Is Marrying a Ukrainian Women Even Possible in my situation?

[IndyUSAF]

Also as to not confuse anyone with my statement about wanting my own little family.  I got snipped a few years ago so I wasn't talking about personally making a family.  I am able to love someone's else kid like my own but I guess I have to believe her when she says 1 is enough for her because she's 35 and doesn't have too many good childbearing years left?

[IndyUSAF]

Sorry...don't why I typed that?  Russian Orthodox.  This lady was from Siberia somewhere and very beautiful!  Very slight Asian features with kind of grayish-pale blue eyes. 

[Anotherkiwi]

Well I'm going and I'll be a little disappointed if nothing comes of it but its not like I can't date here?  The problem with Indiana women is the weight and fitness habits of women over 35-40?  Its hard to find an attractive petite woman that isn't being pursued like crazy here!  I did meet a Russian lady last summer in western Ohio which was only about 100 miles away.  She was very very attractive but I don't think she was into me that much and she was also very religious within the Roman Orthodox church which isn't up my alley at all. Foreign women don't flock to Indianapolis generally?  Nobody does really...our population goes down every year!

You might actually be surprised.  A very quick Google search reveals a Russian Orthodox church and community in your city, as well as restaurants and (believe it or not) the "Babushka" Deli.    It appears that you don't want to hook up with someone who's overly religious, but do you yourself go to church at all?  If so, I'm sure you could find a woman with a similar approach within that church - not all Russian churchgoers are desperately devout.  If not, try using sites like Elena's Models and perhaps VKontakte to find single Ukrainian/Russian women in Indiana - there should be plenty.

I had a wonderful 2 hours with my Lena on Skype yesterday!  It we can make it work then we will?  If it doesn't work then atleast I scratched this itch finally!  I've been thinking about this ever since the movie Birthday Girl came out with Nicole Kidman.  I've read this forum off-n-on for 4-5 years too.  I'm finally going!!!

I'm sure that everyone here wishes you the best of luck.

[Larry1]

Well I'm going and I'll be a little disappointed if nothing comes of it but its not like I can't date here?  The problem with Indiana women is the weight and fitness habits of women over 35-40?  Its hard to find an attractive petite woman that isn't being pursued like crazy here!  I did meet a Russian lady last summer in western Ohio which was only about 100 miles away.

It's true that AW in that age range who are slender and reasonably attractive are in extremely high demand.  When I was dating AW they would get 2,000 + messages/year from guys.

Before I began my fsuw search I went out with several fsuw here and found them head and shoulders above nearly all AW I went out with. Every one was slender. This might be a good option for you. There are some fsuw dating sites that will allow you to search for fsuw living in this country.

[AkMike]

Just keep it mind that the gal that you 'think' you know on Skype or online isn't going to be the same in the real world. Follow the 10 commandments posted here.

[BillyB]

  I got snipped a few years ago so I wasn't talking about personally making a family.  I am able to love someone's else kid like my own but I guess I have to believe her when she says 1 is enough for her because she's 35 and doesn't have too many good childbearing years left?

She told you she one child is enough but did you tell her you're snipped? She needs to know this to understand there is not options should she marry you and later change her mind. We had a poster here who married a woman who didn't want kids and later changed her mind. They ended up divorced.

[southernX]

INDYUSAF

gator has given you good advice here below which id agree with

GATOR ..First determine if you like this woman after spending a few days with her.  If you do, then tell her the direct and complete truth about the money issues.  Use some hard examples such as the type of car you can afford for her,  how much money you could afford to send to her parents, etc.   Then discuss her feelings upon her learning that this will not be a walk in the park.

If all you can afford is two trips, you realize you will not know much about this woman before deciding about marriage.  I would advise you to proceed only if you have no questions:  the love between you is stronger than you have felt with any woman in your life, your goals and values are consistent,   she is smart and personable and would do well in the American workplace, her son's condition seems manageable, etc. 

as you have already booked and paid /going to meet her , 

do as above and  see how things go , dont be smitten if you can help it , dont put on your white knight suit and ride on in ,    if things go well ,  just be as brutally honest with her as you can be given what you know about your life

truth be told no one knows the future or how things will work out , but you owe it to her and yourself to make all the information as open and honest as you can , so  both of you , if you choose to go into this will be  eyes wide open to what your  buying into ahead

imo , its do able  depending on you both and the honesty /commitment you make if you both go ahead

she has managed her child by herself , so she is aware of what he needs , you need to make her aware of what you can bring to the table ,nothing more or less imo

together you both could combine to do great things , but it will only work if you both go in eyese wide open and commit to that together

SX 

[IndyUSAF]

She told you she one child is enough but did you tell her you're snipped? She needs to know this to understand there is not options should she marry you and later change her mind. We had a poster here who married a woman who didn't want kids and later changed her mind. They ended up divorced.

Yeah I told her right off the bat.  I'm trying to be as honest as possible which hasn't always been the direction I've gone with women. 

[Gator]

Yeah I told her right off the bat.  I'm trying to be as honest as possible which hasn't always been the direction I've gone with women.

Sounds like you have recovered from the your divorce and loss of a stepchild.  A good woman will continue the recovery and propel you to do more than you thought possible.

I say that because no RW will ever allow her husband to sit on his ass.  LOL

I like your attitude Indy.  It will help you.

[IndyUSAF]

Sounds like you have recovered from the your divorce and loss of a stepchild.  A good woman will continue the recovery and propel you to do more than you thought possible.

I say that because no RW will ever allow her husband to sit on his ass.  LOL

I like your attitude Indy.  It will help you.

Thank you!  It was also nice of Kiwi and others to wish me well.  I've traveled quite a bit but never been to NZ or Australia!!  Def bucket list!!

Anyway I think we both realize that chemistry is a fickle thing and we may not click in person.  I've actually been divorced since 2004 so its not my first rodeo with single moms.  I've done a lot of online dating and sometimes you feel like the chemistry is there over the phone, email, etc or even for 3-4 dates but it doesn't mean it will translate into anything lasting.  I think I can get back in early 2017 if things go well!

I actually responded to a Skype today from my backup lady.  She'll be 40 next month and also has 1 son of 12 or 13.  The problem with her is that her English is really sketchy so we end up looking down and translating instead of looking at each other?  I find her very very attractive with long dark curly hair and red full lips but I don't see how we could work out?  She is the lady that initially messaged me and got me to finally pay ukrainedate so I could respond.  It took her about a month to go back on there and respond but I was initially very excited!  The thing is its been probably 3 months with her and I don't know shit about her really?  She wants to get married and talks about what we'll do on my visit and how much she likes the pictures of my house.  She can't seem to figure out our 7 hour time difference and when I'll be awake/asleep?  She doesn't know my exact travel dates so I think I'll just unofficially cut her loose and maybe call if things go bad when I'm in Kiev.  I thought I might contact Kievconnections too if things with my girl go badly?

I'll find out soon enough?

[southernX]

indy

one thing to lock into your thinking is

whatever lady you do choose to meet and fall for , if she has children you need to make her children yours totally in every way , no matter what happens etc etc

nothing less will suffice in her mind ,


 the red lipped lady may not have good english , but id keep her in the list for now
SX