N Novgorod 27 day trip report

[felix8787]

Hello everyone,

Well, I'm back from my trip to Nizhniy Novgorod, I must say that the experience over there was great, seeing this culture at work and seeing the day to day routines of my lady and being part of that routine.
Well once I left Florida it was a pretty boring flight and the lay over didn't help either, I had a 5 hour layover in Chicago and a 12hr layover in Frankfurt, which by the way really really sucked, but the women that I saw there were just stunning. So finally get on the plane for N. Novgorod, after getting in my seat, this lady asked me if I could switch with her so that she could sit next to her husband, OK I said, when I got to my new seat, the native RW, with red hair sat next to me, she lives and works in Germany but was born in N. Novgorod, I struck up a conversation with, so the flight there wasn't bad after all and having 4 cups of wine really really helped me relax after that 12hr layover, this woman that I was talking to, gave me so info about the city and just pretty much gabbed for about an hour of more, don't really know how long, then I napped until we got there. I arrived at the airport at 11pm and I thought for sure that customs was going to be a freaking nightmare, nope everything went fine, go through smoothly, went and pick up my luggage and started for the security check point, as I was walking up to the check point, I saw my lady and she saw me, gave me a great smile and waved, boy was I ever so relieved to see her in person and not just some voice over the phone, her son was with her, I didn't see his reaction thought, once I got past the check point, I went over to her and gave her a big hug, her son grabbed one luggage piece, I grabbed the over and we walked outside to the taxi, the taxi cab driver stuffed my luggage in the car we got in and off to her place we went, it was about a 40 minute trip back, so on the way back we talked, she was telling me what some of these places were that I was pointing to. The ride itself was pretty cool, even though it was dark, there were alot of people out b/c it was Victory Day there and people were still celebrating it. When we finally arrived back at her place, I didn't know what to expect as far as the building were concerned, we went some 2 small flights of stairs in the dark with only her cell phone giving off some light so that I wouldn't trip over myself, I wasn't concerned about how small her place was or how the conditions of the building was, I was just glad to finally be with her face to face. We stayed up for about another hour and a half, she kept on asking me if I wanted to eat dinner, I just told her that I wasn't hungry, I was just glad to be there. When we finally went to bed, that's when her son, started to get the jealousy thing started. So she went and got in bed with her son and called it a night.

Well Saturday, I woke up early out of excitement of just being there, I think it was about 5 or 5:30am, I don't know, so I decided to go and get in the bath, first I had to figure out how the work the heater system, never really dealt with one of these before, so I tinkered with it, turned on both level at used her lighter to get the flame going.......what I didn't realize is that one is the pilot flame and the other is full on gas.....well there was a boom and fire was roaring like hell....another thing that I didn't know was that the water had to be running so that the pipes didn't accumulate steam....so my lady comes in there and asked me what happened and she just shook her head and told me how to use it, after she turned of the heater, she opened up the valve and white steam just came running out of the pipes for a good 30 seconds. Wow, I felt dumb, she told that this was no good to do like that, after that she went back into bed. After my bath, I was still up and didn't know what to do, I didn't want to wake her up, so I decided to curl next to her, she grabbed my arm and pulled it close to her and I went back to sleep. Later that morning we woke up had breakfast, we had breakfast and decided to go out and about in the city, I was more interested in looking for an ATM, needed to get cash out now. Went went somewhere I don't know if it was the central of the area but it was nice, there was a McDonald's and all other kinds of shops, we found an ATM, I put my card in and it was denied, I thought to myself that it was a flute and the machine was broke, went to the other and the same thing happened, now I'm starting to get pissed, we just kept walking and walking and found a bank, went inside and used there ATM, still the same thing happened, now I was really really upset, I had a 100 dollar bill, so we stuck that in the machine and exchanged that for rubles, now at least  I have some currency, I was upset at the fact that I didn't know what was going on with my card and being that it is a 8 hour difference and it was Saturday I couldn't do anything until Monday evening, so we walked back and went to McDonald's had lunch and went back to her place, we needed to get grocery's, so went by her friends place so that she could pay her back for the money she borrowed for getting the taxi, I sent her 100 dollars western union so that she can get the taxi but the bank was closed Thursday for Victory day on Friday. So we off to the grocery store, once we were there, there were ATM's all over the place, so I tried my card again but this time I checked the balance and the was money there, so I tried once again to withdraw some cash, nothing, now I was getting worried, because, here I am and I have money but no access to it, we're at the grocery store so that I could buy grocery and I can't get nothing....Now thinking what to do, I told her to wait, I went over to the cashier and got a small piece of candy and gave her my card, waited for about 2 minutes, which felt like forever, because I didn't know what was going to happen....Then all of the sudden, the cash register started to push out the receipt and boy did that bring a big smile to my face, I waved at my lady to grab a basket and shopping we went. Then that Monday I went to a small bank and started to do cash withdraws, b/c my bank told me that visa wouldn't let me use the ATM b/c of fraudulent activities.

Pretty much things went OK for the next few days, I did alot of walking around the city, go to see some sites but not as many as I would of liked to see. On Wednesday May 15 my lady gave me her work address and so I decided that after I get done cleaning her place, I would walk over to her work and suprise her with a card and a rose. So off I went walking, seeing as I didn't know where this street was I was, I was asking alot of people for directions, none knew English but I got alot of hand jesters and so forth, I just followed then, the weather was damp it was sprinkling and cold, but I kept on walking, then I asked the this beautiful lady and she asked if I was American, yes I said, so she spoke to me in English which was nice, I followed her instructions and got to where I need to be, now I following the building number and found her place of work, so I went to the building, it was full of militia, kind of got nervous, but I asked if this was the right place, and I got alot of da's. So I went up to the very top floor, it was the wrong place, so I went down to the next floor, it looked like where she works, so I waited and waited then finally I asked one of the people if she worked there, I told her her name and she said call her on my phone, apparently she called her and told her that her boyfriend was here and I went down stairs not knowing that she already called her, as I waited to figure out what to do, here she come and with a smile and tells me that she doesn't get off work till 4pm so we went upstairs, she introduces me to her friend and then I give her the rose and card and walk back with her to another building where she works at, then she asked me if I could go back home and get her jacket and coat for her son, I said sure, I figure it took me about 3hr's to find this place and if I took short cut I could get to her place in no time, so off I went again and this time I had to make it quick, I left her place of work about 2:45pm and got back to her place at about 3:20pm and after getting what I needed there was no way I was going to make it back in time before she got off of work, so I said to myself, I need a taxi right now, so I walked over to where I knew taxi's were going to be and got in an Audi A6 taxi and showed the driver the address where I needed to be, I told him that I have to be there by 4pm which was about 20 minutes till then. He gave me this look like "Right now?" I shook my head and point at my wrist letting him know that time was an essence, so  I get in and boy did he drive like a bat out of hell, when we got to the street, he went to the wrong and to top things off the right way was backed up, so down the wrong way we went until he found a spot to u-turn, then off in the right direction we went, after cutting through traffic, I kept my eyes open to where I needed to be and I almost passed the place up, I told that is where I need to go and he dropped me off with about 2 minutes remaining, I gave him 200 rubles told him thankyou in Russian, shook his hand and went and waited for my lady, needless to say she was very happy now that I came back with her coat and her son's coat. She asked why I walk so much and I told her that it is good exercise and burns fat and keeps me in shape. After thinking about where I went and how I got there with the taxi, I did one huge circle in the city walking. We took the bus system back to her place and went and picked up her son and had dinner and called it an evening.

Then next day pretty much the same thing expect that I went to do some more site seeing, I went to this mall that was 4 stories high, it wasn't that big but overall very nice, after walking around there, I got hungry and decided to get something to eat, I saw a pizza parlor and decided that will work, so I order up a pizza and after I got done eating started my way back to the apt and after I got there, I had a banana and then looked at the clock and saw that I had about 2 hrs until she got off of work, so I decided hey let me go back up there and meet her at her work and we can go home together....So again I started my trek....after about 20 to 30 minutes of walking I started to get these pains in my lower right abdomen, it felt like I needed to use the bathroom to take a piss, so I went into this one building and used their facilities, and damn it nothing....I left and kept on walking but the pain was getting worse and worse, when I finally got to her place of work I sat down b/c it took me about an hour and fifteen minutes to get there, I didn't sit down b/c I was tired, I sat down b/c the pain was intense, I had about 40 minutes to kill before she got down with work, holy crap it felt like forever, so I went again to try and use the bathroom and nothing maybe just a trickle, I certainly didn't know what the hell was wrong with me. So back outside I went and this time there was about 2 minutes before 4pm, so I walk back closer to the main door and waited and waited, finally she come out and immediately she looked at me and asked if I was OK, I shook my head and told her that I was in pain, we walked over to the bus and waited, when we finally got on the bus, the pain was damn near unbearable and she just kept looking at me asking me if I was OK, I shook my head no, the bus ride certainly didn't help matters, I was standing up and with the bus moving around the way that it did, it felt like a bee hive was sting me in my lower abs, when we finally got to the bus stop of her place, she told me to go ahead and she will get her son and for me to lay down, so I went and did just that. She comes home with her son and I am in bed, I couldn't get comfortable, the pain worsened by the minute and I told her "sorry" in Russian for this happening, she sat next to me and gave me comfort, smiled and just held on to my hand and caressed my face. She said that she will call the doctor and that they would come and check me out, I said no at first, I wanted to see if this was going to pass or not, then she looked in her book and asked if I had diarrhea, I said no, I told her what I had to eat, she did her medical examination on me and figure that it was my appendix, I told her I don't know, so I said OK, call the paramedic, but please find out how much it cost, I don't have my military ID. She called the paramedic and they came and they did the same examination as she did and concluded the same thing. So off I went the their little ambulance to the hospital and she told me that she will meet me up there later, when I got there they put me in this waiting room with this other guy, so while I was there, me and this other talked for a bit, I said to him in Russian that my name is xxxx and he told me what his name was and why he was there, after awhile, the doctor and everyone else stepped in to examine me and did the same thing and they came to the same conclusion, so they started me on some pain med through shot in my rear, then my lady come and what a sign of relief, she tells me that they are going to operate on you right now and that I needed to strip down, so I did just that, I asked her how much it is going to cost and she told me that I will be very very little money, I said OK, so after our goodbyes, and another lady came in there who spoke pretty good English, had me write in English what was already prewritten in Russian about me agreeing to this and that, if I have ever had brain trauma or do I have HIV, basically a waiver form and signed by me, once we got done with that, these other 2 nurses came in and took me over the to operating room, I must say that, the nurses were absolutely stunning, but when I got in the room they had me take off my robe and lay down in this metal table, of course I was still covered up, but I was looking around and saw the lady hooking up tubes on for the anaesthesia and the last thing that I remember before passing out on my own, was this nurse with the most striking blue eyes strapping my arm down to the table, then I was out like a light........................When I came to it was very early morning, I looked around and I was in a room by myself, naked under the sheet and no clothing what so ever, I passed out again and this time I remember being very very cold and my body and mouth couldn't stop shaking and chattering from being cold. Then I woke up again when her brother came and visited me and dropped off some milk and this other stuff, I think it was sour milk, I don't know but it was pretty bland stuff, so he sat around and we talked for awhile (we met earlier at my ladies place, he's a police officer) then he had to get back to work, then the doctor came in and told me that I needed to walk around, I told him that I need cloth and he went and got me hospital pants and a shirt, so I started walking around the place kind of checking it out, damn I was boring there, since I really couldn't eat, I was just drinking water, milk and tea. The janitorial lady was very nice to me and brought me hot tea, my throat was very very parched and it was hard to swallow, when I finally could eat, the only thing that I ate was bread, then I stiffened up the next day and tried whatever it was that they served. I was told before the operation that I had to stay for about 3 days and then it turned into 6 days. Later on the second day my lady and her son came to see me, she brought me my cell phone, cigarettes and some cloths. We talked for a bit, it was relieving to see her but after she left, it was boring again, of course nurses came in twice a day to give me antibiotics and keep my hydrated from the surgery, but when the third day came around, I was fed up with being there and wanted to get back to being with my lady, so after some thought, it was sunday and thing were slow, I walked around a bit and scanned the place to see where I could exit discreetly, when I went back to my room and layed down, the nurse came in and hooked up needles to my arm again and did her thing, this time it took forever and I was just waiting to get the hell out of there, when it was finally done, I pulled the needles out and walked to the door poked my head out saw that nobody was around. So I went and changed out of my hospital cloths into what my lady brought me, which wasn't much, some jogging shorts, a designer shirt and sandals with ankle socks. So after getting dressed that morning, I realized that I looked absolutely ridiculous the way I was dressed, whatever I thought, so I proceded to walk to out, didn't know where I came in from so it was a matter of finding a way out, the way out that I found earlier when I went and smoked was now locked, damn I thought, I better find another way out, so I kept on walking around and ended up walking right out in front of where everyone that was coming to visit the hospital came in. I must look like a total fool walking around in jogging shorts and a designer shirt holding a plastic bag with my other stuff, oh well, time to get walking, I had to remember where I was at from the ride there 3 days ago, I did remember this one building from where we went to on the first day that I was there. So I started walking from what I remembered and I am just thinking to myself, that these people who are up and about are wearing coats and sweaters and are properly dress and here is me walking in sandals, shorts and a t-shirt, they must be thinking that I am a stupid American, they gotta be thinking that....So after walking I don't know how many miles and finally getting back to her place, I ring the door to open and she unlocks the door from her apartment, she didn't have a clue that it was me and when I walked up and she saw me, she was surprised and delighted to see me and at the same time she was concerned that I needed to finish my treatment. But after a good homecoming, I had some food and we talked and got a little intimate, she told me that she was coming to visit today (by the way her parents were also concerned about my well being to, they knew that I was coming to see their daughter.) I told her that I couldn't be there anymore and that I wanted to come back to be with her and nothing was going to stop me, so she finally gave up and me promise to go back and finish the treatment, I said OK. That afternoon, we went and did some grocery shopping apparently, without me there she really didn't have the money for food like I was buying it, as the day went on, I decided OK, I should go back to the hospital, so I got dressed and she was laying down, I told her that I was leaving and she gave me this look "Why", I told that I am going and she told me no, to stay and go tomorrow and see what the doctor says.

So the next day, I walked back to the hospital, again I didn't know exactly where this place was, so I had to guess as to where this place was from memory, after finding the hospital, I saw the doctor out front smoking, I told him that I need to finish the treatment, he pointed upstairs and that is where I needed to be. So I walked up stairs and saw the nurse and the little janitorial lady who were in my room while I was there, they were shocked to see me that I was back, I spoke to the nurse and asked for water and of course they didn't know English and they all giggled like little school girls, I just smiled. I got my water and just waited. Then this one doctor lady came up and asked me what I wanted, I told her that I needed to finish my treatment, she asked why I left and I told her that this place was boring and I didn't want to stay here anymore and also that I was told 3 days, I also asked her how much the procedure cost, that's when the doctor who operated on me held out his hand and made a gesture like very little, so I guess that the cost was going to be very little, he other doctor tells me that it is way cheaper then it is in America, I so OK, so I pointed to to my arm as if to say that I need whatever they were giving me, the doctor shook his head no and the other doctor tells me it is only if I had a fever, which I didn't have. But the main doctor tells me to come back the next day to check me out and then to come back the day after to get the stitches removed. I came back for those 2 days and got the stitches removed and of course saw the same nurses there, one was really cute and waved at me when she saw me.

Now fast forward a few day, nothing really of interest happens for a couple of days, just been recovering well at her place, now the 3rd weekend rolls around and that Saturday her brother comes over and asked me if I was wanting to go to his/her parents house at the village for the evening, I said sure, I thought that we were going there and spend some time with her folks, drop off her son and be back in town in the evening. NOPE, that didn't work out like that, it was just me, her brother and her son, so we drove and we talked, her son was passed out in the back seat, the car that he used was borrowed from a friend and the ride to the village took about a little over an hour. When we got there I was greeted with open arms, they didn't know English, so I made the best of it and started to put pieces together as to what they were saying, they took me on a tour of their farm. Now when her brother told me village, it is a village in every sense of the word, there was one small magazine (store) there, but other then that, they lived off the land, they showed me their cattle, pigs, chickens and goats. We had an afternoon lunch and I went out and checked out more of the farm, while I was there, a butcher had a cow hung and it's head chopped off, he was skinning it and cutting it up to take back to the city, wow, watching that was something else I tell yeah, their goat that they had thought that I was threatening it with a straw and bucked at me with it's big horns and almost put a hole in my leather jacket, I just thought to myself, I am going to be so pissed if this goat ripped my jacket. After doing somemore looking, I ask the brother why she didn't come and asked to call her to see what she was up to, she stayed home and is relaxing and cleaning the place up. I said OK, that's fine. I just hung out with the parents and talked some more, we talk and talked and then I asked the brother when are we going to head back and he tells me the next evening....wow, I am going to stay the night at her parents place....great...not that there is anything wrong with that, but that was something very unexpected. But as the day progressed, me, the brother and the father go and get water from the earth, I guess that there is an aquafer that comes up through the ground and that is where he gets his clean water from, he told me that the water from their system is bad and water from the earth is good. When I was out front smoking, I met a young lady I think around my age or younger walking her child and she hung around for a bit, we talked but couldn't really get anywhere because my lack of Russian and her lack of English. The food that they cooked up were fresh farm food, very very good, I had raw fish, meat, fresh potatoes and other vegtables. The father got out his photo album and showed me pictures of my lady when she was young and other various picture and more pic's of him, the mother and the brother, very very family moment, then I met the great grandfather who fought in 3 wars including WW2, we shook hands and he smiled and said something to me in Russian, the mother was telling me that he is hard of hearing, I just smiled and nodded my head. I turned in for the night and got some sleep.

The next day, was pretty much the same thing, except that I went with the brother and mother to get milk, so we headed off toward the pasture and she milked a cow and got milk. The rest of the day was pretty quiet, I had alot of tea and eat alot also, the mother even asked my lady why I didn't eat that much, but finally I talked to my lady, she asked how do I like her parents and how did everything go, I said everything is went fine, she told she kisses me and then we got of the phone, the day was pretty boring and I took a nap later on that evening and was waiting to get back to the city, It has been raining for a few days now and I was wondering when the weather was going to let up. It was around 6pm when I noticed that the brother was dressed in his uniform and I asked if we were going back and he said yes, I though great, they did ask me how do I like farm life and I told them that I thought it was boring for me and they just laughed, apparently that have been farmers for 20 something years, before I left the great grandfather came out and shook my hand and gave me a thumbs up with a great big smile. I honestly didn't know what to think, I think that they like me or else this would of never happened. Off we go back to the city, the ride there for some reason really didn't seem to take that long, either way I was glad to be back. When we got back, I didn't know what to think of the whole situation, she stayed behind and I'm there with her parents...little bit confused...so when we walked in she praised her son with kisses and me with kisses asked how I liked it and said to her that it was good, I had to ask her, why she didn't come? She told me that her brother wanted only the man to come...I just said OK and left it at that, she was in her robes, just relaxing, we talked some more and then I noticed something, she was actually telling her son to go to sleep early because she wanted to spend time with me, wow I thought, will he actually go to sleep? No not really he was fighting her all the way and continued to fight after everything was said and done.  We're sitting on the couch all snuggled up talking, things are going quite well, I asked what she did yesterday and she told me that she cleaned and slept and just got some good RnR, then she tells me that when she woke up, that she was ready and wanting to have sex! She undid her robe and shows me what she was wearing without taking her robe off, I just smile and we talk some more, I knew that nothing was going to happen b/c her son was there, but the thought counts and she was genuine about it, so it was getting a little late so I say, lets turn the TV off and the lights off, she says OK and as soon as that happened her son starts crying and was apologizing for being bad. Well it was getting late and she had to work the next day so we just called it a night, so after all the lights were turned off and only the bathroom light was on, I saw completely what teddy she was wearing and damn I thought to myself, I went to sleep with a damn good picture in my head.

The rest of the time of me being there I posted up on Introductions and Ice breakers before I put this post up, sorry for the jump around.

For what it's worth, I did enjoy my time there and when I did finally got devoted time with her, it was well worth the wait and quiet honestly I wished that we had more of it. But we are talking on the phone and I'm am planning on going back, I think that more physical interaction and face to face time is needed, to see where this goes, I have said it before in my other post and I will say it again, she is a wonderful wonderful woman and I can see myself with her for life, but more time is needed to sort everything out and see where it stands.

felix8787

[felix8787]

I just proof read what I wrote, damn I sound like an idiot in some paragraphs lol.

[felix8787]

This is right before they removed the stitches.

[SANDRO43]

This is right before they removed the stitches.

Five, if I'm not mistaken, quite a gash. Either they don't place much value on mini-invasive surgery, or they had some trouble locating your appendix, apparently .

[myrddin]

felix8787,

I'm envious of your ability to stay 27 days, but maybe it's worth the shorter trip if I can avoid surgery!

It sounds like you had a good meeting, though, and you're approaching things sensibly.  I hope everything works out for you!

[felix8787]

Myrddin

The meeting went well, she greeted me at the airport with a big smile and was definitely happy to see me there and not just some voice over the phone, I sure was happy to be there also. The surgery believe it or not was..................not bad, I was told that it last about 20 minutes and I handled it very very well, I just didn't like being there at the hospital longer then I should, especially when I can leave under my own power, which I had. Me personally, I can pretty much adapt to anything and get along, I wasn't shocked by the culture, though it was strange to me how much her son got away with and there really wasn't any discipline on her part. Other than that, I seriously do miss that place. Oh and also after getting back in the states, I personally noticed a big difference with AW compared to RW, HOLY cow what a huge difference, even the girls that worked in the grocery store or even McDonald's were smokin hot!!! I was dumbfounded  I will be putting up more pics here in a bit of where I have been to.

felix8787

[felix8787]

These are some pictures that I took while I was there.

[felix8787]

more pictures.

[felix8787]

more pics

[felix8787]

last of the pics

[BC]

Five, if I'm not mistaken, quite a gash. Either they don't place much value on mini-invasive surgery, or they had some trouble locating your appendix, apparently .

I heard that the appendix can be removed via the mouth without leaving a visible scar.

I think I'd rather have stitches removed.

[felix8787]

I read on the net while I was there, that a woman who has this problem can have her appendix removed from her private place without having to cut her abs, but the healing process would take longer.

felix8787

[SANDRO43]

A laparoscopic procedure is also available (http://www.laparoscopy.net/appy/appy4.htm).

[JimSeattle1963]

I knew from your first couple sentences about symptoms it was your appendix... brings back memories.  Most pain I've ever been in in my life.  And you had to deal with this in a foreign country, what a time for it to happen...  Glad everything came out OK. 

[felix8787]

Thanks JimSeattle1963,
It couldn't have been the worse time, but then again, the cost of it over here would have been 20 times the amount I was charged over there, so I guess it was ok that it happened there, but it screwed me financially on being able to go out to a nice dinner and theater with her.