The breaking of commandment #6

[JR]

Oh yes, I remember seeing that now. Unfortunately they won't enlarge Thanks for the link!

MatryMan, (I like that whoever came up with the shortening of it:)) upon further reflection I wanted to add that you might casually inquire who she went on vacation with. If she says girl friends or family request some photos which include them. If there aren't any she was with another man. The photos should have the same basic compositions and backgrounds as the ones of her alone. People will do that, they'll take a photo of just them in front of a statue then one with all the girls.
That was the second thought that came to me when viewing the afore-mentioned photos I recieved today. She is sitting towards the front of a small boat with a Venise like background. My though was "Who took the picture?" Not that it matters, we've just exchanged a couple of emails. But it sounds like you're quite a bit farther down the road.
At the same time today I also recieved a letter with photo from another lady and her sister and mother are in it with her... It is rare that a woman goes on vacation alone. It does happen but it is rare.

Also I agree whole-heartedly with everyone else that you will have to sever ties with the ex if you get serious. Quickest way to lose her is to let her know you are "friends" with the ex.

Best to you and I hope it all goes smoothly.

[MatryoshkaMan]

Glad I made my TR pics so small as to keep Jollyrats off my ex! ha ha JR. You are a good guy so dont take offense. I have known her 10 years now and its still hard to look at her, she is a real stunner in person. I can't tell you how many whistles I have had to endure over the years even while in her company..but that is another story.

I do not have children from RW #1 - that was one of the big issues. I wanted she did not and still does not want and thinks it might happen "some day" for now she has a little dog which she really loves. Kids are in my plans for sure.

Yes I know RW#2 will not like me communicating with RW#1 so frequently but until we are engaged (if) then it is not an issue at all to me. My #1 does not even ask about her.

She even (get this classic RW screw-up) totally forgave me (about a month ago when I was on the keyboard blitz with a dozen or more women) when I sent a letter addressed to another woman   to her email box by mistake. Still have no idea how it happened!

She replied with something like "XXX you should be more careful but I understand!" and did not hold that little slip against me at all. By the way thank goodness my reply to this women who had written to me for the first time was very casual and light. Had it have been otherwise I would have been in deep shiet. In any case I dodged a bullet there.

She is more thana pretty face, don't believe me if you want but I am telling it how I see it. This woman goes into instant depression if she does not wake up and seemy text message waiting for her.

[Sculpto]

This woman goes into instant depression if she does not wake up and seemy text message waiting for her.

Two points on this one.. doesn't it seem odd that such a beautiful woman would be so gaga over something that is purely in the correspondence stage.. and two.. if it turns out nothing is odd about that, is she not exhibiting what might be considered very needy behavior?  Is that what you want?

[JR]

Glad I made my TR pics so small as to keep Jollyrats off my ex! ha ha JR. You are a good guy so dont take offense. I have known her 10 years now and its still hard to look at her, she is a real stunner in person. I can't tell you how many whistles I have had to endure over the years even while in her company..but that is another story.(((((Off her? what do you take me for, a little Chihuahua trying to hump her?)))) I always admired the attention my ex would get. I always thought, "I've got her and you can't have her!


Yes I know RW#2 will not like me communicating with RW#1 so frequently but until we are engaged (if) then it is not an issue at all to me. My #1 does not even ask about her. ((((((It doen't have to be an issue for you in order for it to be an issue for her, silly boy And if it's an issue for her it'll be an issue to you cuz you won't be gettin any "issue" if ya know what I mean;)))))))

She even (get this classic RW screw-up) totally forgave me (about a month ago when I was on the keyboard blitz with a dozen or more women) when I sent a letter addressed to another woman   to her email box by mistake. Still have no idea how it happened! (((((Been there, done that!!! More than once....I just don't learn some lessons easily, LOL. You know she only forgave you because she was making the same mistakes at the same time:)))))

She is more thana pretty face, don't believe me if you want but I am telling it how I see it. This woman goes into instant depression if she does not wake up and seemy text message waiting for her.((((So she is needy, clingly, moody and insecure....I C....)))))

[Sculpto]

convergence of thought

[JR]

convergence of thought

OK, that's just scary

[MatryoshkaMan]

Ok instanty depression is a bit too strong, lets just say that even a week into our correspondance she arrived at work (where she usually uses the computer) and fired me a message something like "I am not happy I come to work today and there is no message from you!" lol.

Oh on another point it is amazing to me that so many women that I have chatted with can sit at work for hour after hour blazing away on ICQ or Skype. I am always asking "are you sure this is OK? I don't want to get you into trouble!"

Back to the topic at hand. Maybe I am strange but I would much rather handle a women who was excessively clingly and needy than one who is distant or indifferent. I think its cute and endearing!!

To JR - Even just a bit ago I was walking with my ex downtown and we passed through a construction site on the sidewalk. Heads turned, toungues wagged, whistles emited. She has been dealing this with the entire time she has been here. I have heard a million amusing stories from her over the years. Seems like men who are around her just can't control themselves. She was an extra on a movie once and a very famous actor (who shall be unnamed) was hitting on her and glancing at her all night. After that her ego just grew and grew. I actually told her to go for him! lol.

[JR]

Dennis Quaid hit on mine. While he was married to Meg Ryan She used to drive down Ventura Blvd and men would throw their business cards thru the window at her. She would show them to me and I'd laugh! I always had the urge to call and taunt them but she wouldn't let me

Honestly, I'd prefer a confident, self assured woman. Hope yours turns out to be everything you could want and then some.

[MatryoshkaMan]

Oh we could swap stories then! For her it was Keanu Reeves! (so I broke my silence, sue me). One thing that was quite interesting she never gets a speeding ticket despite being pulled over several times. The blushing, shy cop just could not give her a ticket. What he would have liked to give her is some contact digits I am sure.

BUT!! and its a big one!! Looks are a double edged sword! I used to tell my ex I saw her as a classic AK-47..beautiful to look at, sexy curves, powerful but very dangerous in the wrong hands! And I guess I was the wrong set of hands! Actually I am lucky I still have hands when I come to think of it. And a head.

[Sculpto]

Keanu is an idiot.. dont ask me why or how i know.. freakin Dogstar.. blah

[Kuna]

You may well might. Take a peek :-)))

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=9774.msg189422#msg189422

Thanks for posting the link Simoni but it was a different pic I was commenting on.  I thought it was very strange for someone to post a pic of his ex-wife and giving a (very limited) bio of her - almost like an advert.

I'm not saying it's bad that he did this because it takes all types... but it's strange that a woman getting so much attention since marriage - and having lived in outside of the FSU for so long... would need an ex-husband offering her around on a site aimed at men marrying FSUW.

[Kuna]

I do not have children from RW #1 - that was one of the big issues. I wanted she did not and still does not want and thinks it might happen "some day" for now she has a little dog which she really loves. Kids are in my plans for sure.

MM...  you can take this with a grain of salt however here are some thoughts you might like to ponder during a less manic moment:

- You have ample youthful enthusiasm...  It appears to be a real sense of fun as opposed to others who are just self absorbed.  We saw it when you were frantically  telling stories of the (dozens) of women you were chatting to.  I know at the time some referred to this manic episode as sounding somewhat like a kid in a candy store.

- You were married for a long time... You want children (admirable in my books)... Your wife did not, and/or does not at the moment... but says she may want children at some point in the future???  If she is around the 30 mark I can assure you she has pondered the question seriously.  She either has a very serious career or she hasn't felt secure and/or stable enough to expand her family yet.

Have you ever considered her reluctance to have children could be associated with the perception you create of being a little immature???

Of course you shouldn't feel obliged to discuss the reasons behind your marriage breakdown but I know "serious" in my wifes eyes doesn't mean "no fun"... serious is more like "committed to important things".  Do you think you wife thought you were committed to important things?

I'd be very surprised if any woman approaching or at 30 didn't start seriously planning the things she needed to build her family.  It seems somewhat ingrained - not just in FSUW but in ALL women.

The only women I've ever known to actually reject the thought of having children were those unable to have them, or those that (for various reasons) left it too late to have them.

Physically able women will ALMOST ALWAYS want children... but most need to feel security to take the plunge.

Just a thought for you to consider.  It's fun to give the perception of being young and carefree - but some women need more.

[Gator]

Just a thought for you to consider.  It's fun to give the perception of being young and carefree - but some women need more.

Yes, financial security and family stability.  Who's to say that he does or does not provide such?  We don't know.

One would easily conclude that MM does not bore women and that is a huge plus.

[MatryoshkaMan]

A little about me, boring I am not. Life is an adventure and I live that every day. I have been an outdoor adventurer since I was a teen. Name the extreme sport I do it. Or did it and barely lived to tell about it lol! My latest noteworthy moment was this spring photographing a snowboarding contest and getting a little too close to the action (fish-eyes lenses will do that....) with the result being a broken leg and 5 days in the hospital. But that is another story...

I used to be a professional outdoor adventure photographer after I graduated university in the mid 1999's until I got married then I had to get a REAL job to pay he bills. Being a starving artist is a little hard to explain to a RW who has visions of a normal life in her mind..

Here is me this spring taking snowboarding photos:

And my last summer's vacation



So yes I have a real zest for life! I might be in my late 30's but don't feel a day over 29. RW is an adventure too! Just a different kind lol.

[JR]

I'm going to climb Mt. Whitney in Sept. I am excited about it

[MatryoshkaMan]

Only passed through the Sierras once when driving back to BC from Utah/Arizona/California. Want to get in there at least once to see that typically beautiful Sierra scenery that I have seen in photos so many times. Whitney is a tough one, good you are going in September. I have read that people have died there in mid summer from heat & fatigue. Up in BC here these are not problems we often run into. We have snow in the mountains as low as 5,000 feet well into July. Water is everywhere. Oh mountains what a great place.