Has an RWD member successfully played "matchmaker" for another member?

[ScottinCrimea]

My wife has a friend in Ukraine who is interested in finding a good man, not necessarily a foreigner but certainly not averse to the idea.  We're getting her hooked up with freepersonals.ru and will help her with any correspondence and screening there, but as great as she is, I think better to let her choose who interests her and help her with that rather than trying to choose for her.

Incidently, I remember there was some discussion about the true meaning of the term "manager" here.  In her case she asked that her job be listed as this because it is rather obscure and she doesn't want that men know initially what her real occupation is. No, not that!  Actually she's quite high up in the government and doesn't want that to influence anyone either way.

[Misha]

My wife has a friend in Ukraine who is interested in finding a good man, not necessarily a foreigner but certainly not averse to the idea. 

Some of my wife's friends and relatives told her in jest to find her a good husband, but the problem is that they themselves don't know what they want: How old? Attractive or average? Interests? They want the good husband on a silver platter, but they do not put the thought into figuring out what they need or want in a partner.

[ScottinCrimea]

Some of my wife's friends and relatives told her in jest to find her a good husband, but the problem is that they themselves don't know what they want: How old? Attractive or average? Interests? They want the good husband on a silver platter, but they do not put the thought into figuring out what they need or want in a partner.

I've had several do the same thing.  This is the only one who was actually willing to make the effort to define what she was looking for.  That's why we are willing to help her.  I won't be a matchmaker but I will help those who are actually willing to help themselves.

[BillyB]

We're getting her hooked up with freepersonals.ru and will help her with any correspondence and screening there,

bride.ru is another dating site thats easy for her to sign up at. She has to give her phone number and bride.ru will verify through a call that she's a woman and is serious. At first, on those dating sites, she will probably be overwhelmed with letters but most will be from losers who always target new women, who just listed their profile, in hopes one is naive enough to like them. Tell her not to be discouraged when she receives letters from crazy guys. If she doesn't find success immediately and the letters start slowing down, she can renew her profile to get back to the front of the site where she will get more exposure.

[wiz]

Scottin

try this one one also...is Free

http://www.merrydating.com

[Jazzyclassy]

I am sorry the ones, who love Bride.ru , from the woman's point of view I consider this site to be such a shop of women ,  I think it is a horrible site when you need to buy the phone number of the girl you like in order to call her then need to buy her e-mail address, looks like a very very cheap site, plus I do not understand how it can be possible to buy love, well some people already know how it feels like but , not everyone is like that I should say

I do not know I think even for women themselves it is a humiliation to be on such site and they just did not know where to apply found this crap site and put their profiles and are hanging there on the site like a fresh meat or fish or beef , that's not good

I think Matchmaker it is only God , you can pay tons of money to special people , agencies who do specialises on that , but  that is how to say such a strange industry to work in , how can people compare women with goods , offering blonde, brunettes, skinny , chubby, blue eyed, hazel eyed and so on that is discrimination

Being in contact with an agency or a special person who does this matchmaking does not mean anything, you can give all your money and find a scammer and you can pay 0 cent and can find a diamond, it all depends on your luck, situation and life circumstances.

[wiz]

Jazzy

Meeting a man or a woman through a website is nothing special but another way of meeting somebody. Most people meet at work place, in a party or are introduced by common friends.

Marriage agencies offer an introduction service for which you have to pay and is up to the individual persons to use this service or not. As we all know it is not a guarantee that you will find the right person or not.

The internet dating sites is a new way of meeting people and it has opened too many extra possibilities. Many of the Marriage agencies have their own sites thus selling their services to wider audience. Internet Dating is a huge business as you can see from the adverts but at the end of the day NOBODY forces anybody to use these sites! It is our own decision what we want to do or not.

There are many FREE sites where you can post your profile when looking to find a partner and it's up to you to protect yourself from scammers and other bad elements.

I have used these Free sites and avoided any sites that were charging for anything! Yes I can assure you that I have met honest women without having to pay for their e-mail address or anything else.

There is nothing humiliating about that, I agree with you and I will not post a profile or look in any of these sites, like those your mention.

Anyhow I met my current GF in a Free site and I am very happy with her and our 4 months relationship is getting better every day. I have visited her 5 times this summer and we had plenty of face time together already (just came back as you know) and she is coming to stay with me at Christmas. 

 

Aeroflot has some very cheap fares over Christmas….. I have been waiting for sometime for Aeroflot to drop the fares and last night they dropped the prices. Originally they were asking for Ufa – Moscow – London Return fare including taxes, 487 Euro ($ 688 or GBP 342)  and last night dropped the fare to 321 Euro ($453 or 225 GBP)….. so I booked her flight. Of course I had to change a little the dates, because on the 15 DEC the price is still 686 Euro but on Sunday the 16 Dec, a day later, is down to 321 (HALF PRICE)…… huge saving. Actually I am very pleased with myself because I have managed to get the best connecting flights for her……5 hours on the way to London and 4 hours on the return… just enough time to move around Sheremetovo from Terminal 1 to 2 and vise versa.

Anybody who wants to use Aeroflot and get cheap prices…. I suggest you visit their site in normal working hours and then again when Russians and Europeans are asleep….play around with the dates and sure you will find what you looking for and I can assure you the in-flight service is very good and Aeroflot has replaced their old aircraft fleet with new airbuses A 321/0 and Boeing 767 for their international flights and the old Tupolev’s have been a little renovated. No I have no shares in Aeroflot but speak from my experience travelling there too many times.

Unfortunately  I never had the chance to meet Jazzy or anybody else for that matter, because she is always working and lives too far away from Sheremetovo.....but one of these days I will probably have a stopover in Moscow and the poor girl will have the missfortune to meet the old dedouska 

[Misha]

I am sorry the ones, who love Bride.ru , from the woman's point of view I consider this site to be such a shop of women ,  I think it is a horrible site when you need to buy the phone number of the girl you like in order to call her then need to buy her e-mail address, looks like a very very cheap site, plus I do not understand how it can be possible to buy love, well some people already know how it feels like but , not everyone is like that I should say

I do not know I think even for women themselves it is a humiliation to be on such site and they just did not know where to apply found this crap site and put their profiles and are hanging there on the site like a fresh meat or fish or beef , that's not good

I think Matchmaker it is only God , you can pay tons of money to special people , agencies who do specialises on that , but  that is how to say such a strange industry to work in , how can people compare women with goods , offering blonde, brunettes, skinny , chubby, blue eyed, hazel eyed and so on that is discrimination

Being in contact with an agency or a special person who does this matchmaking does not mean anything, you can give all your money and find a scammer and you can pay 0 cent and can find a diamond, it all depends on your luck, situation and life circumstances.

So Jazzy, what do you recommend? What is your preferred option?

I used a free Russian dating site (singles.ru) and met my wife through the site. Before being married, I also tried a number of sites in North America, both sites where I had to pay for "credits" to chat with women online (lavalife) and the free sites (plenty of fish). I even thought about going to a dating agency. Internet dating does offer a lot of advantages. For someone who is shy like me, internet dating makes the process so much easier. You can chat with a woman online and begin to communicate with her online before meeting her in person. Plus, you know that she is looking for a date or a relationship simply based on the fact that she posted a profile on a dating site.

Besides, is the regular dating scene less of a meat market? Jazzy, have you ever been to a "diskoteka"? The men and women get dressed and are on the dance floor or hanging around also  "like fresh meat or fish or beef." You do not pay for email addresses, but the men do pay for drinks and chat up the women, hoping for a phone number at the end of night (or a bit more than a phone number).

Before going to a diskoteka, men and women will get dressed up and quite often the goal is to attract someone of the opposite sex. And what do you think the men will be noticing and looking for in the women? Trust me, they will also "compare women with goods, [the dance floor] offering blondes, brunettes, skinny , chubby, blue eyed, hazel eyed and so on." It is hard to discuss philosophy on the dance floor, so your decision to flirt with one woman over another won't be based on her mind.

There are other ways of meeting people of course. You can meet them at work, but what happens if it does not work out? You will have to deal with gossip and seeing your "ex" on a daily basis. The other common place is at school, but if you have already graduated, this is no good.

So where are the other places to meet women? Trust me, for shy guys like me it ain't easy  We do what we can, and I am happy that I had the option of internet dating. And, if anything, internet dating in Russia is so much easier: you have many more women on the dating sites in Russia (less of a stigma attached to it, in my opinion) and women are much more likely to meet with you for a coffee than on sites such as Lavalife. In my experience, many women are nervous about meeting someone from a site, so you have to spend tons of money on "credits" before she trusts you enough to give you her e-mail or phone number. And, 9 times out 10, she will simply lead you along and not meet with you in person as you are the one paying for credits and she is simply having some fun at your expense online. Fortunately for me, dating was easier in Russia.

[BillyB]

I am sorry the ones, who love Bride.ru , from the woman's point of view I consider this site to be such a shop of women ,  I think it is a horrible site when you need to buy the phone number of the girl you like in order to call her then need to buy her e-mail address, looks like a very very cheap site, plus I do not understand how it can be possible to buy love, well some people already know how it feels like but , not everyone is like that I should say

Jazzy, are you sure you know how bride.ru works to give that opinion? If a guy buys a membership, he will have access to all ladies contact info including address, phone number, and e-mail if there is one. He does not need to buy/order them on an individual basis. He is allowed to retrieve 30 contact info a day or around 900 a month if he is motivated enough.

Bride.ru also advertises on the FSU's biggest local dating sites and do attract women who originally were just looking for an FSU man and had no motivations to leave her country. That's a good thing.

bride.ru does not sell love, they do not encourage the women to love men because they are not matchmakers and do not sell tours or rent apartments or set up dates between people. They do not force women to write their profile in a way to get older men to do business with them. There are many women there looking for men 18-20 years old. You will not see that in agency profiles. It's a more honest site than you think. But I do suspect they sell contact info/profiles to agencies after they get a few months old.

[Misha]

Jazzy, are you sure you know how bride.ru works to give that opinion? If a guy buys a membership, he will have access to all ladies contact info including address, phone number, and e-mail if there is one. He does not need to buy/order them on an individual basis. He is allowed to retrieve 30 contact info a day or around 900 a month if he is motivated enough.

Bride.ru also advertises on the FSU's biggest local dating sites and do attract women who originally were just looking for an FSU man and had no motivations to leave her country. That's a good thing.

bride.ru does not sell love, they do not encourage the women to love men because they are not matchmakers and do not sell tours or rent apartments or set up dates between people. They do not force women to write their profile in a way to get older men to do business with them. There are many women there looking for men 18-20 years old. You will not see that in agency profiles. It's a more honest site than you think. But I do suspect they sell contact info/profiles to agencies after they get a few months old.

I checked the site and  you can even get some e-mail addresses for free. Also, they do check phone numbers and they specify in the information they provide to Russian women (http://bride.ru/ph/htcgi/service/rulesL_rus.html) that they want a home phone number and not a cell phone or a "work" number. As home phones are harder to get and Russia still has the "propiska" system (you have to registered as living in a certain location) this will weed out many potential scammers.

[luda]

I agree that bride.ru is a good place to look for a gal.  hook me with your friend. i trust you all

[Jazzyclassy]

I agree that bride.ru is a good place to look for a gal.  hook me with your friend. i trust you all

you heard guys ahhahaha , hook the girl with somebody finally  priceless ahhahah

[AnnaFBA]

Besides, is the regular dating scene less of a meat market? Jazzy, have you ever been to a "diskoteka"? The men and women get dressed and are on the dance floor or hanging around also  "like fresh meat or fish or beef." You do not pay for email addresses, but the men do pay for drinks and chat up the women, hoping for a phone number at the end of night (or a bit more than a phone number).

Plus I think women are more on the defensive towards men in a diskoteka and are less likely to make themselves available to a variety of men.

Trust me, for shy guys like me it ain't easy  We do what we can, and I am happy that I had the option of internet dating.

It is not always easy for a woman in a face to face situation either.  I don't think that I am shy.  But, I am not always friendly, so it was easier to have first contact on the internet.  I didn't feel as if I was being pressured in any way.

[Simoni]

Getting back to the title of the topic, no--I have never successfully played matchmaker.

Tried twice...and it did not work.

It goes back to the old WOVO argument....and what is the chance that one man will like one woman and that one woman like that man?  Slim, in  my experience.

Yes, Marina and I can see a girl she knows and know she is a good girl.  And I can direct a good guy to that girl. But that is not enough.  Then their personalities (both) have to click.  That is a long shot, and IMHO, not something you want to get your common friends involved with.