Hello, I miss this --- THANK you for your responses on my other posts

[jamesbond]

First, I wanna thank for the numerous responses in the "starting out" . I decided not to post there anymore since someone said it's boring already. Though that experience still hurts because of my initial stupidity (I know I could have done better if I had employed a good negotiating skills to make the RW fall in love with me instead of my defeatist attitued when I confronted her). Anyway, I just need to vent out that's why I posted it. Some people call me stupid and idiot or aggressive idiot , but , in the end, I am still PROUD of myself for sensing it right away and and furthering it out . Remember I am the one who conforted the RW and ended the relationship since I realized she is not physically attracted to me. If I had followed the other who posted here  and who never had sex with the Ukrainian and still communicated for 1 year and sent $ 20,000---- I am glad I have the right instinct to correct an initial mistake. You know the song "Everybody plays a fool "  especially when it comes to love.

I still want to date some Russians since I am more experienced now and I lost a lot of weights. However, it doesn't make sense because I live in New York where all kinds of people are living here . I think it's more of like to satisfy my ego and to prove something...but I know to marry a Russian with my mostly Asian descent , it's gonna be difficult . I am a catholic and I realize that's it's gonna be difficult to marry a Russian who is non-religious. I don't wear religion on my sleeves but I want to be able to go to church every Sunday. I have 3 kids (all boys) and they are all attending religious class. I guess I am just gonna go Russia and date them without marrying them but who knows --- I am a "romantic fool " sometimes and when you are in love --- it could be blinding and foolish.

[BrightDawn]

I find the Russians sexy and pretty but not really fun to be with..... they are full of themselves. They lie a lot too to  impress. I don't mind about it.

You don't mind? Seriously?

I still want to date some Russians since I am more experienced now and I lost a lot of weights. However, it doesn't make sense because I live in New York where all kinds of people are living here . I think it's more of like to satisfy my ego and to prove something...but I know to marry a Russian with my mostly Asian descent , it's gonna be difficult .

I guess I am just gonna go Russia and date them without marrying them but who knows --- I am a "romantic fool " sometimes and when you are in love --- it could be blinding and foolish.

Honestly Jamesbond, I don't think you're thinking logically about this. I read your posts and wonder: "What is your motivation?"

Why in the world would you go 4500 miles to "date"? Just to satisfy your ego? That would make you a sex tourist. Given your catholic beliefs, I find this unusual.

The Philippines have many beautiful Catholic women looking for husbands...

[jamesbond]

BrightDawn, is that your real picture ? You are beautiful ! --- cross my heart !

[BrightDawn]

No, I'm a guy. She's a Russian model I wouldn't mind meeting 

[LAman]

JamesBond.....first the defeatist attitude and now you have a negative attitude.
These RW are intelligent and beautiful...they will read you like a book.
You make no sense.....seems you are going in lots of different directions.......
Take some time to figure what you really want....

[jamesbond]

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooops, i know Russian are intelligent and beautiful  --- I never said they are not . Actually, they are so clever... that I have to watch my back all the time . I had a defeatist attitude because she did offer to be initimate with me but , because I was drunk and hurt, I refused. I have both positive and negative attitude about them like they are intelligent, very clean, funny and of course beautiful . Well, the negatives -- they are lazy (my RW woke up at 11 am), skeptical and so careful (I am a go-getter, aggresive  in what I do and I take a lot of risks), no conscience or very little, ability to move on and never look back (she could divorce you immediately), very high pride (not good in relationship --- humility is good), and lot of scammers (evidence are the scammer site dedicated for Russians ).

[jamesbond]

BrightDawn, I just realized that after posting it...hahahahaha . ..that's funny !

[LAman]

Bond....James........ 

Every girl has their positives and negatives. Best to dwell on the positives. You sound like you are getting
ready for a train wreck.......any girl you are around will/can sense your attitude. have a great day.......

[jamesbond]

LAMAN, I tell you what , if I had dwelled on the positives, consequence would either more money you lost, you married and divorce (waste of time,money, emotion). It's SMART to look at  both ways .... this is what we call  "managing risks " --- my friend. I made mistake initially ; I corrected it and now I am watching my back, what's wrong with it, my friend .

[BrightDawn]

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooops, i know Russian are intelligent and beautiful  --- I never said they are not . Actually, they are so clever... that I have to watch my back all the time . I had a defeatist attitude because she did offer to be initimate with me but , because I was drunk and hurt, I refused. I have both positive and negative attitude about them like they are intelligent, very clean, funny and of course beautiful . Well, the negatives -- they are lazy (my RW woke up at 11 am), skeptical and so careful (I am a go-getter, aggresive  in what I do and I take a lot of risks), no conscience or very little, ability to move on and never look back (she could divorce you immediately), very high pride (not good in relationship --- humility is good), and lot of scammers (evidence are the scammer site dedicated for Russians ).

JB, you're just further confirming my doubts.

You've dated how many women from the FSU? One? And she is now the "model" FSU woman in your mind? You make sweeping general statements about these women.

1. Lazy - your lady was on vacation. Did you stay up til all hours of the night partying? These women are far from lazy. The vast majority work very very hard. To call them lazy is just plain insulting.

2. skeptical and so careful - I think they can see through BS and they sure don't tolerate it. I think this is a strength not a negative. They're so careful that they've decided to look beyond the borders of their country to find a husband. If you think these women should not be careful and skeptical in this pursuit, think again. How many men do you think write these women and never follow through? Or arrive just to use them? You yourself are skeptical and you think they should be what?

3. No conscience - grrrr, insulting and untrue.

4. high pride - OK maybe, but I'm not going to agree this is a negative. It's just something you have to be able to handle. If you can't, you best look elsewhere (again, Asian women might be more suitable to your preferences in this regard.)

5. Scammers - Many of these scammers are not women, they are men. Yes, you have to watch out for scammers, but if you hold the attitude that these women are "scammers" you're just going to screw-up things when you've got a nice lady writing you.

Really, I think this is not for you. Your attitudes are not conducive to success in this difficult endeavor. Are you a masochist?

[LAman]

"I corrected it and now I am watching my back, what's wrong with it, my friend ."

Nothing wrong with watching your back, my friend.
I told you to dwell on the positives.............not to ignore any negatives.

[LAman]

Bright Dawn....

  =Your killing me with that picture!!!

[jamesbond]

"Lazy " opinion originated from her. "No Conscience " --- got it from my experience and from reading some posts...you are not Russian. I think you are happily married to a Russian . I don't expect you to understand it. Scammer ...yeah, some are men , if you look at the scammer site , the victims got it from RW. Why ignore reality ?

Why Asians ? I don't mind Asians -- but it depends on my state of thinking . There was a time  I like Asians, there was a time I like Americans, there was a time I like blacks, there was a time I like Swiss , now I am bit challenged with Russians --- maybe because nothing good happened . There is something in me I need to prove. But, I am not interested to marry a Russian....I just wanna date them. Nothing wrong with it, I am newly divorced and I just want to have fun. I already have 3 beautiful kids ... no need to rush. Train Wreck...I don't think so..I might be stupid initially but I have self-awareness and the the will to correct mistake.

[UTRO]

Jamesbond, are you for real? I for one don't believe your story and think you are a waste of time.

[NJ]

I guess I am just gonna go Russia and date them without marrying them but who knows

I don't think many women post their profiles to international dating sites just to have some foreigners come to them, date them a bit and leave. Please make sure before meeting a woman that she knows that marriage is not your intention, at least now.  This will be fair. But I suggest you should gether your thoughts and feelings together first and decide, what you really want. Then neither you, nor anyone else will get hurt.

BrightDawn
 
 

[Ade]

Some people call me stupid and idiot or aggressive idiot ,

Yes, after reading more of your posts I'd say my original assessment was pretty much spot on.

[I/O]

I was drunk

Methinks the problem lingers.

[RussianWind]

I think there will be less blood if you leave Russians alone now.

I will tell you a scenario of your future. Sooner or later you will find yourself in a gallery among sex tourists. As Google likes to index this gallery very much, no any woman (doesn't matter Russian or Swiss or Phillipinian) will want to have any relations with you. Your option will be a latex doll. Good luck 

[Turboguy]

Methinks the problem lingers.

007 would make the world a better place by staying drunk more and thinking about RW less.

[Shadow]

If you really want to have a chance with RW, its time to clean up your act.
First of all, not matter how much money you spend, it will not entitle you to anything. Not with a RW, not with others. As for your experience, if you had not figured it out you would have been a fool. Now you are one level lower. 

How to proceed ? First of all get in a state of mind where you make up your mind about wanting to get married or nor. If you just want to date, enough FSUW in NY and surroundings to date, no need to fly the distance and make women there think you might be a serious man.
Once you are serious, find one, or more depending on your nature, that you have a good contact with and might be a prospective wife. Do not flash your wallet, stop drinking and get your temper under contol. For a woman to follow you to a strange country and language you need to offer something, and a drunk agressive idiot she can find at home.

Get your passport in order, get some free time knowing you nmight need more.
Do not count what money to spend, but do not spend it unwisely.

[tfcrew]

I know I could have done better if I had employed a good negotiating skills to make the RW fall in love with me instead of my defeatist attitued when I confronted her
 

One really cannot do that. To be petentious...something they are not.
If all is not made to order already..it can't be re-made.
Best to wear the 'shoes that fit best' IMO

Karl

[ScottinCrimea]

So one RW hurt your ego and now you want to exact revenge on all RW in general in the form of a "love them and leave them" approach.

Certainly not the thoughts of a real man and certainly not the type of attitude that would be attractive to any female.

I ceertaily hope this is the alcohol speaking and not your thoughts in a sober state.

[greg2654]

                    
                "I am newly divorced"

This, I believe, tells the story. I'll bet you went through a nasty divorce and now you're somewhere between anger and self pity. I was there myself. I didn't want to go back to what I had but I wanted to move into something new and everything I touched turned into crap.

Stop looking for your answer outside of yourself. Forget the women for a while. Reconnect with JamesBond and spend time with yourself and your kids. Once you have a good relationship with yourself then you can relate better to any woman. You have too much emotional baggage.

I'm trying to talk to you like a brother. I feel for you but I think you need to take a break.