Looking for Russian woman

[Rick]

Hello,

I just need some help locating and communicating with a possible Russian bride. Where there are no scams or gimicks. I want to start a new life with a young wife. My email is vewalden@yahoo.com if there is anyone that can help me out. Thanks

 

Rick

[catzenmouse]

Rick,

 Can you tell us a bit more information about you and your situation.

 Why are you looking to the FSU for a wife?

 Have you every been over there or to other countries?

 Are you interested in the culture/have you read about it?

Plenty of people here with lots of experience in all aspects of this adventure (and it is truly an adventure!) so welcome and ask away.

Ken

[Rick]

Hello,

I have just always found them to be very attractive women and alot of them seem to not put that much stake in the age thing. I have been to mant countries, but never any of the FSU countries. I am divorced after 29 years and I am just looking for a fresh start. Thanks

 

Rick

[catzenmouse]

Rick,

 I completely agree with you. They are VERY beautiful women! There are several agency owners here that could get you started with your communications along with other members who can recommend agencies that they have used.

 Check out the Products/Services section for some different options.

 Do you have any preference as to which part of the FSU you want to go to?

Ken

[Rick]

Ken,

No I am not particular of area, but if anyone knows of any or any other particulars, they could email the info to me at vewalden@yahoo.com Thanks

 

Rick

[catzenmouse]

Rick,

 Best thing to do would be to read the threads here about starting out and the trip reports. You'll get a lot of your questions answered there and learn some great informations too. Probably won't get a lot of people taking the time to write e-mails to you if they have already posted this information here.

 This things takes work to pursue and a LOT of work to be successful at. Now is as good a time as any to start.

Ken

[andrewfi]

Rick ~ Upon what evidence do you base your conclusion that they are generally very attractive and that they tend not to consider age differences as much as other civilised societies?

That you are, in general, wrong in your suppositions is nothing to do with my interest, but it has everything to do with your eventual happiness!

[BillyB]

Rick,

If you've come prepared to fail, then I must say you've come well prepared. Don't believe all the agency hype and don't fall in love with those studio photos. After reading your posts here, I'll tell you to slow down and research what you're getting into. Correct me if I'm wrong but you are divorced after 29 years of marriage and you're looking for a young wife? The greater the age gap, the greater chance you have for your next marriage to be living hell and fail. Most young women that tend to correspond with much older men are usually scammers, pro daters and gold diggers. Tread cautiously.

Do lots of reading here. When you do find a woman you're interested in, make sure she's happy with you and into you mentally and physically because if she isn't, she'll move on to the bigger, better deal. There are few successful marriages with large age gaps and the key word is "few".

 

[al-c]

Elena Petrova, the proprietor of Elena's Models, wrote something about age difference I will never forget.  I don't have the exact words, but I can paraphrase it to something like this:

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What did you do when you were 24?  Did you watch television and go to bed at 11:00 P.M. like you do now?  Or did you party at the disco until 3 or 4 A.M.?  So what makes you think your 24 year old Russian wife will be happy watching television with you and going to bed at 11?  Are you prepared to start going to the disco again until 3 or 4 A.M. to entertain your 24 year old Russian wife?  Or will you be happier with someone a little older, say 35-40?

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Back to my own words:

You can get a beautiful wife 10 to 15 years your junior, but you need to set your expectations at a reasonable level and never forget that there are things that matter besides looks.

I say sign up at a website, start writing  and see what happens.  Elena's Model's, the largest, has the best pickins, but it is EXTREMELEY expensive.  A smaller one that charges less, maybe even one that charges per lady or per letter, may serve your needs better at this point.  This way you can avoid the large investment until you get a clear idea of what it is that you want.  One of the smaller ones I suggest is Amenity International, a Novosibirsk based agency run by a husband and wife team who I know personally, Viktor and Olga Korelchuk (www.amenint.com).  They charge per letter but require no advance investment.  You pay nothing until you find a lady and write her a letter.

Also NEVER, EVER, under any circumstances send a lady money or anything else of value.  Scammers abound and would be happy to lighten your wallet.  Legitimate ladies will not ask you for money because they know that it is wrong to do so.  If a lady asks you for money, drop her like a hot potato and find another lady.

Good luck to you, and please keep us posted.

 

[Moonlight]

 I am single Russian woman with fluent English... Russian man say about me: too educated, too smart... :  )) 

[Albert]

Moonlight, yes I have heard that many times . . . . from my FSU women.  They keep telling me how they don't want to appear to be too clever (intelligent) because it will hurt them in finding a man.  Apparently this is a problem with FSU men.

However, I love intelligent and educated women.

Don't know for sure if this is true of most American men or not, but I think AM in general are more willing to go for intelligent women than are FSU men.

We could ask for a poll, but people rarely tell the truth about such things.

[Turboguy]

I think there are men who are intimidated by an intelligent woman.  I have heard the same thing from American women as well.  I always felt the opposite too.  I have never been very attracted to women who were not intelligent.  I think it gets a little boring when the only thing a girl knows about that is going on in the world are the things happening on that days soap operas.  I don't consider myself a genius but I have never met a gal whose intelligence intimidated me. 

[al-c]

I happen to adore intelligent women.  I love to talk about topics such as politics, religion, philosophy and history, especially with somebody from another culture who has a different take on these subjects.

Knowlege is power, and I can see how a man without this power can fear one who has it, but I don't have that problem.

 

[wasson65]

[user=527]al-c[/user] wrote: 

I say sign up at a website, start writing  and see what happens.  Elena's Model's, the largest, has the best pickins, but it is EXTREMELEY expensive.  A smaller one that charges less, maybe even one that charges per lady or per letter, may serve your needs better at this point.  This way you can avoid the large investment until you get a clear idea of what it is that you want.

I found Lily through Elena's Models.  I admit it, I did the 'EXTREMELY expensive' platinum membership thing.  I'd made the decision to find my next wife in FSU, and there seemed to be generally good things said about Elena's Models, they have a very large database, so I decided that if I was going to try, I wasn't going to pussy-foot around.

I had tinkered with a free site that only charged for emails, and I recieved exactly the same number of emails for 3 days in a row.  Obviously this wasn't real.  The "per email" cost could very quickly climb over the cost of the top-of-the-line membership at EM, if you are writing to more than a few women for any length of time.

I recommend that you read A LOT of profiles.  Then read more profiles.  After you've read a couple thousand, you'll begin to be able to spot more of the 'high-maintenance' types more easily.

Bottom line, this is not going to be an inexpensive exercise no matter which direction you go. I consider the $500 I gave to EM to be money well spent.

[Turboguy]

First off, I think Elena's Platinum membership is far from extreamly expensive.   When you figure that your costs are finished while your membership continues it makes you cost per contact very low.   You can spend far more at $ 5-13.00 a letter in a very short time. 

If I were like Rick and was just starting at this and had no idea of anything, of course reading every post here might be a good start but he also might want to begin his journey at someplace like Freepersonals.ru where he could get his feet wet at no expense.  There are  a lot of good people available there and once he has the basics down he can start shelling out a lot of money.

Al-c quoted Elena earlier in the post  This was what he said.  Elena Petrova, the proprietor of Elena's Models, wrote something about age difference I will never forget.  I don't have the exact words, but I can paraphrase it to something like this:

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What did you do when you were 24?  Did you watch television and go to bed at 11:00 P.M. like you do now?  Or did you party at the disco until 3 or 4 A.M.?  So what makes you think your 24 year old Russian wife will be happy watching television with you and going to bed at 11?  Are you prepared to start going to the disco again until 3 or 4 A.M. to entertain your 24 year old Russian wife?  Or will you be happier with someone a little older, say 35-40?
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Frankly I have never commented about this but to me that is one of the least practical comments she has made.   Actaully when I was 24, I watched TV and went to bed at 11:00.  My wife at the time had usually been asleep since 9-9:30.  She was 19 at the time.   At the age when she says I should be watching tv and going to bed at 11, I was newly divorced and out in the discos till late.  (fortunatley I tired of the bar scene quicly) 

Truthfully take someone like Anono and I not be surprised if he could not out party most 24 year olds that are half his age (just guessing).   I think to say that all 24 year olds want to spend every night in a disco is not correct.  People who like to go to the disco and party every night and party till 3 or 4 come in all ages.   People who dont want to go the the disco and party every night also come in all ages.   Personally if I were seeing someone who wanted to get drunk and party all night every night I would just move on and find someone who didn't.  There are lots of them.  I can enjoy going out dancing once in a while, perhaps not till 4 am but I would not want to make it my life and would not have wanted to at 24.  

 

 

[wasson65]

[user=527]al-c[/user] wrote: 

You can get a beautiful wife 10 to 15 years your junior, but you need to set your expectations at a reasonable level and never forget that there are things that matter besides looks.

Good words, al-c!  It's true, you can easily find a beautiful woman 10-15 years younger.  That part is not hard.  What is hard is deciding and knowing that you can indeed live with this person based on a short time together.  Some here say you need months of time around each other, I don't think it's that necessary.

Here's what I noticed:  How does she act when things don't quite work out?  When plans change, when something occurs and you would normally start wincing because your ex used to just explode with these things, how does she act?

Hopefully, you've done a LOT of thinking about who you are and what you've learned from the previous relationships.  Understood where you screwed up, what you can't stand, what you truly care about.  This entire process is, I think, much simpler when you know yourself better and have truly created a list of criteria.

My list wasn't very long:
1. Must have had a previous long-term relationship.  I wanted someone who had their heart broken, so they would understand what I had gone through.

2. Must have a child or children.  I had 4 kids and wanted her to share the motivation that I would respect, care for, and yes, even love her child as my own.  I wanted the same from her.

3. I needed an honest person who could tell me straight up what she was thinking.

4. I needed someone who could enjoy being with me and showing me physical affection.  I'm not talking 24/7 sex here, I mean somebody that truly enjoys being near me, sitting together, walking together, laughing together, arm in arm, hugs, nudges, touches, etc.  Anyway, you get the picture.

There's a joke I heard that sorta sums up my viewpoint about true love:  There are two lovebirds sitting on a wire.  One turns to the other and says "Do you truly love me?" and the other answers "Yes, I truly love you.  But I would have loved whatever lovebird came and sat beside me."

I think there are probably at least 30 million women in the world that I could love and live with successfully.  If one comes along that fits the criteria I know I need, and there is some chemistry and affection present, then let's go for it!  You'll never know *for sure* that there is nobody better for you.  Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good:  If you want a perfect marriage to a perfect woman and wait too long to find that, you might miss a hundred good women with which you could have had a good marriage.

Find one that fits you, and go for it!

Tim

[PeeWee]

 I am single Russian woman with fluent English... Russian man say about me: too educated, too smart... :  )) 

Are those Russian men intimidated by you and your abilities? I have never known a woman, or a man for that matter, that is "too" educated or too smart.

 

Peewee

[Rvrwind]

Lookin' for a Russsian Woman is one thing, What you do with her once you find her is a whole new can of worms!!!:shock:

RVR-Canadian Cowboy/Agency Owner