Boredom

[BC]

Funny, I have had several guys tell me this. But yes, kids will eventually occupy our time. As soon as we are both sure neither of us eats crackers in bed we will nail this one down 

Be careful what you pray for....

1. A bunch of medical visits and bills (if you don't live in a socialized country).
2. If no licence and car, being a taxi driver 24/7 to get to all those OBGYN appointments and birth classes.
3. Baby room decoration and furniture - a minor 'bundle' of cash.
4. Stress due to the above.
5. Running around town trying to find strawberries in the middle of the night.
6. Progressively less sex as the due date gets closer.
7. Tears when your child is born, a plus.
8. Post partum depression and recovery for both partners. Possible therapy sessions and cost involved (If you don't live in a socialized country)
9. Loosing your spot as Nr. 1 in the house
10. If other children present, sibling rivalry problems.
11. After all the above, thinking about saving for college / university on top of the costs already incurred (if you don't live in a socialized country)
12. If early on, risks of things eventually going sour with a child involved.

Not saying it isn't the right path forward, but make damned sure you are cognizant and up to the task at hand.

Calculating backwards.. we had one 'on the way' within two weeks of her arrival here.  LOL

[Jumper]

Calculating backwards.. we had one 'on the way' within two weeks of her arrival here.  LOL

I hear that doctors know what causes that now.
boredom relief wasn't an issue obviously .. lol
 

 

[BC]

I hear that doctors know what causes that now.
boredom relief wasn't an issue obviously .. lol
 

Oh yeah... Pegged it again Jumper...

Your turn now!

[Faux Pas]

Funny, I have had several guys tell me this. But yes, kids will eventually occupy our time. As soon as we are both sure neither of us eats crackers in bed we will nail this one down 

Did not even think of all the time the wedding planning will consume...

Good input by all, I appreciate the feedback.

Probably the first 2 months after we were married was cleaning (my previous, then our) house. I thought, I had did a good job prior to her arrival but apparently was mistaken. Floors, walls, ceilings, drapes, cabinets, you name it. Luckily, I was relocating and buying a new house or we would have gotten serious on the decor. Instead, that was save for the new digs.


We bought her a bicycle within the first couple of weeks. Teaching her to ride it came next and a whole 'nother story. Anyway, she quickly learned and was mobile but only for exercise. The taxi runs for everything under the sun was a daily occurrence. It took sometime and patience to relay that a daily trip to the grocery store wasn't necessary.


I never intervened in trying to help her progress socially or make friends. She never shunned FSUP but, because they were FSU wasn't any reason in her mind to think she had something in common with them. She was well adapt to picking and choosing her own friends and I let her with little to no direction. IMO, to do so would be a mistake.


The "wait time" you are experiencing now allows your mind to wander and imagine all sort of silly things. Don't sweat it. When she arrives continue to work on the relationship, give her the freedom to be herself and take seriously what she relays as her needs, whether she voices them or not.

[I/O]

Funny, I have had several guys tell me this. But yes, kids will eventually occupy our time.

There's more in it than many care to admit. 

[BC]

There's more in it than many care to admit. 

Fill time, empty wallet??

[I/O]

Fill time, empty wallet??

That too.
 
My point was and is, although many don't think it so, early in the time stateside isn't such a bad time for kids, language develops, social awareness, medical system awareness, part time education can be pursued and so forth. Later, as kids go to school, she's settled, aware and employable. Most of us try to do it the other way around but...........just sayin' what Mrs and I are sayin'.