Do RW usually "ass-whip" their kids?

[veritas]

In the thousands of (insincere) letters that I've gotten on Dream-Marriage, I've never seen one like this:
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You know, maybe I will be too sincere with you, maybe I don’t need to tell you this, but I will… You know, I am at work most of the time. And I am afraid that when Max will grow up he will tell that I was a bad mother…Coz I am out at work all the time. He sees me not so often, we spend time mostly on weekends… I use to spoil him at that time just, so it is hard to teach him manners sometimes.

He is not spoiled rotten. But I don't like to spoil kids. I think if they work for what they have they will respect it more. I know my father whipped my ass when I was a kid. I feel it made me a better person. Some of the people I grew up with who was spoiled when they were kids are not very good people in the long run.

I'm not saying beat the child, just whip them when they do something wrong. I won't buy them everything they wanted either. I do not believe a child should ever be beat. An ass whipping is different. I got ass whippings. Never beat. A beating will leave bruises, a black eye, scratches, scrapes, and other things. An ass whipping will leave there ass hurting. Its normally done with a paddle.

What do you think about beating of children? Do you think that this is needed?? You know, some families here use to beat their children while bringing up their children …Unfortunately….
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Now, of course, I place ZERO stock in anything I read on D-M, but this DOES raise an
interesting question in my mind that I can't recall having seen elsewhere on this forum:

What do RW generally think of corporal punishment?  Do they differ from AW in this?

Kevin

[kievstar]

Kevin, an agency worker is having fun with you.  More than likely she is also studying to be a psychologist and using some of the foreign men as research subjects.  I am being serious as well.  If you were an agency worker you would want to spice some letters up as they get docked pay when they write to many cookie cutter letters.  The bosses of the agencies have software to monitor the letter quality.  Best part of letters is they help support the agency which in return allows serious men who visit to meet their future wife. 

To answer your question based on RW I have met - they vary just like AW. 

[acctBill]

Kevin someone is scamming you.  I'm sure there are FSU parents that have spanked their kids, probably some alcoholic or drug user parents have even whipped or beaten their children but in general no this does not happen.  My wife wouldn't think of spanking our children.  Her parents didn't spank her.  Someone from DM is just trying to generate some emotion from you and get you started in some type of longer term correspondence.   

[veritas]

Kevin, an agency worker is having fun with you.

Kevin someone is scamming you. 

Oh, of course!    That's why I said "thousands of (insincere) letters" and "I place ZERO stock in" ...
In fact, the best clue of all was that she wrote this AFTER I said that I wouldn't be writing her back ...
And as you both may know by now, I've already had my say -- and then some! -- about D-M on here ...

It just got me to wondering, that's all, because I'd never thought about it before ...

Thanks, both of you, for your answers on this business of "corporal punishment" ...

Kevin

[Vaughn]

but in general no this does not happen.  My wife wouldn't think of spanking our children.  Her parents didn't spank her. 

Same here, Kevin. I have a strong hunch there'll be parents almost everywhere who'll use beatings to enforce their will and
fortunately, most others will command respect through healthy discipline and by setting good examples.

Kevin, save your 10 bucks a month - it's wasting your time, dude.

[Shostakovich]

In the thousands of (insincere) letters that I've gotten on Dream-Marriage, I've never seen one like this:
_________________________

You know, maybe I will be too sincere with you, maybe I don’t need to tell you this, but I will… You know, I am at work most of the time. And I am afraid that when Max will grow up he will tell that I was a bad mother…Coz I am out at work all the time. He sees me not so often, we spend time mostly on weekends… I use to spoil him at that time just, so it is hard to teach him manners sometimes.

He is not spoiled rotten. But I don't like to spoil kids. I think if they work for what they have they will respect it more. I know my father whipped my ass when I was a kid. I feel it made me a better person. Some of the people I grew up with who was spoiled when they were kids are not very good people in the long run.

I'm not saying beat the child, just whip them when they do something wrong. I won't buy them everything they wanted either. I do not believe a child should ever be beat. An ass whipping is different. I got ass whippings. Never beat. A beating will leave bruises, a black eye, scratches, scrapes, and other things. An ass whipping will leave there ass hurting. Its normally done with a paddle.

What do you think about beating of children? Do you think that this is needed?? You know, some families here use to beat their children while bringing up their children …Unfortunately….
________________________

Now, of course, I place ZERO stock in anything I read on D-M, but this DOES raise an
interesting question in my mind that I can't recall having seen elsewhere on this forum:

What do RW generally think of corporal punishment?  Do they differ from AW in this?

Kevin

An interesting Q.  I have can't say if you are being scammed but personally I think the scammer paranoia inflates the phenomenon quite a bit. Perhaps the question is better recast: "Are R/U more apt to be severe when raising children".  I can say that, here in the NW they definitely spare the rod.  But in the Ukraine, on my recent tour, a most surprising sight was to watch one of those surly babushkas crack a child across the face so hard the sound could easily be heard across a crowed street.  And that because the kid, probably 4, was crying.  I will say - that shut him up.  It raised a question about how common such practices are.  Physical discipline is consistent with my perception of R/U culture, which does seem to have a more Marshall aspect to it than US culture - though I can't imagine a child facing a firing squad for a bit of mischief.  Be interested in the perceptions of R/U residents or those who have been over multiple times.     

[veritas]

Kevin, save your 10 bucks a month - it's wasting your time, dude.

But Vaughn, it's literally my only source of entertainment -- and cheap, too ...

An interesting Q.  I have can't say if you are being scammed but personally I think the scammer paranoia inflates the phenomenon quite a bit. Perhaps the question is better recast: "Are R/U more apt to be severe when raising children".  I can say that, here in the NW they definitely spare the rod.  But in the Ukraine, on my recent tour, a most surprising sight was to watch one of those surly babushkas crack a child across the face so hard the sound could easily be heard across a crowed street.  And that because the kid, probably 4, was crying.  I will say - that shut him up.  It raised a question about how common such practices are.  Physical discipline is consistent with my perception of R/U culture, which does seem to have a more Marshall aspect to it than US culture - though I can't imagine a child facing a firing squad for a bit of mischief.  Be interested in the perceptions of R/U residents or those who have been over multiple times.     

Thanks, Shostakovich ... So there MIGHT be "corporal punishment" for kids, but not "capital punishment" ...

I thought it was an interesting question, too, but perhaps it's not for most folks on here ...

Kevin

[possum]

Kevin someone is scamming you.  I'm sure there are FSU parents that have spanked their kids, probably some alcoholic or drug user parents have even whipped or beaten their children but in general no this does not happen.

Everyone I know locally has been spanked more than once in their life time by their non-drinking professional parents.. Me, I just got smacked around a bit growing up, never spanked..

[Shadow]

Like with many other things, the FSU is less concerned about possible psychological trauma and expects parents to have enough self-control and responsibility not to harm their children in a case of corporal punishment.

[viking]

When I was growing up,and three young sons running around the house, our mother would come after us with a wooden spoon if we really misbehaved. If she caught us, which happened every so often, we would good a smack on the behind. It did keep us in line.

Today, this type of coporal punishment, if witnessed by a neighbor, could land the parents in the local police office!!!

I dont know if these types of laws exist elsewhere.

[kievstar]

Kevin, I went on dream marriage last night to see the women who maybe writing you as I never heard of this agency.  I did my usual search of women 28 to 32 and over 5 foot 8 and under 145 pounds.  What did I find?  I found 8 women I know personally.  Funny thing majority are already married and live in foreign countries.  I think this agency just lifts profiles from other sites. 

Notice how when you do the search it puts the good looking ones upfront and uglies in the back.  Better when an agency puts newest women upfront. 

Kevin, more than likely your getting letters from men. 

[veritas]

Kevin, more than likely your getting letters from men. 

Yes, I know this, kievstar -- or, from paid women who may or may not be the girls pictured in the photos ...

I could've also posted "her" profile -- and I still can -- but it seemed irrelevant to me ...

Kevin

P.S.  Hard to believe that you've been so active on this forum, but have never heard of D-M before?

[Vegas]

I saw one kid get spanked/ass whooped yesterday, but not beaten.  I would define beaten as causing physical harm.

[Smile_too]

hmmm Kevin, you see I think no one woman shall discuss with unknowen man by the internet the way she  punishes her children - anyway this is her Private life. Such sincerity seems for me to be false. Even in one family there can be clash of opinions about the best way how to grow up the child.
Not far a go I was a witness a couple was discussing at the airport the future of their 2 boys...and they did this rather loudly. The wife wanted to send the boys for study to the England the father was against and wanted them to keep family business at home but not to clean foreign toilets. Who was right?? Every one wanted the best for children...but they finished with "I need a divorce".

When I was growing up,and three young sons running around the house, our mother would come after us with a wooden spoon if we really misbehaved. If she caught us, which happened every so often, we would good a smack on the behind. It did keep us in line.

Today, this type of coporal punishment, if witnessed by a neighbor, could land the parents in the local police office!!!

As for punishment and beating children I do agree with Viking. I don't think he took "wooden spoon" as a serious danger for his health but it helped I think a little.
May be yes an  upbringing is a little bit more strict in FSU (at least nobody will call up a police if a mum runs with "wooden spoon") ....BUT I never have  heard yet that we had any shooting at schools by pupils...as for US I have heard several times took place already. Certainly I don't insist that everything is excellent at our schools...there are some cruel events sometimes too.

[Aloe]

Everyone I know locally has been spanked more than once in their life time by their non-drinking professional parents.. 

likewise

[Aloe]

Today, this type of coporal punishment, if witnessed by a neighbor, could land the parents in the local police office!!!

And i find that insane. Some spanking is good for some children. Don't you see sometimes children that are so outrageously misbehaved and no amount of voice will get any result? My mom told me about this one time when i dropped on the floor in the middle of a store, screaming at the top of my lungs and banging my feet and hands on the floor demanding they buy me that toy. She spanked me and i never did anything like that again. Now what would you do if your child does that and voice disciplining just doesn't work? Sometimes you just have to do it    Of course my position may change when i actually have children, who knows