Survival Football, Confidence, and Choosing a Wife from the FSU

[Markus]

3 Years ago I somehow picked 15 of 16 teams to win and won the pot. In Survival Football, after you pick a team to win and that team wins, you move on to the next week
but you can never pick your team who won again during the season. This year, I'm out on the first week; Thanks to the Chargers. For our British readers I'm talking about football,
not soccer. How does this relate to picking a wife? Well, I don't have a clue but I thought I would try. In picking my teams this year and in the past, I'll admit, I am not an NFL guru
and chose beginning teams based upon the previous year. Once the year begins, if you get past the first week, you determine the strength of teams.

When choosing a wife from the FSU, how does a man determine if he has chosen a wife that falls into the "weak team" category? Well, keeping with my analogy, in the beginning,
you don't know nor can you know.  I was confident in choosing the lady I wanted to marry through 3 months of writing, then I met her in person, and knew I wanted to marry her
very soon after meeting her. I was also confident that the Chargers would beat the Kansas City Chiefs. The difference is that I communicated via letter and phone, both of which I
needed an interpretor, and I had not communicated at all nor had followed the players on the teams above.

According to the opinions, I violated 2 rules, one of which I created by my method. 1) I targeted a lady who didn't speak English. If I had to choose again between two 29 year old ladies
where one didn't speak English, today, I will would still go after the best looking lady. It takes a patient man to go this route. Next (2) I proposed during the 1st visit. I was confident in
asking her to marry me. I was also confident in choosing the Chargers to beat the Chiefs but I lost. However, I spent zero time trying to learn about these teams, yet I spent an amount
of time acceptable to me in trying to learn about the lady I went to visit.

A person may be able to reduce the chances of getting a lady on the "Weak Team", but it doesn't make any difference how much time he is with her, unless there is very little prior
communication history. It's only after you get married and you are living together when you really learn who that person is. You can spend 5 years dating that person, but, since living
together is not really an option in this process, you learn some during the dating stage but learn many things after marriage.

A man choosing this route must do what he believes is correct. I may be one of the guys telling you, you are going down the wrong path. But, a man must be able to justify his method
here. If he cannot tolerate the opposition to his method on this board, then maybe he is wrong.

In conclusion, the time spent with a lady may not reduce the chances of marrying a lady on the "weak team." Targeting only English speaking ladies will be easier in communication efforts
but may provide missed "winning team" ladies.

The fact exists that a man, regardless of the time spent with her, assuming more than a couple of weeks of communication, will never know if he has chosen a lady on the winning team or the
losing team. After marriage, a very, very big part of the winning depends on the man.

Mark

[veritas]

How does this relate to picking a wife? Well, I don't have a clue

You said it, bro ...

Kevin

[Ade]

3 Years ago I somehow picked 15 of 16 teams to win and won the pot. In Survival Football, after you pick a team to win and that team wins, you move on to the next week
but you can never pick your team who won again during the season. This year, I'm out on the first week; Thanks to the Chargers. For our British readers I'm talking about football,
not soccer. How does this relate to picking a wife? Well, I don't have a clue but I thought I would try. In picking my teams this year and in the past, I'll admit, I am not an NFL guru
and chose beginning teams based upon the previous year. Once the year begins, if you get past the first week, you determine the strength of teams.

When choosing a wife from the FSU, how does a man determine if he has chosen a wife that falls into the "weak team" category? Well, keeping with my analogy, in the beginning,
you don't know nor can you know.  I was confident in choosing the lady I wanted to marry through 3 months of writing, then I met her in person, and knew I wanted to marry her
very soon after meeting her. I was also confident that the Chargers would beat the Kansas City Chiefs. The difference is that I communicated via letter and phone, both of which I
needed an interpretor, and I had not communicated at all nor had followed the players on the teams above.

According to the opinions, I violated 2 rules, one of which I created by my method. 1) I targeted a lady who didn't speak English. If I had to choose again between two 29 year old ladies
where one didn't speak English, today, I will would still go after the best looking lady. It takes a patient man to go this route. Next (2) I proposed during the 1st visit. I was confident in
asking her to marry me. I was also confident in choosing the Chargers to beat the Chiefs but I lost. However, I spent zero time trying to learn about these teams, yet I spent an amount
of time acceptable to me in trying to learn about the lady I went to visit.

A person may be able to reduce the chances of getting a lady on the "Weak Team", but it doesn't make any difference how much time he is with her, unless there is very little prior
communication history. It's only after you get married and you are living together when you really learn who that person is. You can spend 5 years dating that person, but, since living
together is not really an option in this process, you learn some during the dating stage but learn many things after marriage.

A man choosing this route must do what he believes is correct. I may be one of the guys telling you, you are going down the wrong path. But, a man must be able to justify his method
here. If he cannot tolerate the opposition to his method on this board, then maybe he is wrong.

In conclusion, the time spent with a lady may not reduce the chances of marrying a lady on the "weak team." Targeting only English speaking ladies will be easier in communication efforts
but may provide missed "winning team" ladies.

The fact exists that a man, regardless of the time spent with her, assuming more than a couple of weeks of communication, will never know if he has chosen a lady on the winning team or the
losing team. After marriage, a very, very big part of the winning depends on the man.

Mark

Luck played a huge part in your success. You may disagree and certainly you engineered your luck to a certain extent, but plenty of face time with real communication are essential to making a truly informed decision on the compatibility of a partner and assessing the relationships chance of success. Yes, you can be a very lucky OWW like yourself but I think that's just what it is, mainly luck.

Most people shouldn't count on excessive amounts of luck, not when the futures of two people, more with kids, are at stake.

One of the easiest things that can be done to shorten he odds is to chose someone that you can properly communicate with, without a 3rd party, and that means you share a common language. The other, not so easy for North Americans I guess, is to spend some time living a normal life with your prospective partner or at the very least, spend lengthy periods together. Reduce the amount of either and you increase the amount of luck you need to be successful.

FWIW, I think we all need a little luck in this and you can't entirely engineer yourself into a successful relationship no matter what lengths you go to in order to do that. All you can do is give yourself a better chance.