Women Over 30: An Observation

[XMan]

I was reading another thread, started to post a reply, then thought better of it, as it didn't entirely fit with the theme.  So, creating a new topic instead. 

Generally a woman over 30 is just a better idea (IMO, concerning FSU or elsewhere). 

Generalizations (always risky):

1) They are usually more mature and have a better idea as to what they want, and what is really important to them. 

2) For FSU women, they do not have a starry-eyed, romanticized idea of how wonderful life in the USA (or elsewhere, like Patagonia, or Finland) would be. 

3) Again for FSU women, they have had some experiences (frequently bad to worse to ultra-bad) that made them decide that the sacrifices they would make (leaving friends, family, country) might be worth it if they can find a decent, respectable, caring man.  (Seriously, how many times have you experienced gentlemen heard something akin to "he lied, cheated, stole money from me, drank too much, ignored his family responsibilities, kicked my dog, ran over my grandmother" etc.?)  For myself, I had my own version of ultra-bad experience, so I could relate. 

Frankly, finding an intelligent, attractive woman with a sense of humor is no easy task regardless of age or location.  But at least searching outside one's country creates an adventure (which can easily be good or bad or a mix thereof). 

That having been said, my experience has been largely negative.  In fact, I wonder why I continued to search as long as I did.  At this juncture, I am hopeful for the first time in a long time, but there is certainly no guarantee, and there is a broad array of poignant disappointments. 

Sidebar:
The cost of searching (financially, but many other costs as well) is nothing to be scoffed at. 
Interestingly, before I began this process, I tried a variety of other things.  E-Harmony (which may work if one lives in an area with a large population, which therefore increases the odds), Match.com (laughably bad), Yahoo match (even worse, IMO), etc.  The latter two are good vehicles for meeting unstable societal rejects, if that is one's end goal.  There is a certain entertainment factor with those sites, I cannot deny that.  (As I always say, that was my experience, and your mileage may vary.)

There are matchmaking companies as well that focus on professionals (no, not hookers -- the usual -- doctors, lawyers, businessmen / businesswomen, etc.).  The cost for that?  $15,000-$20,000. 

So, if one is frustrated beyond measure, one might consider looking outside one's own country.  I think that drives some men, just as much as the "hotties" everyone refers to with such regularity drives men to search there. 

[JR]

Nope, it's just the hotties. Everyting else is justification

[ECOCKS]

Yeah, women over 30, when screened properly, are a better bet.

I'm looking at a $3,000-$4,000 service that increases the odds but still looking at the marketing implcations. I'd be happy to hear from some guys who are serious in their search and recognize that repeated failures are more expensive than doing it correctly. Never enough time to do it right, but always enough time (and money) to do it over.

[Kuna]

I'm glad you said generalisations are always risky...

Generally, I find generalisations to be most often wrong.

Frankly, finding an intelligent, attractive woman with a sense of humor is no easy task regardless of age or location.  But at least searching outside one's country creates an adventure (which can easily be good or bad or a mix thereof). 

Talking of generallisations here is some for you...

Generally,  you are probably going to find women in FSU that are very similar to the women at home except:

- The are generally more superstitious;

- The generally have to work harder to get simple luxuries, so they generally will look after them better than women at home who are paid well and protected by Industrial Relations laws

- Generally, they will be thinner than the porkers at home because they are less likely to own cars and more likely to walk places...



Re: your long search...  DOn't give up... instead adjust your criteria.  If you have unrealistic expectations,  generally your search will be much more difficult and risky than someone who is more grounded. 

Kuna

[kievstar]

Women over 30 maybe a good option if you want to have 2 or less kids with her.  But if she is already 35 years old kids maybe out of the question.

I still think the best market is 27 to 30 if you want children.  Go 40 and over if you do not want kids.

Playing around with women 26 and younger and women who have not had kids younger than 40 will be trouble if you do not want kids.  There are always exceptions but why gamble. Women under 26 are going to change and will they change with you.