New Guy Questions

[williama]

I'm throwing this out there for those with more experience than me who have already gone through the same issues.

1. I have been corresponding with several ladies in different locations in the FSU and am planning on going in June. The question is: Should I go to one location and request that they travel to my location (Moscow) if they are fairly close. on the otherhand if it is a 4hr flight form Moscow to a small town in Siberia. Should I fly from Moscow or should I purchase a ticket for her to travel? Some advice othe proper thing to do would help. I have read a lot of postings where "she should not be expected to incur the cost of meeting".

2. Some of the women I have been corresponding with are open ,very friendly, asking questions about me, where I live etc and not opposed to answering questions. I have responded in kind by answering any question except about money because those do not last to long. However one that I have had several (10)+ emails with is very reluctant about sharing information. I have her personal email and her english is pretty good (a lot better than my Russian) so I can read and write her without the electronic translator but she says she cannot understand why I ask her questions. I haven't asked her anything except general chit chat questions that I have asked of anyone else. I've only asked general questions but she almost seems offended by me asking questions. All of the returned emails she has sent never answers any questions and is usually a totally different topic or just really short 2or 3 lines at the most that has nothing to do with me or her. I'm starting to become wary of this one but other than that she seems pretty nice. Is this common or should I be concerned? Any recommendations would help.

[Kuna]

I'm throwing this out there for those with more experience than me who have already gone through the same issues.

1. I have been corresponding with several ladies in different locations in the FSU and am planning on going in June. The question is: Should I go to one location and request that they travel to my location (Moscow) if they are fairly close. on the otherhand if it is a 4hr flight form Moscow to a small town in Siberia. Should I fly from Moscow or should I purchase a ticket for her to travel? Some advice othe proper thing to do would help. I have read a lot of postings where "she should not be expected to incur the cost of meeting".

2. Some of the women I have been corresponding with are open ,very friendly, asking questions about me, where I live etc and not opposed to answering questions. I have responded in kind by answering any question except about money because those do not last to long. However one that I have had several (10)+ emails with is very reluctant about sharing information. I have her personal email and her english is pretty good (a lot better than my Russian) so I can read and write her without the electronic translator but she says she cannot understand why I ask her questions. I haven't asked her anything except general chit chat questions that I have asked of anyone else. I've only asked general questions but she almost seems offended by me asking questions. All of the returned emails she has sent never answers any questions and is usually a totally different topic or just really short 2or 3 lines at the most that has nothing to do with me or her. I'm starting to become wary of this one but other than that she seems pretty nice. Is this common or should I be concerned? Any recommendations would help.

1. William,

There's a few ways to do it... When WMVM you're usually MUCH better off meeting ladies in one city or across two cities at most.  The problem is if you CLICK with the very first girl you meet (like I did) you'll want to return and spend more time with her.  No problems - but if you've already moved on and traveled to a different location you'll spend the whole time trying to extract yourself to get back to her (like I did).   

Depending on when you are planning to travel I would suggest you continue to write letters, qualify your desires by being quite direct in your emails, and whittle the ones you're writing to down to a "best few" (preferably in the same city).  Once you're down to a best few you can go and meet them and if that doesn't work out you can always meet more ladies through local agencies once you're on the ground.

There are many ways to do this - you just need to find the method you're most comfortable with.  I'd suggest you don't spend too much time traveling from place to place.

(btw... when qualifying the ladies it's best that you understand yourself REALLY well... and the things you're looking for... and the reasons why those thngs are important.)

2. Sadly it sounds like the "lady" who won't answer questions isn't a lady at all... and even if she is don't feel bad about flicking someone who won't answer your questions. 

When writing to ladies we (men) tend to start making excuses for ladies because we fill in the things we don't know with the things we HOPE are true. 

If you were dealing with a woman you met at home, in a shop, cafe, pub. etc and you asked questions but she didn't answer you wouldn't continue the conversation would you?  You've just get up and move along...  Same thing with your letter writing.  There are MANY women who ARE genuine and who will answer questions.  No matter the reason for this "lady" not answer, it's time to move on.

p.s.  She may be a scammer... or she may just be a difficult woman.  Don't think every woman you will meet will be a good woman...  Some of them are CRAZY!     Picking the genuine girls is the biggest challenge you'll have... Leave the crazies behind!

Best of luck!

Kuna

[Shadow]

1. It is up to you and how you want to organize. On one hand it will be more comfortable for you to meet them in one place, and you can offer them that you will pay their cost when they show up regardless of how the meeting goes.
Of course you should keep your word, even if you can not stand her after two minutes.
On the other hand I believe it would be better to meet them in their home town, to get a good view of who they are and how they treat people around them.

2. Any woman who does not answer your questions but rambles on about other things (and falls in love with you doing so) is most probably a scammer. If you have enough who do answer your questions drop those who do not, unless you want to collect the sey pictures they send. 

[Gator]

William,

Welcome!

You are getting excellent advice from Kuna and Shadow.

Your first question - either way works and neither is perfect.  If she lives in an interesting place, meet her there and make it part travel adventure.  Otherwise you may grow weary of visiting the same museum three times with three different women.  If she has traveled to see you, it is difficult to convince her to leave before her time is up. 

Your second question - Beware of reticent woman.  If she is really attracted to you, she would want to  know more about you and share her life as well.  OTOH, perhaps she is busy, does not believe you will meet her (self-fulfilling prophecy), etc.  So before you say adios, call her.  Some women are terrible at writing letters yet open and loquacious when talking over the telephone.  In fact you should call all you women as soon as possible - much more insightful than writing letters.

[williama]

Thanks for the suggestions. I will take the travel and contact information into advise.
With the suggestions on travel you supplied I  should come up with something between all of your advise.

I'll ask for the phone number for one last effort....maybe she will answer that question. :-)) 
Put in that context if she was here and wouldn't answer questions..... your right I never looked at it that way!
Thanks Guys

[Thor]

William,

Try to stay at one place and meet the girls there. It can be a vaiste of time to travel to much. If the girl(s) are serious about seeing you so can they come to Moscow, BUT you maybe you need help them pay the ticket... Most guys have limited time when they go to FSU to meet girls, so consider stay at 1 place.