Doesn't it figure !?!

[rjd400]

Okay, against my own better judgment  I'm continuing to correspond with this one gal.  It's against my own better judgment because I had set my own "parameters" that I wouldn't bother to correspond with anyone that 1- was more than 10 years my junior, 2- didn't have a good command of English and/or 3- lived in the "less traveled" places (ie. not from a better known place like the Ukraine or Russia).

She was someone I had a "first contact" with prior to this, and I figured the correspondence would fizzle after a bit like it does most of the time...unfortunately (?), we've gotten to know each other better and better and I wouldn't feel right just ending it for no good reason now.

Too funny, right?

[SMS60]

Forward me her contact information and I will tell her that you cant proceed with the correspondence.

Better to nip it now instead of later.

 

[ECOCKS]

The rules are yours, you're the one to decide if they are worth breaking in this instance.

Best of Luck!

[greg2654]

The biggest lies out there are the ones we tell ourselves.

[Faux Pas]

In the very early stages of me experimenting and actually before I had set any parameters, I too was communicating with a woman 15 years my junior. She had zero English and was well off what I considered the beaten path. I thought her sincere and a very wonderful woman. She was 28 at the time. I couldn't overcome the difference in age but, I suspect she found someone and made them an excellent wife

[JR]

Lemme git dis strate. U liek her, she Liek U. Yes, you should definately not correspond anymore. God forbid you find someone you actually like and puts forth an effort to communicate with you.

Silly boy...don't you know rules are meant to be broken?

[RussianWind]

He just can't believe in his hapiness 

[Gator]

It's against my own better judgment because I had set my own "parameters" that I wouldn't bother to correspond with anyone that 1- was more than 10 years my junior, 2- didn't have a good command of English and/or 3- lived in the "less traveled" places (ie. not from a better known place like the Ukraine or Russia).

Those are excellent rules. 

Another excellent rule is the 6th commandment, which it seems you are violating.
http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?pid=2

[rjd400]

Those are excellent rules. 

Another excellent rule is the 6th commandment, which it seems you are violating.
http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?pid=2

Gator, that's actually not the case.  While she is very attractive, she's not one of those "too perfect model" looking FSUW.  In other words, if she was an AW, even with the age difference, I'd think I'd have "a shot".  Of course maybe I'm deluding myself in that a girl her age in the US might see dating a guy my age as "creepy" LOL.  If she was so much younger AND "too perfect model attractive" I would assume it's a scam...(Why do I have a sneaking suspicion that me just saying she's not "too perfect model attractive" is going to come back to haunt me years from now!    I can just see it...happily married here in the US for 5 years, surfing the web...and she comes across this thread..."what did you mean I'm not "model attractive"!!!!").

Of course I'm going to continue to correspond with her.  One thing I like is that about 1/3 of the pics she's sent me are with family (mom, step dad, brother and sister (who look a lot like her), niece).  While this is no guarantee of her being on the level, it makes me feel a little better about her sincerity. 

On a good note, she's started taking English lessons 3x a week (2 hours each...which I think it a lot) and she sounds motivated (ahhh, youth) so I'm hoping the language barrier will start to become less of an issue.

She's from Uzbekistan, and at first that was a concern for me.  I've done some traveling around the world, but to (for an American) more well known locales (Greece, Japan, etc).  But what can you do if you find a person you click with in some other place right?

The age thing...this is the big issue and, well, we'll have to wait and see.  I don't doubt her sincerity (in saying that my age isn't an issue.  I am in pretty decent shape for my age), but I do realize that all people go through significant changes in their 20's and 30's, and she may feel quite differently in 5 or 10 years...

What the heck, I have a pen pal I enjoy writing to.  If more transpires, so be it...might be cool to see an "exotic" (by my standards) place...

[Faux Pas]

The age thing...this is the big issue and, well, we'll have to wait and see.  I don't doubt her sincerity (in saying that my age isn't an issue.  I am in pretty decent shape for my age), but I do realize that all people go through significant changes in their 20's and 30's, and she may feel quite differently in 5 or 10 years...

What the heck, I have a pen pal I enjoy writing to.  If more transpires, so be it...might be cool to see an "exotic" (by my standards) place...

Hammer meet nail. She may be very a sincere woman now and right on through marriage but, with the large age gap you should question how long she and you can keep it up (pun intended). It would seem to me a natural occurrence for any man or woman in a large age gap marriage to question later such a relationship in terms of fulfilment.  What is a mere 15 years when she is 28 could seem like 25 years by the time she reaches 40 and you are 55. The younger she is at the time of marriage, likely the larger the gap might seem to her in later years. Just a thought.

Honestly here rjd400, I found very few looking for penpals and I have never been but from my wife's description Uzbek is far from an exotic place FWIW

[rjd400]

Hammer meet nail. She may be very a sincere woman now and right on through marriage but, with the large age gap you should question how long she and you can keep it up (pun intended). It would seem to me a natural occurrence for any man or woman in a large age gap marriage to question later such a relationship in terms of fulfilment.  What is a mere 15 years when she is 28 could seem like 25 years by the time she reaches 40 and you are 55. The younger she is at the time of marriage, likely the larger the gap might seem to her in later years. Just a thought.

Honestly here rjd400, I found very few looking for penpals and I have never been but from my wife's description Uzbek is far from an exotic place FWIW

Thanks FP,
I'm with you on the age thing.  That's what's making me apprehensive.  But I'm going to let this one play out, and see what happens.  Wouldn't seek out someone with this large of an age gap normally...
By "exotic" I didn't mean in a "cool tourist spot" why, I mean rather, someplace that you'd be hard pressed to find someone locally who's been there.  I work with a pretty unique mix of people here in NYC, and no one in my office has been to Uzbekistan, or even close.

[Faux Pas]

Thanks FP,
I'm with you on the age thing.  That's what's making me apprehensive.  But I'm going to let this one play out, and see what happens.  Wouldn't seek out someone with this large of an age gap normally...
By "exotic" I didn't mean in a "cool tourist spot" why, I mean rather, someplace that you'd be hard pressed to find someone locally who's been there.  I work with a pretty unique mix of people here in NYC, and no one in my office has been to Uzbekistan, or even close.

From my wife's description it is a mix of the old American West on mescalin and present day Beirut. Islamic culture with much ignored.

[BillyB]

One thing I like is that about 1/3 of the pics she's sent me are with family (mom, step dad, brother and sister (who look a lot like her), niece).  While this is no guarantee of her being on the level, it makes me feel a little better about her sincerity.  

It's a very good sign if she's sharing lots of family photos with you.

She's from Uzbekistan, and at first that was a concern for me.   But what can you do if you find a person you click with in some other place right?

Doesn't matter where in the World she is as long as she's a winner, go for it. I'd also say the average woman in Uzbekistan, including Russians, compared to Ukraine or Russia has a different mentality when it comes to marriage. The divorce rate there is way less compared to Western FSU nations.