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[dragonkid]

I found myself is a sticky position, the women i talk to want me to be exclusive to them. i explained to one, that i won't be exclusive to her, few days later we are talking, she pushes it even more, i explain hat i have someone i like but would like to remain friends and see how it goes. Her response? "F**k you". Truth is i have someone i like, but i still talk to a few women, add them onto vk maybe if things don't work on i will still have a dating pool to go back to. So anyways, there is another girl who is pressing me, so i want to know on how do i tell a girl we should just be friends without hurting her feelings? still having that bridge to cross when the time comes?

[LiveFromUkraine]

I found myself is a sticky position, the women i talk to want me to be exclusive to them. i explained to one, that i won't be exclusive to her, few days later we are talking, she pushes it even more, i explain hat i have someone i like but would like to remain friends and see how it goes. Her response? "F**k you". Truth is i have someone i like, but i still talk to a few women, add them onto vk maybe if things don't work on i will still have a dating pool to go back to. So anyways, there is another girl who is pressing me, so i want to know on how do i tell a girl we should just be friends without hurting her feelings? still having that bridge to cross when the time comes?

Why are you contacting other girls if you are only interested in dating the one?

[dragonkid]

Why are you contacting other girls if you are only interested in dating the one?

Because you never know what will happen.

[LiveFromUkraine]

Because you never know what will happen.

I'd say date if you want to date.  Why play these games that you want to be friends?  You just found out these girls know what you want even if you say otherwise.


If you are feeling this way then maybe the current girl isn't the right one for you.  That doesn't mean you can't enjoy her company.  I would suggest making it clear to her so she doesn't pass up other guys who may be a better fit for her and you can continue looking for something better.

[dragonkid]

I'd say date if you want to date.  Why play these games that you want to be friends?  You just found out these girls know what you want even if you say otherwise.


If you are feeling this way then maybe the current girl isn't the right one for you.  That doesn't mean you can't enjoy her company. I would suggest making it clear to her so she doesn't pass up other guys who may be a better fit for her and you can continue looking for something better.

The girl i like knows i am, but she knows i am whipped over her. She accepts it, and deleted her profile, she knows no other women can compare. I just told her how she makes me feel, and how unique she is.

[Boethius]

So if that's the case, why are you talking to other girls?

In any event, you're not dating, you're not even together yet.

[LiveFromUkraine]

The girl i like knows i am, but she knows i am whipped over her. She accepts it, and deleted her profile, she knows no other women can compare. I just told her how she makes me feel, and how unique she is.

Well, based on my experience, there is a limited shelf life when the other person knows you're still out there dating.


I have dated multiple women at the same time and have been honest with them.  Almost always they end sooner rather than later because there is no commitment from either me or them.  I'm not crazy about doing this because someone can get hurt very easily.  Even if you're honest, that doesn't mean feelings don't develop.

I prefer dating only one person.  If I find someone I like I rather continue with that until it plays itself out.  I don't actively seek out other women when I am dating someone I'm interested in. 


If the relationship ends, I just start dating again.  I don't feel like I am missing anything when I only date one person.  I do have plenty of stuff to keep me busy besides women.  Maybe you need another hobby?   

[msmobyone]

I found myself is a sticky position

Why is this thread in 'experienced' ?

[jone]

Well, based on my experience, there is a limited shelf life when the other person knows you're still out there dating.


I have dated multiple women at the same time and have been honest with them.  Almost always they end sooner rather than later because there is no commitment from either me or them.  I'm not crazy about doing this because someone can get hurt very easily.  Even if you're honest, that doesn't mean feelings don't develop.

I prefer dating only one person.  If I find someone I like I rather continue with that until it plays itself out.  I don't actively seek out other women when I am dating someone I'm interested in. 


If the relationship ends, I just start dating again.  I don't feel like I am missing anything when I only date one person.  I do have plenty of stuff to keep me busy besides women.  Maybe you need another hobby?   

Funny that you should mention the word 'hobby'.  There is a small group of men who go around sleeping with women and evaluating their experiences.  They call themselves 'Hobbyists'.  As I understand things, I believe most of their relationships are paid for, so what they claim is that because they are paying for the relationship, they can call it a hobby and now it fits in with their preferred lifestyle.  There are actual websites that are attached to these relationships where the men log on and evaluate their sexual experiences with a woman (for the benefit of the other 'hobbyists').

[Boethius]

Why is this thread in 'experienced' ?

I think it is in the right place.

[LiveFromUkraine]

Funny that you should mention the word 'hobby'.  There is a small group of men who go around sleeping with women and evaluating their experiences.  They call themselves 'Hobbyists'.  As I understand things, I believe most of their relationships are paid for, so what they claim is that because they are paying for the relationship, they can call it a hobby and now it fits in with their preferred lifestyle.  There are actual websites that are attached to these relationships where the men log on and evaluate their sexual experiences with a woman (for the benefit of the other 'hobbyists').

Sounds like sex tourists.  What does it have to do with this thread?

[dragonkid]

Anyways i stopped using dating my profile, guess you lot are right, if i am actually serious about making it work with this girl, i need to commit somehow. If it don't work out i can jump back on easily, especially if i am living in russia, it will be a different ball game.

[LiveFromUkraine]

Anyways i stopped using dating my profile, guess you lot are right, if i am actually serious about making it work with this girl, i need to commit somehow. If it don't work out i can jump back on easily, especially if i am living in russia, it will be a different ball game.

DK, is this girl from Russia?  For some reason I thought you met a local girl that you were interested in.

[msmobyone]

I think it is in the right place.

DK, 'experienced' ?

[dragonkid]

DK, is this girl from Russia?  For some reason I thought you met a local girl that you were interested in.

No, she is in russia.... Anyways too late, i told her what i done. YOLO 

[dragonkid]

DK, 'experienced' ?

Lets get you smiling

[LiveFromUkraine]

No, she is in russia.... Anyways too late, i told her what i done. YOLO 

Good for you man.  I wouldn't worry about relationships and commitment until you meet.  I think you did the right thing in being honest.  That way you're starting off what could become a relationship on the right foot.

[dragonkid]

Good for you man.  I wouldn't worry about relationships and commitment until you meet.  I think you did the right thing in being honest.  That way you're starting off what could become a relationship on the right foot.

For me visit one approach works better than visit many. Naturally i can't lie to women, look at the image below, the "fuck off" message is from the girl who i explained to that i had someone else that i liked. I didn't need to. I can get a woman to trust me, i just work on my strengths rather than try and become someone i ain't.




http://sendvid.com/olulx3fz

[BillyB]

would like to remain friends and see how it goes. Her response? "F**k you".

Immature and rude response. I suspect a lot of women are going to accuse men of stringing them along as a friend while they play with other women so they'd be upset. Women can't expect a man to commit meeting through the internet. I've had a few women ask me to commit and I'd ask them the question are they ready to dedicate their lives to me without ever meeting. Answer is usually "no".

[ML]

I've had a few women ask me to commit and I'd ask them the question are they ready to dedicate their lives to me without ever meeting. Answer is usually "no".

You missed the boat by not asking the corollary question.

Do you want me to dedicate my life to you without us ever having met ?

[jone]

You missed the boat by not asking the corollary question.

Do you want me to dedicate my life to you without us ever having met ?

ML, I committed my life to you already.  Do I have to do it again?

[ML]

ML, I committed my life to you already.  Do I have to do it again?

Hey, I was just jiving with Billy . . . not cheating on you !

[Patagonie]

Immature and rude response. I suspect a lot of women are going to accuse men of stringing them along as a friend while they play with other women so they'd be upset. Women can't expect a man to commit meeting through the internet. I've had a few women ask me to commit and I'd ask them the question are they ready to dedicate their lives to me without ever meeting. Answer is usually "no".

Billy gave here the best answer.
So as you have never ever dated her the promises and questions about "how am i unique?" are totally useless and you just shot a bullet in your foot by jumping in such women's tricks.
IN the beginning of the FSU dating the man is the only one to have the risk (but yes some feelings could develop quite quickly even for girls in the internet world).