Dating a Russian woman in UK with a much higher income

[EnglishChap]

I earn just enough to pay the rent, bills and maintenance for my daughter plus a few nights out at the weekend. I recently met a Russian woman who works for a multinational here in the UK and need to know whether she is likely to have the apparently common Russian woman's expecatation that the guy pays for everything? I have strong views on relationships turning into business transactions so much hangs on this. That's not to say that I don't value buying a woman gifts occasionally and sometimes paying for everything. I just don't want to get into a relationship where it's expected, all the time.

[Steamer]

I earn just enough to pay the rent, bills and maintenance for my daughter plus a few nights out at the weekend. I recently met a Russian woman who works for a multinational here in the UK and need to know whether she is likely to have the apparently common Russian woman's expecatation that the guy pays for everything?

I think you can pretty much bank on it, especially when you first start dating. After you've dated for a while and you know each other fairly well it may be different.

[Gator]

You need to be yourself.  If she expects you to pay, and you do not want to pay, then walk.  More than likely she will walk when she learns of the disparity.
 
Do not be like one of my golf friends who pursued a wealthy AW.  They cohabitated at her not so modest home.  He went "all in" (poker term) to secure the relationship.   He spent his life savings to stay up with her (golf trips to Hawaii).  Meanwhile the economic downturn had taken his job.   She discovered his situation, and the next day he received an email while at work: 
 

Your belongings have been packed in boxes and are in storage at Allied Movers.  I have paid for delivery to any location of your choice.  I have booked a room for you at the Hyatt for 14 days.  Do not call me.

Ouch.  A big penis evidently was not good enough.   

[Jooky]

I recently met a Russian woman who works for a multinational here in the UK and need to know whether she is likely to have the apparently common Russian woman's expecatation that the guy pays for everything?

You need to find this out for yourself, from her.
 
I've dated Russian women that were well off or that spent time working or studying overseas (in the US or Europe). None of these women had the expectations that I should pay for everything.
 
However, this is an individual case, so ask her directly what she expects or just date her and I totally agree with this:
 

You need to be yourself. If she expects you to pay, and you do not want to pay, then walk.

[Misha]

You pay, but you also choose. Bring her to the type of restaurant you go to, invite her to your place for a home cooked meal. If she is not satisfied with you as you are move on. Gator is right, you have to be you.

[Ranetka]

You pay, but you also choose. Bring her to the type of restaurant you go to, invite her to your place for a home cooked meal. If she is not satisfied with you as you are move on. Gator is right, you have to be you.

Exactly. Russian way (Eastern way) is man chooses, man pays. If she asks for places or activities she will most likely be prepared to split the bill.
 
 In any way her attitude has likely been changed after living in the UK for a while.

[BC]

Depending on how long she has been in the UK, she may know the 'lay of the land' and not be too worried about financial status.

May I ask how you met?

[Manny]

Depending on how long she has been in the UK, she may know the 'lay of the land' and not be too worried about financial status.

Unattached Russian women in the UK generally do not seek impecunious fellows who seek to go Dutch or evade paying. Most especially if they are resident in the Greater Londongrad area.

What part of the UK do you hail from EnglishChap?

[I/O]

I earn just enough to pay the rent, bills and maintenance for my daughter plus a few nights out at the weekend.

You're toast.

[ML]

If she asks for places or activities she will most likely be prepared to split the bill.

I seriously doubt this.

[acctBill]

EnglishChap my wife and I lived in London for more than 15 years and knew a great many Russians, some quite rich.  Her attitude to your financial status will depend on a number of things.  Are you in a profession such as medicine and just starting out?  Are you just starting a business and need all the cash to be reinvested in the business for it to succeed?  These are ventures a RW would understand the need for a meager lifestyle in the beginning.

Another way of understanding her financial lifestyle is to see how she spends her money.  Is she driving moderately priced car or a luxury car or does she take public transit?  Does she wear only designer clothes or does she shop for bargains?  Where does she live, in an expensive neighbourhood or in a moderately priced neighbourhood? 

If she's smart and you've talked several times she will already know something about your financial status.  For example, are you wearing expensive clothes?  What about your watch?  Your haircut and other grooming?  It easy enough to tell how a person spends his/her money just looking at their clothes and general appearance. 

[Lily]

For my part, I like what acctBill wrote above. Makes sense.

On a different note, what came to my mind first was - are you sure that you are namely dating, not just being a companion for that woman? I witnessed a number of situations where a man thought that they are dating, while the woman though that they are just friends and companions. Are you sure that she feels special towards you?

A RW who works in a multinational in London would in many day-to-day aspects probably be just like your next AW, or any woman of her level in the world. Listen to what Gator said, he is right IMO

[BillyB]

 

I earn just enough to pay the rent, bills and maintenance for my daughter plus a few nights out at the weekend. I recently met a Russian woman who works for a multinational here in the UK and need to know whether she is likely to have the apparently common Russian woman's expecatation that the guy pays for everything? I have strong views on relationships turning into business transactions so much hangs on this. That's not to say that I don't value buying a woman gifts occasionally and sometimes paying for everything. I just don't want to get into a relationship where it's expected, all the time.

You're falling apart. You dated her a few times and you're wondering if she wants you to pay for everything? Well...after a few dates, what is the answer? What did you do on those dates? What is the cost? Does she know your financial situation? Go out with her some more and tell her how your life operates. Communicate. She will decide if she can accept your life.
 
I dated some professional women. Average meal cost $30 for both of us and I invited them to a nice park for entertainment. If a woman likes you, she will enjoy being with you even if the entertainment is free. There are some fine qualities a man can possess that money can't buy. Smart women understand this. Do you have these fine qualities? You seem to worry more about what you don't possess more than what you do possess.
 

Exactly. Russian way (Eastern way) is man chooses, man pays. If she asks for places or activities she will most likely be prepared to split the bill.
 
 In any way her attitude has likely been changed after living in the UK for a while.

 A few RW told me they'd be willing to split the bill. I always pay even if they recommended the restaurant. A man should not go out with a woman unless he can afford the date. One RW told me some men she dated did take her up on her offer and split the bill. One guy tried to make sure it was 50/50 that he made sure it was split evenly right down to the last penny. Those guys don't get a second date with her.
 
I've had a dew dates where the woman invited me out and was paying the bill. I still would insist on paying unless it was on my birthday.

[mies]

A few RW told me they'd be willing to split the bill. I always pay even if they recommended the restaurant. A man should not go out with a woman unless he can afford the date. One RW told me some men she dated did take her up on her offer and split the bill. One guy tried to make sure it was 50/50 that he made sure it was split evenly right down to the last penny. Those guys don't get a second date with her.
 
I've had a dew dates where the woman invited me out and was paying the bill. I still would insist on paying unless it was on my birthday.

I agree with Billy.

[JR]

I earn just enough to pay the rent, bills and maintenance for my daughter plus a few nights out at the weekend. I recently met a Russian woman who works for a multinational here in the UK and need to know whether she is likely to have the apparently common Russian woman's expecatation that the guy pays for everything? I have strong views on relationships turning into business transactions so much hangs on this. That's not to say that I don't value buying a woman gifts occasionally and sometimes paying for everything. I just don't want to get into a relationship where it's expected, all the time.

How about you go out and find out if you like each other? Maybe go from there)))