Sending a small gift to her son

[Fishingguy]

How can I do that by next weekend? Int. FEDEX?

[pokerintherear]

If this is for the son of the woman who you mentioned in another thread? I think you been writing big, beautiful, flowery letters for a couple of weeks?  Please forget it.

You think in your head your going to show her how great of guy you are by this act. How could she reject me if I send a toy car to junior? How could she not see how nice of guy I am?  It wont work. You are preparing to muddy the waters of what is real and not. You could be feeding a gold digger? You are actually trying to manipulate her with this "nice guy" approach.

Don't think so? Ask yourself why your wanting to send the gift to her child? Be very honest with yourself. If your a good man she will see it without you being nice to her son.  Keep your dignity.

[Fishingguy]

yeah I hear you but it's the kid's birthday.  Wasn't going to do a big gesture but something simple and light that a kid would like. Thanks for looking out

[Faux Pas]

How can I do that by next weekend? Int. FEDEX?

The chance is quite remote that any shipper could have it there by next weekend

[JohnDearGreen]

How can I do that by next weekend? Int. FEDEX?

There are many places that deliver to FSU.  Flower shops.  Marriage agencies usually offer a gift delivery option.  Best to find one located in her city.  Some will even give you pics of her/him receiving the gift.  I did this for 5 or 6 ladies.  They all liked it.  Here is an example:
http://www.russianflora.com/gallery.php

[Anotherkiwi]

There are many places that deliver to FSU.  Flower shops.  Marriage agencies usually offer a gift delivery option.  Best to find one located in her city.  Some will even give you pics of her/him receiving the gift.  I did this for 5 or 6 ladies.  They all liked it.  Here is an example:
http://www.russianflora.com/gallery.php

Not sure that's the best example to use, JDG.  I know that Russians don't smile that much at strangers, but surely you would expect most of these ladies to look a bit happier when they've received a bouquet from their "special man."  One looks downright miserable!

[Fishingguy]

I guess I'll just get a small light gift and send it via our good old American Postal Service. It'll be late but c'est la vie.

[Anotherkiwi]

yeah I hear you but it's the kid's birthday.  Wasn't going to do a big gesture but something simple and light that a kid would like. Thanks for looking out

Which part of "don't do this" don't you understand?    So what if it's the kid's birthday?  You will have ample opportunity to get to know the child, and find out his or her likes and dislikes, IF you actually meet the mother and begin a relationship.  Until then, just concentrate on the woman - she certainly shouldn't be expecting anything from you this early in correspondence, especially if it's for her child rather than herself, unless she's one of these: 
 
If you do this, you may confuse her because she may start thinking that you're trying to buy her affections by using her child as a pawn.

[XMan]

If / when it gets to the point where you travel there, then take her son a gift when you meet in person.

[die_cast]

yeah I hear you but it's the kid's birthday. 

But you are interested not in him, but his mother. This is a great day for her too. Send her flowers, don't bother her kid.

[die_cast]

If you do this, you may confuse her because she may start thinking that you're trying to buy her affections by using her child as a pawn.

Exactly.

[Patagonie]

How can I do that by next weekend? Int. FEDEX?

No gift now, too late.
And too early.

What are you doing with your gift if she walks away after 40 minutes because she feels no physical attraction to you ?

[mendeleyev]

Given what has been described as the beginning stages of the relationship, the most I'd do is copy and send one of the two photo below in a normal email to her that has a line mentioning happy birthday to her son. Obviously she has mentioned the birthday so it's okay for you to know and she'll appreciate the thought but at the same time since you've not even met, it is unfair to try to start building a relationship with the child.

Russians don't typically say "happy Birthday" rather these photos read "with the day of your birth" (С Днем Рождения) which is how it is commonly expressed. She brought the topic up so allow her to share it if she feels okay yet she doesn't have to share it if she isn't ready to do that

Other than that, don't.

PS, send it the evening before so that with the time difference you're on time. It is bad form to be early on a personal holiday greeting.

[BillyB]

Chances are if you get date the lady, she's not going to bring along her son on the first few dates. She will let you build a relationship with him when she feels it's right so I agree with the guys that say don't send a gift in the mail. I like Mendy's idea. It's not too much or too little, but just right.

[Gator]

Fishing Guy,
 
Remembering the kid's birthday is excellent.  However, it is too early in the relationship to send a gift.   For now, follow Mendy's advice.  Better yet, go to Hallmark website and send him an animated b-day ecard. 
 
If you want to send a gift, use FedEx.  Shipping alone will be $150.  However, he will get it but may create a hassle for the woman in arranging delivery.  Thus, it is not the thing to do at this stage.   

[Patagonie]

Given what has been described as the beginning stages of the relationship, the most I'd do is copy and send one of the two photo below in a normal email to her that has a line mentioning happy birthday to her son. Obviously she has mentioned the birthday so it's okay for you to know and she'll appreciate the thought but at the same time since you've not even met, it is unfair to try to start building a relationship with the child.

Russians don't typically say "happy Birthday" rather these photos read "with the day of your birth" (С Днем Рождения) which is how it is commonly expressed. She brought the topic up so allow her to share it if she feels okay yet she doesn't have to share it if she isn't ready to do that

Other than that, don't.

PS, send it the evening before so that with the time difference you're on time. It is bad form to be early on a personal holiday greeting.

[Fishingguy]

I'll defer to my wiser elders. Especially Russian speaking one.

[Steamer]

But you are interested not in him, but his mother. This is a great day for her too. Send her flowers, don't bother her kid.

Kid and mom are connected. She will like a gift to the son. Don't go overboard. That will be taken poorly.