7 years later and looking again

[Lit_1nce]

Where to begin..  the beginning ?

Back in 2000, I stumbled into the FSU women sites that were around at that time and it sparked an interest in me. I did all the usual browsing of profiles, and checking out the agencies.. etc.. and the whole idea of going to Russia or Ukraine was very intriguing, but the extra visa hoops you had to jump through made me look elsewhere. I decided that the Baltic's were a little easier, so I signed up with absoluteagency and found some nice women to get to know.

I then had some good exchanges with one (Daiva) in particular, and had a couple of phone conversations before I took the big plunge and took a trip to see her in Lithuania. To make a long story short, we had a wonderful time there and after I got back we continued corresponding and I decided that to progress the relationship she should come visit me here.. and with all the hoops she had to go through (at the time) we made it happen. Very wonderful and nice long visit with me here, and she went back. Things really fell apart when she got a praktikum in Germany though. Not that she wasn't still committed to me, it's just that I felt that she should have turned it down, and worked on creating a life here, and wasn't going to wait for 18 months to see what happens..  (That's me not her.. no need to inform me on that)

Anyway, I let it go. Moved on to an AW and dropped everything and moved to be with her. It turned out to be a very big mistake as she turned out to be a pain killer junkie. 4 plus years of hell really. I often wonder where things would have led if I had stuck with Daiva.

Now that I have taken some time to recover from the bad situation, I am finally looking around and just not seeing much. I don't mean "attractive" I just mean women with a little class and culture. So here I am again checking out the FSU women. The way I did it before still appeals to me more than the whole "marriage agency" way. I think this time I will have a little better look at travelling to Russia or Ukraine, although the Baltic's still seem like an easier route.

So I look forward to reading your posts, and advice. Strangely after all this time. I seem to recognize names from a different board, so many years ago. (I really can't remember what alias I used back then)

Best wishes to all
Dennis

[Lily]

Sorry to hear that story Dennis. But may be you could find Daiva again? She may be back to Baltic from her praktikum already..

[Lit_1nce]

Lily,
I lost contact with her, and did a few searches to find her again recently.. but nothing.
With the amount of time that has passed, I imagine that she has found someone else.

Still who knows, perhaps I will run into her if I travel to Klaipeda again. (not counting on it though)
I found that city really interesting, and it has been on my mind to go back someday anyway to
explore it a little more.

Anyway, the past is the past, and best I learn from my mistakes and move on.
 

[Jazzyclassy]

I think you should not limit your search only on FSU ladies , there are plenty of women everywhere and you just can find your soulmate anywhere, the main thing do not look on purpose , if it  should be happening it will happen when you expect it less:)

all the best to you:)

 and Welcome:) to our great informative and friendly site:)

[Mir]

the main thing do not look on purpose

Rather strange advice for this forum

[Phil dAmore]

David:

A lot has changed in the past 7 years.  You are advised to do extremely thorough research during all phases of your search.

The women are smarter, the scams more sophisticated, the procedure is more difficult and of course more expensive.

Best of luck to you!

[Jazzyclassy]

Rather strange advice for this forum

Why strange ? it is normal , I mean people can have intentions to meet their love and things, but they should not like make it as the top of their aim in life, if  it should happen it will happen

According to Indian philosophy dear Mir, you should  know that people should not be attached to things in life  , they should be always ready to remain alone and accept the things God sends them with calm heart and if God takes something away , one should try and also remain calm and in harmony

It is very hard to accomplish but that is how people can be happy

[Mir]

I agree

But on this forum people are actively seeking rather then passively waiting.

So how was your holiday? Did you get a tan?

[Nando]

Why strange ? it is normal , I mean people can have intentions to meet their love and things, but they should not like make it as the top of their aim in life, if  it should happen it will happen

Well maybe for some young people with time this applies. For guys who are in the middle of life that approach it is not the most pro active.
That is the reason why Mir, myself and many others decided to search.
The probability of finding a good partner increases if you search.

And when most of us were of your age priority was job and career, but by now  priorities may have change. I don't want to work 12 to 14 hour a day the rest of my life

[Jazzyclassy]

I agree

But on this forum people are actively seeking rather then passively waiting.

So how was your holiday? Did you get a tan?

It was great thank you Mir, just weather was not very good though, a little tan  I got though:)

Well maybe for some young people with time this applies. For guys who are in the middle of life that approach it is not the most pro active.
That is the reason why Mir, myself and many others decided to search.
The probability of finding a good partner increases if you search.

And when most of us were of your age priority was job and career, but by now  priorities may have change. I don't want to work 12 to 14 hour a day the rest of my life

For me career , work and  things are not priority even though I am young, some people just can not tolerate other people except themselves there are such people who can not live with somebody else , they only do the things they wish  and have no idea how it is to take care of somebody else,  I doubt any search methods will help....... for such people

[Nando]

For me career , work and  things are not priority even though I am young, some people just can not tolerate other people except themselves there are such people who can not live with somebody else , they only do the things they wish  and have no idea how it is to take care of somebody else,  I doubt any search methods will help....... for such people

That is true.
However living with a woman or two gives us precious experience about what what to look for and the same applies to men.
Just living our normal live and hoping that by chance we can find someone that is a good partner is good for the ones who were lucky. For the others, well searching is the way to go. Life is only two days like we say in my country...just be careful and don't fall for the first one.

[MaxxumUSA]

Well...

By the time I started this endeavor - yes - I was Searching with a capitol S.  Actively searching.  Hoping.  I'm 39 years old.  Other than a brief 5 year marriage from hell I for the most part have lived alone.

BUT - my dream since being a boy is to have a happy home life, be a good husband to a loving wife, and be a good father to my children.  After failure at finding this with any AW I decided now is the time to give this a try.

I took a very proactive approach.  I wrote lists of what I am seeking in a partner.  Lists of what I have to offer.  Lists of what defects I would accept in another.  Lists of what my defects are.   Then I went forward with both eyes wide open.

This approach helped me find my Elena in only a few weeks.  It's been hard work to visit her and difficult for us to be apart - but we will be together soon.  Her interview is Aug 21 in moscow.

Lit - if you need advice on how to proceed this board is a good place to start.  Feel free to PM me if you would like some help.

- David

[Lit_1nce]

 Jazzy,

I understand your points all too well.

In my last situation, things had in my mind fallen apart with Daiva. I was not actively seeking anyone else.. the universe actually brought someone else to me. In an ironic twist of fate, to be with this person I had to give up everything in my life and take a chance and move about 600 miles away. (not exactly what I was asking Daiva to do, but close)

I am not forcing anything. I have taken a looong break from having a relationship, because I needed to recover and heal from the last one, in order to be fair with whoever might be with me in the next if that makes sense.

As to FSU being my only options, as you can see from the little I have told of my history I am not totaly closed minded. I will tell you haowever, that for some reason I feel more comfortable sitting in a cafe next to a women with a translation dictionary  than going to a nightclub here