Define Emotional Support

[viking]

I spoke with an RW, who said she wanted a man who could provide her with emotional support.I would suspect that support would be no different if this was a dating, fiancee or marriage situation. What is your concept of this term? Would traveling half way around the world to be with a woman qualify? What else?

[BC]

Think you're probably asking the wrong folks.. should have asked her on the phone.


One of these will usually support a higher level of emotions:

[jb]

I thought emotional support was what you give a woman when her cat dies. 

[catzenmouse]

This has about as many different answers as there are people. For one it would be being physically supportive, for another it would be financially based as is "take care of all my needs/wants", for a third it would be being supportive of her goals and aspirations. For me it would probably just take a couple of beers...

Ken

BC, if you send me a few of those (real ones) each month it will emotionally support me very well!  

[viking]

A few Pina Coladas in Aruba would be plenty of support for me. 

I just find it interesting how some can equate money to emotions. I wonder how many actually feel that way. If my dog died a few euros would not make me happy. Yeah, I know, I could buy another dog with the euros but that ain't the point.

[PeeWee]

A few Pina Coladas in Aruba would be plenty of support for me. 

I just find it interesting how some can equate money to emotions. I wonder how many actually feel that way. If my dog died a few euros would not make me happy. Yeah, I know, I could buy another dog with the euros but that ain't the point.

That's what got Natalie Hollaway into trouble, Viking. I think to you need to find out her definition of  "emotional". It seems to me that almost all woman hope to gain much of their strength from her male counterpart, or mate. If she is defining "emotional" as inner strength then she would not be different from too many women. I've always noticed women to be a bit in the insecure side, espcially when there is not a man in their lives. Strength would be my best guess. I also agree, and I have found, that it best to just ask..."What do you mean by that."

peewee

[BillyB]

Yes, a woman wants a strong man. A man that will let her cry on his shoulder giving her comfort and reassurance that everything will be alright. But she does not want her man to cry with her for his emotional breakdown when her cat dies.

[PeeWee]

Yes, a woman wants a strong man. A man that will let her cry on his shoulder giving her comfort and reassurance that everything will be alright. But she does not want her man to cry with her for his emotional breakdown when her cat dies.

In otherwords, he would be a pussy because he was crying about a pussy. I will slightly disagree with you, Billy, because there are some women who would prefer to have a strong woman that will let her cry on her shoulder giving her comfort and reassurance that everything will be alright. My UPS driver might just be the woman for that duty.

Peewee

[viking]

This was just a conversation. Nothing more. I know her definition (I do not need a man's shoulder, just show me the money) but the way it came out I was wondering if others shared the same viewpoint. I am looking for YOUR definition of emotional support. Dont read too much into this. Thanks

[Dragonhead]

Emotional support. The ability to provide mental/physical comfort to someone in need/stress or discomfort.
Financial suport. The ability to provide food, shelter, clothing and other monetary needs/wants as necessary.

IMHO they can be mutually exclusive.

[PeeWee]

I spoke with an RW, who said she wanted a man who could provide her with emotional support.I would suspect that support would be no different if this was a dating, fiancee or marriage situation. What is your concept of this term? Would traveling half way around the world to be with a woman qualify? What else?

You asked if you traveling half way around the world would qualify as providing emotional support. No, if you were traveling only to meet her. Yes, if you were rushing to her side because her father lay dieing in a hospital.

Other examples. A phone call to tell her that her decision to quit her job was a good one. Sending flowers to her on her birthday anniversary. Meeting her in Moscow on the day of her interview. Being with her in the delivery room when the baby is born. Giving to her your phone number and a calling card so that she could call you at a moments notice if something urgent happened in her life.

Any others?

Peewee 

[DKMM]

Peewee,
What is this idea of giving her a calling card to call you?  Have you done this (and it worked?)  It seems like their phone service there is so crappy...

[PeeWee]

Peewee,
What is this idea of giving her a calling card to call you?  Have you done this (and it worked?)  It seems like their phone service there is so crappy...

I had, or have, two different calling cards that I recharge when the dollar reserve gets too low. Arbat and Noble. Mind you all of the calls come from Moscow but the expense is just a few pennys per minute and if you will proceed to the Arbat website you might learn that the calls can come from many locations in Russia. To have the card offers to her a bit more security if she knows that she can pick up a phone anytime and give old Peewee a call. Sometimes it is urgent in nature and sometimes it is for a gabfest.
Either way is see it as a form of me offering to her an emotional support in one form or another.   

http://www.worldwide-calling-card.com/cards-arbat.php

Thanks   

Peewee

[smartcat]

I know her definition (I do not need a man's shoulder, just show me the money) but the way it came out I was wondering if others shared the same viewpoint.

Viking, most of people in this board as far as in her country have certain idea what " emotional support" mean. To encourage the friend or a spouse in times or depression, grief, being lost, etc.
And I am sure, if she asks "emotional "support from her girlfriend she would not even think about any money what she can give to her.
But this term can be perverted in certain situation by some individuals. Well, if she is in depression as she, let say,  badly wants $100 fancy lingerie set and can not afford it herself... of course, her depression will drop down as soon as she gets it. A person who buys it is considered to give "emotional" support to her, saving her from depression this way.
 
Oh, there are so many things to make "emotional" support like this... as some people are depressed of not having Ferrari, helicopters, tropical islands, etc. 
My question for you to think of: is this woman ready to give the same type "emotional" support to her friend, spouse or husband?