Children

[PeeWee]

How are the children addapting? I would imagine the 1-10 addapt better than the 11-20 do. I will be including a 13 year old girl who speaks excellent English. One who spends two weeks in the summer at camp in the US. I am hoping that her acculmation process will be easier than most. She seems to have an excitement about living in the US and for making new friends.

Have I noticed that Russian parents seem to spoil their children more so than US parents do? How do you overcome that tendency to spend on the kid once they live in the US? I fear that my bank account will not stand the current unabaited spending on clothes and other indulgements that mom has allowed over the years.

PeeWee

[BC]

PeeWee,

as far as age goes, you are right the lower the age the easier it seems.

Teens are teens though.. no country of origin will change that.

Spoiled or not.. no generalizations applicable.. case by case.

Indulging kids? If mama has been doing it for years don't expect this to change. It is difficult to control natural and normal urges in the 'land of plenty'. Wouldn't be so bad if it was the 'land of cheap plenty' instead.

It's useless to have empty pockets in a new country where shopping is a national sport and passtime. RW's learn very quickly that it's better to stay at home where living with little is quite acceptable and normal. AM have problems with scammers, RW have problems with scrooges.

[2tallbill]

How are the children addapting?

Have I noticed that Russian parents seem to spoil their children more so than US parents do? How do you overcome that tendency to spend on the kid once they live in the US? I fear that my bank account will not stand the current unabaited spending on clothes and other indulgements that mom has allowed over the years.

PeeWee

Number one above all you need to talk to your Girl Friend way, way, way before you reach the point of her
or her daughter arriving in the USA.

You need to talk about any possible situation before you ever consider marrying a woman.
What happens if the child gets rude, angry, loud and/or willful? Is there spanking? sitting in
the corner? something else? Who does the spanking? Who sends the child to the corner.
What happens if they come home late? what about smoking, drinking? drugs? What if you
find them having sex with the neighbor boy or girl?
 
None of this should be left to guesswork, NO ASSUMPTIONS. I know a guy, who is now divorced
because his new FSU wife decided her perfect teenage son only had to mind her. The boy could
yell, threaten and ignore his new stepdad.

Make up scenarios, what if they burst into your room when you are having sex? What happens
to the child if you are both killed in a car wreck? Will the child attend church? pray? receive
religious instruction? Will future children/boys be circumcised? Will girls get their ears pierced?
will boys? blah, blah, blah x 5000

Talk through everything. Your GF/Future wife will want to talk about these things. They will see
you as a serious man for bringing up these things. Don't assume anything, do that at your peril!!!
No matter how much they love you, they will love the tiny humans that grew inside them for
9 months 100 times more than you.

My wife loves me so much that she loves her children ONLY 95 times more than me.