt that you've met
5 different FSU girls for romantic meetings.   

FSUW are often aloof before meeting in person. Much less aloof if you can make them
laugh before your meeting. They are almost certainly not going to say, HEY let's share my
bed before meeting him.

The OP in my opinion comes across as a very insecure and ignorant of most things
especially about the FSU, USCIS and women in general.

[Trenchcoat]

How many meetings with FSUW have you had? This was a common Moby argument
to use the authority fallacy to claim he knows all (he was also a compulsive liar about
his experiences). However in this situation, I will ask because I doubt that you've met
5 different FSU girls for romantic meetings.   

FSUW are often aloof before meeting in person. Much less aloof if you can make them
laugh before your meeting. They are almost certainly not going to say, HEY let's share my
bed before meeting him.

The OP in my opinion comes across as a very insecure and ignorant of most things
especially about the FSU, USCIS and women in general.

I've met 8 different FSW for a romantic date including the present one all with varying outcomes and lengths of date.

Aloof may vary depending on the girl before meeting and what is considered aloof. That OP singles it out means to my mind that she is either very aloof or he is very sensitive. My guess is that she is very aloof and is so because she is not so bothered about him as she doesn't regard him so well, it happens.

I've done many messages to many FSW over the years, I couldn't guess how many but enough I think. One of the things that stands out the most is the level of response almost always dictates how that woman feels about you. If it's short messages you are recieving, a sentence or two, even if you try to stoke it a bit it's usually throwing good time and effort after bad and the girl will drop off before long.

It's better not to bother with those girls in time & effort the payback is not usually there. Give back the tine & effort you receive I say, if you get a sentence then just send back a sentence, that's if you are even bothered at all. In general focus attention on women that are communitive with you. If you find her aloof then that too can potentially be a bad sign in my book, that she doesn't regard you, similar to if she doesn't put much effort into her responses.

In general someone setting out on this search needs to find someone who is highly communitive to them, whether in messaging, video chat, etc. I've met girls who are communitive and it's not worked out. Generally they weren't communitive enough, they had interest there for whatever reason but they weren't highly interested enough as they weren't highly communitive enough.

There is always the exception to the rule but I would say to any new starter that they should keep searching until they find someone highly communitive with them that after a few days or couple of weeks or so they want to communicate with you every day more or less if not sooner. A girl who isn't that bothered about communicating with you as frequently as that isn't that bothered about you!

[krimster2]

take your insight and then you should research "Neuro Linguistic Programming"

this was a popular pursuit for "hipsters" back in the 80s in California

[2tallbill]

Aloof may vary depending on the girl before meeting and what is considered aloof.

He has repeatedly questioned whether she is real or not and if she is trying to use him as
a means to get a green card or citizenship. He knows nothing of which he speaks, his friends
are worse. He doesn't have a job and is wondering if she might offer to let him sleep over.

How would an FSUW react to all of that in your experience/opinion? In my opinion he is lucky
she is ONLY a bit aloof.