Someone please teach me!
Several people here mentioned wading through scammers and lunatics or otherwise having bad experiences using mamba.ru. I’d like to know more. In another thread, groovlstk says agencies and sites are just tools. I absolutely agree, except that there is no right tool for the job here. Instead of arguing about what tool is best or what tool worked for you, it’s more helpful to know how to use each tool to get the best results.
I recommend mamba.ru. I found it a very easy way to meet nice girls. It’s been the same for several guys I know. If others are having really bad experiences I’d like to learn what they are doing wrong or different that is getting them different and bad results.
Here goes my experience.
I was listed on mamba for over a year.
Some hookers were listed, but their photos were outlined in pink so I just ignored them (ok maybe I peeked at a few). There were girls seeking sponsors or just sex but they were easy to avoid. These profiles take up a very small percentage but they do tend to show up first.
Most of the women I met I contacted first. 3 contacted me first. Most were 5-10 years younger than me. I think the youngest I met was 17 years younger than me.
I was selective regarding looks, but I think my tastes differ from a lot of men. I’m not attracted to porn star Pamela Anderson types or girls with real super model looks. To get a better idea, if you look on bride.ru right now (first 20 profiles starting with 829186, if the page changes), based solely on looks I’d write to #3, #5, #7, #15 and maybe #6 (not my typical type, but she looks friendly).
I didn’t write to any woman with lingerie photos or showing off her titties.
On mamba you can see when a person was last active. I contacted mostly women currently active on the site. I did contact some that weren’t active for a while, but most of these never got my message.
I looked specifically for women that spoke some English.
I ignored most of the women that contacted me first. They just weren’t for me.
I was listed as being from Novosibirsk. This might be a key to avoiding scams? I can see how this would affect what type of women that contacted me first and it certainly helped me line up dates, but it shouldn’t have had an effect on the type or quality of women that I contacted.
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I received a few spam ad emails with links to other sites over the course of the year, maybe 3 or 4.
I didn’t encounter any scams.
I didn’t encounter any nutcases or lunatics.
Most of the women I met through Elena’s Models or bride.ru were also listed on mamba.
All of the women I met were very nice and will probably be good wives to someone who matches them. I still chat to a few of them every now and then. Good girls!
Most of the women I met had decent jobs and could probably visit the US as tourists. I met 4 women who actually had come to the US already and had active tourist visas. Another introduced me to her sister and her sister’s friend who both came to the US this summer.
Most of the women I met were comfortable enough to give me their phone number and set up a date after one or two quick chats.
My worst experience: I set up an afternoon drink date and I was surprised to find a wavy haired blonde instead of a straight haired brunette waiting for me. She looked great, but nothing like her photos. I asked her about her art (her profession in her profile) and she shyly admitted she was actually a nurse. I hinted that she didn’t look like her photos and she giggled. The photos were of some other girl. The truth is she was in an unhappy marriage and discreetly looking for some fun and possibly someone she could leave her husband to be with. She was actually a cool girl, but I didn’t take her up her offer. This was my only shady encounter, and if I hadn’t already been in Russia she would have never written to me.
My most fun experience: One night after dinner and drinks with a very cool girl my date headed home, and so did I. I was feeling good, a bit buzzed and in no mood to hit the sack, so I stopped into a night club on my way home. I grab a beer and after about 10 minutes a tall, sexy blonde is looking over at me and smiling. She waves me over. I shake my head and wave her over. She comes up to me and her first words are “Jooky, it’s nice to see you”. My jaw dropped. I’d never seen this girl in my life. It turns out she had recognized me from my profile photo on mamba! I felt famous for a minute. Ha ha. We ended up clicking real well and hanging out until 5 or 6 in the morning that night.
I found it incredibly easy to meet nice, intelligent, interesting women on mamba. Overall, this was the best dating experience I’ve had by far. Other sites I’ve used to meet women in the past include match.com, kiss.com, AOL personals, yahoo personals, e-harmony, lucky lovers, bride.ru, freepersonals.ru, AFA and Elena’s models.
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Some tips for using the mamba tool:
Search for women looking for marriage (it’s in the basic search engine).
Don’t bother with pink outlined profiles, women in just their panties or women listed as looking for woman on woman or couples action. (Unless that’s your type of thing).
Spend a few bucks and use the advanced search engine to filter to easily sort out undesirable profiles.
Don’t look out of your league (in other words women that you wouldn’t normally get a date with back home).
If you get a message from a woman that hasn’t looked at your profile, ignore it.
If you’re planning to visit a specific town (as you would using a small agency) list yourself as being from that town.
Look for women currently online and send them a short instant chat message.
Look for women that speak English and other languages. They are more likely to be educated, have a good job, be able to come to the US as tourists and already have traveled to the US or Europe.
And always, use common sense.
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I’d like to hear specifics on other men’s experiences.
If you were getting inundated with scammers, were they writing to you first?
What type of bad experiences did you have?
Were you just not generating enough interest? (This could be very different for me as I write from Russia).
I’ve done my duty, let’s hear from the rest of you!
