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Offline rjd400

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Relationship Rant
« on: November 30, 2009, 12:34:42 PM »
Not 100% sure if this is the right place for this...but it seemed right...

So, any of you who may recall, I had dated a Ukrainian girl (living here in the US) a while back.  We broke it off.  She was married, but SUPPOSEDLY getting divorced due to the horrible treatment by her husband (also Ukrainian).  However as time went by, it started to seem like she wasn't serious about it, and I had no interest in having just an affair.  I was with her only because she seemed like she was a sincere, loving person in a bad relationship.  The "white knight" thing kicked in and I was a gonner....but luckily I came to my senses and ended it...for a while anyway...

You may also recall that I was then corresponding with a girl from the Ukraine and was slated to go over there mid December.  Things were progressing nicely.  Seemed like she was on the up and up and not a scammer.  However, I think I made a STUPID mistake...the Ukrainian girl here (the one I was dating) gave me the old midnight call about how she loved me, how it could work, she was serious, blah blah blah.  Yep, you guessed it, hook, line and sinker I went.  Just stopped communicating with the gal in Ukraine.  Rude and dumb, I know.  But I justified it by trying to tell myself that she was probably a scammer.

Needless to say, though this time was probably the most serious the gal here ever seemed, but still fell way short of actually doing what she said. 

So I sent an apology letter to the gal in the Ukraine.  Not a "try and make up" letter, but I sincerely felt bad for cutting off the communication like that.  No reply at all.  Not unexpected.  But what was kinda funny is that I'm pretty sure she's not a scammer now, cause if she was, I'm sure she would have responded that everything was okay, let's start talking again.

Too bad for me.  Live and learn right.  :wallbash:

Rant over.

Offline BillyB

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Re: Relationship Rant
« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2009, 12:59:41 PM »

 I had dated a Ukrainian girl (living here in the US) a while back.    She was married,

I've communicated with a few local RW in the States who confessed they were married but just looking for fun. One told me to invite her out for dancing and a few drinks since her America husband is out of town for a few months. I don't know if she wanted to use me or wanted to have an affair because I didn't take her out.

It's best to leave married people alone. Do not try to sabatoge their marriage with an affair or break it up convincing them to leave their spouse. If she says she's abused, do not believe her 100% but help her by giving information to call organizations to help abused people. If she REALLY needs help, there's not much you can do that certain organizations and a professional counselor can do better. Also when you leave married people alone, you have less chance on being shot.
« Last Edit: November 30, 2009, 01:01:16 PM by BillyB »
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Re: Relationship Rant
« Reply #2 on: November 30, 2009, 03:43:54 PM »
But what was kinda funny is that I'm pretty sure she's not a scammer now, cause if she was, I'm sure she would have responded that everything was okay, let's start talking again.

It's kinda funny but I am almost sure now she took you to be a sex tourist... They also normally disappear and then appear with apologies  :ROFL:

It's your problem if you take my posts too seriously.

Offline rjd400

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Re: Relationship Rant
« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2009, 09:49:38 AM »
It's kinda funny but I am almost sure now she took you to be a sex tourist... They also normally disappear and then appear with apologies  :ROFL:



I really hope she didn't think that (I don't think should did).  I know it's kinda funny, but I'm actually concerned about someones opinion of me thousands of miles away who, now, I'll never even meet.  Go figure!   :noidea:

Offline groovlstk

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Re: Relationship Rant
« Reply #4 on: December 01, 2009, 11:20:23 AM »
She was married, but SUPPOSEDLY getting divorced due to the horrible treatment by her husband (also Ukrainian).  However as time went by, it started to seem like she wasn't serious about it, and I had no interest in having just an affair.  I was with her only because she seemed like she was a sincere, loving person in a bad relationship.  The "white knight" thing kicked in and I was a gonner....but luckily I came to my senses and ended it...for a while anyway...

I know quite a few women like this in the US, all are unhappily married to Americans or expat Russians. The distinction is that they are dating other guys not for fun but to ultimately find a guy worthy enough (in terms of finances as much as personality) to dump their poor one-week-wonder husbands for and settle down with.

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Re: Relationship Rant
« Reply #5 on: December 01, 2009, 11:33:31 AM »
I agree with BillyB completely.

As for affairs with married women, it doesn't matter if they are RW or AW. It's just women in general. She was just looking for a bit of fun but in the end felt more secure in the marriage. In other words, she probably wasn't very serious.

 

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